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Living in the Light

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…..if the universe responds with creating the things where you put your attention then is it better to point out what is wrong in the world or to point out what is right?

Is it Pollyanna to attend only to the positive?  the light?…..

The challenge is that you are spirit-humans, anchored to the third dimensional earth plane with duality and limited time, AND corded to the unlimited quality of instant creation through attention, intention, thought, word, and action.  Standing one foot in each zone….or plane…. or dimension…

….identifying what needs changing is necessary, it clarifies;

…holding the attention and tending to what you want and seeing that completed, changed, and present in the now is essential for living in the light and upleveling consciousness.

These are challenging, interesting, beautiful times… embrace each perfect moment and link these together to see your world perfectly enlightened.

As I encourage the upleveling of  consciousness, I ponder the concept of duality and unity.  How might shifting from duality to unity appear or present itself in my everyday world and environment.  What might I experience within myself?  How might I look, sound, and be? What might I reflect?

Duality feels right/ wrong, good/bad, or light versus dark separating out along continua of opposites.  Unity feels all encompassing, embracing, holistic, and inclusive; whorls or inclusive wholes.

When I align with the strength of living in the light, my presence is joyful, happy, and offers the aura of fulfillment.  I radiate  a sense of peace.  I observe others drawn to me and the light opening hearts to increase internal joy.

Living in the light and shining in this way brings to me even more of that enlightened power and inner strength.

What I notice is that this is simple and easy, like breathing when all is peaceful and light around me.  When I am faced with a fear-promoting situation, negativity or an experience of attack from without my capacity to remain in the light is challenged.

I reactively shift into the habit of vigilance, thinking, analysis, defense as a protective response.  But when I lower my energy to that of mind alone I feel myself isolated and disconnected – fear immediately surrounds me…lowering, my vibration.  This disconnection and heaviness feels deficient of light.

When I am living in the light and responding with my internal sensory guidance system I immediately notice the shift and can apply my mindful focus on how I have changed and what preceded the shift to address what has triggered my defensive reaction.  Once aware of the event I can reset my place in the light.

This issue of duality feels like a software upload, in order to shift into unity the software in my thinking and action relationship has to be updated to include mindfulness.  So even writing about my experience of moving from duality to unity is dualistic… from negativity to positivity.

Utilizing the element of fear or judgment to encourage the upleveling of consciousness is a mistaken action.  It pulls on the precise element of duality that you are trying to uplevel, and so creates a type of wobble in your consciousness.

Being joyful, secure, inviting and compassionate uses the action of love to encourage enlightenment.

Gandhi said:  Be the change you wish to see in the world.  He was encouraging embracing the responsibility for change personally in order to shift the culture or environment one being at a time.

Stephen Covey: Wrote (in the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) that in order to create change in your own relationships you should change have to be… so that what you wanted to have in your relationship you needed to be in your interacting style, first.

I realize that if I want to encourage living in the light I need to live in the light and telegraph that light through all my senses so that simply being in my presence another might feel the light and shift within him or her self.

In order for the consciousness of beings on the planet to change those leading the way must change have to be, and be the change of enlightenment.

Living in the light is living in compassion, lovingkindness, and forgiveness, with the attitude of gratitude.  Shifting perspective to see the positive in the darkest places to bring light to each; to see the flow between and the whorl of both together so that my and your experience of light can shift consciousness to make mindful, collaborative, connecting healing choices.

Practice these steps to get into, remain, and live in the light of compassion, mindfulness, lovingkindness, forgiveness, and grace:

let your light shine

  • wake each day with a focus on what is working in your world, and what you desire to experience
  • change have to be: act in the way you desire others to be, and stand in the center of that action with integrity, and truth
  • Feel, see, visualize, and be grateful for how your desires are present in the now
  • use Verbal aikido  to deflect, deflate, and define (reset or redefine) negativity and experience of duality into unity.
  • remove fight from your vocabulary, release defensiveness; replace fight and defense with an earnest interest in understanding, clarity, and collaboration
  • seek connection, listen to your sensory guidance system, embrace flow

These six steps will return you to balance, increase your awareness, understanding, compassion and experience of unity, and allow the immediate and rejuvenating uplevel of consciousness your soul desires.  Change your attitude, Heal your Soul, Balance your Life. In love and light, bg


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III: Balance your life, Nourish your Body, Connect to your Community

Hello and Welcome!  This is third in a series of articles.  III:  Balance your Life, Nourish your Body and Connect to Community.

I:  Change your Attitude, II: Heal your Soul, III: Balance your Life

III: Balance your Life, nourish your BODY through mindful habits: Eat, drink, sleep, exercise

Eat whole foods 

  • grown or cared for in a humane loving way,
  • primarily prepared by you or someone you love,
  • and look like a rainbow to support your physical health.
  • To promote brain health and increase immunity as well as maintain a healthy memory eat nuts, legumes, and foods that ‘look like a brain”… pecans, walnuts, eggs, cauliflower, cacao, and coffee beans to name a few.  check out this post in my other wordpress blog, IntegrativeMedicineStrategiesNow, Brain Food Really.

Drink 3 liters of water a day, more if you exercise or live in a dry climate.  

  • Water, not tea, or coke, or coffee etc…H2O positively helps with your cellular health.
  • It positively affects your cognition, heart, electrical gastroenterological, kidney-urinary, and immune system – WOW, right?!
  • Water is profoundly necessary for your body systems and mind to work efficiently, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2908954
  • Your hydration needs are affected by your exercise habits, the altitude at which you live, whether you are menstruating, and your personal system imbalances ( ie: slow digestion, toxicity, meds etc).

Exercise 1 hour a day for maximum health 

  • if you are not currently doing this, move up to it slowly to build your muscles and systems in a healthful way. Begin with 20 minutes every other day then move to 15 minutes daily, then 30 minutes every other day and them 20 minutes daily, until you make it to 60 minutes a day.
  • Choose an exercise regime that suits you, holds your interest, brings in fun.
  • Positive Benefits of Yoga -> reducing depressive symptoms, and inducing remission in mild to severe depression in depressive disorders – WOW! (Current Psychiatry Vol.8,No10,p39-47).

7 benefits of exercise:  http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/exercise/HQ01676

  1. Controls weight,
  2. combats health conditions/diseases heart, cholesterol, breath capacity, strength, cognition,
  3. improves mood,
  4. boosts energy,
  5. promotes sleep,
  6. increases interest and capacity for sex,
  7. fun –> creativity, healthy competition, focus, endurance, social, widens interest.

Sleep 6-8 hours a day.  Sleep is the most powerful health promoter!

  • It balances your brain, blood, spirit, reduces pain and inflammation.  Don’t ignore it!

photoSleep is the great neutralizer and reformer.

Sleep plays an important role in learning and memory consolidation.

  • Sleep deprivation can result in memory loss and diminished fine motor and cognitive skills;
  • can impede response time in crisis situations and increase psycho-emotional problems.
  • Lack of sleep can increase pain experience.

Sleep 7-9 hours each night/get to sleep by 11pm.  School-age children need 9-10, Babies/Toddlers require 12-14 hours of sleep; Teenagers need 8-10 hours of sleep. For kids sleep debt can lead to an increase of restlessness, attentional, oppositionality issues

Sleep affects Cognition, learning, health, experience of pain & stress; it benefits your Spirit, Mind, and Body.  http://www.mindfulparentingmag.com/2012/11/29/the-importance-of-sleep/

Consider the power of community, rejuvenation, and networking

Connecting, collaborating, networking, and groups offer a special kind of balance.  

collage inspirationFinding a space to belong, share struggles and get support increases your power in maintaining the balance in your life.

  • Studies show that women respond to stress with tend and befriend.
  • Connecting in ways that help with self growth and rejuvenation, work interests and social endeavors through focusing on learning or maintaining knowledge helps keep your mind healthy.
  • Focusing on groups that sustain your body like exercise groups or training or cooking and nutrition groups.
  • And connecting with spiritual outlets will keep you centered and grounded.

Some of this information is from an earlier InstinctiveHealthMedicine blog entitled  focusing on mindful living leads to spirit, mind, body health, July 24, 2013.

See how you can institute these shifts today, re-read all the articles to remain in balance.  i: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your soul, III:Balance your life.  Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it,  Namaste., () in love and light, bg

back cover.me2weGineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON:  The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE:  The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.  www.bethgineris.com


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II: Heal your Soul, Move Spirit from facilitator to Leader

Hello and Welcome!  

This is second in a series of articles. II:  Heal your Soul, Move Spirit from facilitator to Leader.

I. Change your Attitude, II:  Heal your Soul, III:  Balance your Life

II:  Heal yout Soul, Move SPIRIT from facilitator to leader and your direct point of focus toward meditation, Breath, prayer, and a search for unity

Meditation, Prayer, Breath daily or twice daily to redirect and refocus your energy, attention, and intention.

Spirt focus, clarity, and connection as a primary focus connects spirit, mind, and body, so that you create what you desire rather than avoiding what you fear.  It increases access to your balanced, core-self and increases your ability for critical thinking, flexibility, and quick responsiveness.

merkabah portalBelly breathing alone can reset your cells, mood, emotion, realign and center you.

Brain scans on long-term meditators show that regions associated with attention, self-awareness and sensory processing are thicker in meditators, and that this can offset age-related cortical thinning: this is strong “evidence for … cortical plasticity” (Lazar SW, Kerr CE, Wasserman RH, et al. Neuroreport. 2005;16(17):1893-1897).

Thinking about what happens with stress, meditation and breathwork diminishes and eradicates the negative effects of stress.  When Mind is in control the power to reduce stress is limited; when your leader is Spirit the opportunity to engage in mindful meditation allows for powerful healing effects.Albuquerque skies

“The regular practice of meditation may have neuroprotective effects and reduce the cognitive decline associated with normal aging.” (Pagnoni G. Cekic M. Neurobiology of Aging. 2007;28(10):1623-7).

Evidence found as a result of mindful meditation:

  • –>>Increase in cortical thickness in areas assoc. w/ attention, interoception, & sensory processing such as prefrontal cortex and right anterior insula;
  • using this network to attune to internal senses via the social neural circuits involved in interpersonal attunement, including the middle prefrontal regions, insula, superior temporal complex, and the mirror neuron system->> all from mindful meditation practice.
  • AND, more positive Amygdala responses include:  positive affect regulation by optimizing prefrontal cortex regulation of the amygdala including Left sided anterior activation,
  • this allows development of a tendency toward positive emotional responses & approach /reward oriented behavior,
  • (which aids in decreasing symptoms of depression and anxiety)(Applied Mindfulness Current Psychiatry Vol8.no12p40 2010).

Consider the power of the serenity prayer:  release what you cannot control, shift what you can control, discern the difference.

Any of these 7 activities can increase your spiritual meditative connection:  lao tzu

  1. Soothing/meditative music; singing
  2. Meditative walking, running; hiking,
  3. dancing; Tai Qi, Qi Gong
  4. yoga practice;
  5. Prayer; focused breathing, meditation
  6. Gardening, meditative focus while performing repetitive motion chores,
  7. Any activity that brings mind/thinking to neutral and offers a spiritual connection with whatever feels spiritual to you

Next read III: Balance your Life, Nourish your body and connect to your community.

See how you can institute these shifts today, and read the following article.  i: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your soul, III:Balance your life.  Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it,  Namaste., () in love and light, bg

beth's book No to ONGineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON:  The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE:  The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.  www.bethgineris.com 


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Your internal MAAPS of Relationship

Hello and Welcome!  This is a reblog of a September 30, 2013 post.

To have a powerful, positive, and mutually satisfying relationship you need to decipher the code to your map.  Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (Gineris 2013) offers insight into how your create your inner map in relationship, what kind of relationship feels secure to you, and what drives that security.

It is like a mystery or a puzzle.  (more on puzzles and mysteries, instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/06/17/introspection-and-epiphany/Malcolm Gladwell)

Relationships are complex.  We use a map to partner.  This map is designed from these intersecting coordinates

  • Your temperament,
  • Your social group connections,
  • The prevailing Cultural beliefs of Your location in time,
  • And, your security drivers from your psychosocial childhood development:  What I call MAAPS

The key to navigating relationship is to discover what drives YOU to partner, what a good partner LOOKS like to your heart, mind, and body blueprint.  And when that picture has some skews in it – this book offers soul-utions for how to shift that center and boundaries of your inner map.

So what are the map-keys  in relationship?

  • Your family structure, how you observed your family relate to each other & YOU
  • Your personal group ties, religion, ethnicity, part of USA or other country, and your socio-economic status:  READ your BELIEF systems,

These feel instinctive but are learned.

It delineates HOW you develop in relationship.  From a ME style through an I style to  WE.  This is from dependent through an independent to an interdependent style of interacting

To shift from ME or I into a WE-style of relationship requires moving your paradigm perspective from DUALITY to UNITY.  Use the MAAPS security driver system:  Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power or Structure,  to decipher the code of relationships by understanding your insecurity drivers.  By reviewing the test you can discern which of the security drivers drives, how, with whom, and under what conditions you partner.

Once you understand your personal map you can use meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork exercises and techniques to shift perspective, from a Me or I into a WE-style of relationship.  Using various exercises to Unlink survivor scenarios or Habitual Reaction Patterns in relationship you free yourself from the constraints of limiting beliefs, fears, and insecurities.

Additionally embracing your integrated spirit mind, and body connection opens the space for true  Inner Guidance.

3 key components differentiate how you can relate:  empathy, boundaries, and inner security.

  • Me-style, dependence, narcissism, incapacity of empathy, difficulty with boundaries, diffuse boundaries – can’t say NO, feels empty at core and needs completion.
  • I-style, independence, competition, chooses to not use empathy for fear of loss of self, difficulty with boundaries, rigid boundaries – can’t say YES, fears engulfment and needs distance, separation.
  • We-style, Interdependence, connection, and collaboration, openly empathic, flexible boundaries, feels solid, knows self so can say NO or YES as is appropriate for the relationship and situation.  Interdependent, maintains sense of self while also intimately and connected, chooses to focus on Unity and collaboration with a continued self-connection simultaneously.

These relationship styles’ different Boundaries:

TWO halves ( ) =1 co-dependence: ME

  • Me:  ( ) difficulty saying No; two halves make a whole

Two independent circles no overlap, I,  00= 2

  • I: 00 difficulty w/ Yes; walking side by side without integration

Two overlapping circles 1+1=3: WE, easy flexible boundaries, interdependent.

  • WE: o0o 1+1=3 interdependent, mutual, flexible, collaborative can say Yes and No.

Duality to Unity: Toward a Union of WE

  • Shifting Your Consciousness, Away from Defensive, competitive, narcissistic , Away from Balance sheet/ exchange patterns —>> Toward Listening fully, clarifying and receiving before speaking (for some this is a cultural snare), Toward Seeking understanding Rather than picking points to argue.  Toward connection rather than where you diverge, feel that first then balance divergence.

This groundbreaking book offers you insight, exercises, and reinforcing information so that you can incorporate into your style of relating the keys to a better, more fulfilled life through profoundly shifting how, with whom, and under what circumstances you partner.

You can find a deep sense of peace, joy, and strength through the understanding of what drives you and developing a centered, inner strength to shift your style of being in the world through neutralizing your insecurities and embracing your inner guidance.

You can find out more here.in  love and light, bg


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dr beth gineris is the author of Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness (2011) and Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (2013).  She endeavors to assist individuals in the process of upleveling their consciousness in everyday interactions to experience profound love, connection and care in their relationships and communities.  You can find her books on amazon.com and through her website.


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Aligning with the Tapestry of LIFE

Hello and Welcome!

Each day I awaken grateful for each of you ….and my beautiful family, friends, colleagues, clients, and patients in my life.

There is so much beauty to access.

The idea is to find a way to remain in balance so that you can connect to it and be in harmony within and without.  It requires releasing negative habit reaction patternings, feeling and finding forgiveness, and aligning with the perfection of the now.

This is a pithy article on how to connect through your sensory guidance system to the Taoist five elements and realign your being with the tapestry of life.

http://www.yogitimes.com/article/five-chinese-elements-cleanse-release-clarify/

Recognize that you are connected to everything within and without.  Here is one way you can Change your attitude, Heal your spirit, Balance your life.

May each day arrive and leave with a blessing, Namaste. () 

in love and light, bg


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finding your way home

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Your personal sensory guidance system is built within your automated central nervous system.  It uses your five plus one senses:  sight, smell hearing, taste and touch plus your integrated intuition.

You may think, “I don’t have a sensory guidance system” “I feel like I am always directed down the same wrong path”...fair enough…here’s why, you may be caught in a feedback loop that just keeps replaying the same scene, with you taking the same action, over and over.  This is usually a result of some trauma, loss, or injury.bad attitude, flat tire

Once you know that, you create your way out, your free will choice:  you can shift out of that feedback loop by changing your perspective and healing your spirit.

  • A simple shift in focus, release of the weight of trauma or loss, and you can find your way home.
  • The first step to changing your life is to stop doing your habit.

From that centered space you can then make a choice to release… to let go of the habitual way of seeing and doing so that you can connect to your true inner source, your truth.

Once you have released, you can reset how and who you want to be in your balanced state.

Your way home is following a path to graceAllowing your heart to lead, guided by your internal sensory guidance system.

From that interior space all of your movements will be holistically in your best interests and support you and your community shifting from Me to WE.

Change your attitude, Heal your Soul, Balance your Life

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To find out more about how to Shift away from habits that harm Toward habits that heal you can look into Beth’s groundbreaking book on relationship styles and the insecurity drivers, MAAPS,  at the foundation of ineffective, narcissistic relationships. Find out more about Beth at www.bethgineris.com  You can purchase the Me to We book there at a 30%discount…see the buy beth’s books page.  offered in love and light, bg


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3 tips for staying grounded, averting negative energy, & creating personal energetic protection

Hello and Welcome!

In the world of energy healing one of the most important things your need is to remain grounded when you are opening to your energetic healing powers.

Your capacity to ground

  • allows for increased light to run through you
  • this in turn increases your capacity to hold energetic light
  • That light powers your healing field
  • it increases your capacity to create a healing opportunity for yourself and another.

The practices of mindful meditation, focused breathing, and yoga ALL increase your capacity to hold more light energy.

To ground 

First, move your consciousness into your heart center.  Feel love for all living beings and things.  From that space imagine golden light pushing out from your heart space and encircling you and your energy field. You may also imagine the golden light coming in from the top of your head and running along your spinal column and out your arms and legs.  Additionally, imagine that you have roots coming out of the bottom of your feet growing into the earth below; remember how warm sand feels on your feet at the beach to get a sense of the roots moving into the earth.  In this space you will experience an inner strength or solidity, while simultaneously feeling an overall lightness of being… your are tethered and expanded at once devoid of pulling or tension.

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To create a sense of protection and avert negative energy or attack from another

  • after you have grounded and encircled yourself in golden light.
  • Add encircling in beautiful pink light the other person, or the physical space, from which you feel the attack.
  • Pink light encircles the other or the space in self-love.
  • It discharges the negativity and creates a space of neutrality.

To enhance the protective quality for use when another is intentionally attacking you

  • Envision a light opalescent veneer around your outermost energetic field.
  • This veneer will hold a slightly repellent quality so that negative energy is repelled, while positive energy is received.
  • You may add a lightly reflecting quality to this, or you may add a repelling/deflating quality to this field. ..if you are unfamiliar with this level of energetic interchange it is best to simply create the field to be repellent and use the pink circle of light around the other person.
  • Trust your instinctive intuition to guide you and always act from your enlightened heart-center-consciousness

3 tips to cleanse your physical body and energetic field

  1. Use baking soda to help cleanse your energetic and physical body.  Simply apply baking soda to your skin while you shower; this releases any attached negative energy.  Brushing your teeth and drinking a teaspoon of baking soda dissolved in water will assist in releasing negative emotions that may be attacking you internally; and will result in a cleansing effect.  Do this daily.
  2. Epsom salt or sea salt baths will assist in rebalancing you, as you release any toxins that may be held in your cellular structure or energetic field.  Make a habit of taking these once a week to maintain balance.; if you are actively working as an energetic healer, add these daily.
  3. Use apple cider vinegar, one cup to your bath, to help in cleansing and sealing your energetic field. One teaspoon of apple cider vinegar added to a glass of water, weekly, will assist in maintaining your balanced nature, physically and energetically.  If you are actively working as an energetic healer create this as a daily ritual after you have completed the above steps and after clarifying meditation or yoga.

May you discover a greater more profound connection to spirit through these steps and recognize your increased energetic healing power. Namaste,  in love and light, bg


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Change the Status Quo; Refrain from polarity; uplevel to see multidimensionally at once

Hello!  Welcome.  Thank you for being here.

There has been a lot of chatter about the need to change the status quo and that the stars are aligned to break up structures and patterns that are disharmonious for our culture and planet.

Often this is applied to the concept of capitalism and laid at the feet of white people who allowed, even empowered racism and slavery,  and corporate culture that focuses on ever-increasing greed.  Fair enough those entities have indeed powered a materialistic, consumer-focused, over-emphasis on ever-expanding Yang energy.

Here is something to think about:

  1. Since the 1960’s  there has been energetic and social revolution grounded in the speeches and actions of Martin Luther King, jr and others, and the words of Mahatma Gandhi, and rightly so -> the change that exploded in the sixties toward peace and loving energy is positive and has had effect and is growing.
  2. On a broader level, this has been in play far longer.  The shift toward masculine or yang energy and  away from feminine or yin energy has been an ongoing transfer over many years – seen in earlier cultures 2000 to 5000 plus years ago…and is directly related to the empowerment of all things masculine, and yang in energy to the exclusion of all things feminine and yin in energy.  There have been periods of teachings that described the spiral form and importance of balance between yin and yang – think Taoism.  Currently the focus is the ever-upward phallic growth to the exclusion of lateral and internal growth, so that the focus is on me, me, me, me rather than we and this is culminating in the problems of the current time; paradoxically, this is another offshoot of the explosive sixties.
  3. In addition there is a corrupt, misleading component of divisiveness and misdirection.  Rather than embracing the spirit of the previous guides of MLK and Gandhi or even JC and Buddha there is a second level of Yang misdirection that belies the positive advances of our culture and enhances the ongoing materialism, consumerism, and lack of cooperation, care, compassion, and Yin energy.  Encouraging constant blame mongering, victimization-excuse and deflection of personal responsibility for one’s personal actions  toward self and others, even rewarding ‘bad-boy/bad-girl’ behavior through the exaltation of how cool it is to buck authority and to win read beat out the other side (polarity); it is focused on limited resource third dimensional belief systems that pit me against you and are devoid of the concept of we.

My question is this: what if the status quo pattern that needs to be addressed isn’t the fifties  but rather the energy of the sixties, seventies, and nineties (me, me, me, materialism, power)- something that is tearing apart families, cementing the crevasse and divides between racial groups, men and women, gays and straights, rich and poor, and doing all of this under the guise of what is cool and misrepresenting for the purpose of gaining more yang power.

What if it is this idea of polarity:  have and have-nots; what if it is the belief set forth by Karl Marx about the owners of the means to production and the workers and the rights of the working class.  What if what was described by this man, who defined the economic problem of his german society, were absolutely accurate for his paradigmatic perception of the space/time/world in which he lived but that his solution was misguided derived from the very thing he was attempting to correct:  simply changing the poles and NOT actually helpful today.  Unlike the information received from other thinkers that defines how to quantum shift these poles, to integrate and balance relationships –  Gandhi, MLK, JC, and Buddha quantum, upleveling space/time shift response to an ongoing adversarial power battle – to actually shift the energetic and physical response to the dilemma.

What if the belief in that status quo is the thing that needs to be transmuted… the belief in the limited resource, you against me, is the status quo that needs to be transmuted or paradigmatically evolved, rather than who is the have and have-not in the equation? Shifting into an actually new perspective (not leaning forward linearly or hierarchically but quantum paradigmatic upleveling) a more inclusive and multidimensional equation must be how the situation is analysed; and the response be akin to moving from a me to we-style of relating.  Then the answer in this new paradigmatic shift in which we are living is not between the two sides that keep popping up in these divisive debates but rather a conversation about how to acknowledge and integrate two sides together to make sense out of OUR world TOGETHER.  Our world containing two (plus) partners, our world inclusive of rich and poor, our world embracing and finding upleveled solutions within varying degrees of politics and paradigms, our world shifting have and have-nots into a we.…OUR world in our little personal lives and the big public space of our global home.

I invite all my friends in the healing fields, in the religious fields, and in the position of authority whom are placing blame at the culture of the fifties or some other, in light of the culture of the sixties, seventies, nineties and millenniums …I hold these friends (and enemies) of mine,  in a bubble of lovingkindness, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion; I hold their feet to the fire with mine to LET GO of the fight they and I thought we had, and to embrace a new perspective where we ALL are on the same side against the imbalance in our culture and we ALL bring valuable perspective that requires integration and balance of Yang with Yin, within a non-limited resource perspective, rather a holistic perspective that allows us all to uplevel together.

We must move out of Me/you, I only, into WE in our perspectives and interactions, Out of dependency and independency into Interdependency, Away from Narcissistic –taking without giving, Or dependence creating of giving without taking; Away from competitive independent I need only to take care of myself in a WE style of relating that makes room for every one to be valuable and that values ALL the aspects of society – mothering, caregiving, cleaning, security, growth promotion and balances out the way in which talents are made visible and compensated.  Actors, Politicians, Musicians, Sport Celebrities,  entertainers of all sorts, and the various participants in marketing and publicity, and corporatism  unbalancedly gather an excess of the nutrition of our society:  money – while caregivers, motherers, teachers, counselors, healers, cleaners, do-gooders of all sorts, and security people receive too little.  This imbalance feeds the polarity and the negative paradigm that drives our culture.

The we includes valuing all roles not just those seen from a hierarchical yang perspective as best and highest.  Finding your true purpose, embracing your true talent, living in right labor, right relationship, right balance so that you are part of the whole, the we, that is what I hope for all of us.  And this means to disarm the status tied to the hierarchical structures present in our society.  The Marxian perspective simply changes poles it keeps the status quo operating… relieving ourselves of the status quo in ALL its forms is what will bring a upleveling of consciousness and balance.

  1. Pay attention to the propaganda all around you – you may be betraying yourself or those you love without knowing it.  Just because you like someone doesn’t mean they are saying something that is true.  Don’t swallow whole the words of your heroes – mindfully discern for yourself the fullness of what they are saying and then choose to act from your heart center.
  2. There are small truths and Universal Truths – Currently some of the small truths are lying about the universal truths.
  3. Look to see what status quo you are holding onto that needs to be transmuted – forget about the talking-heads on both sides, refrain from polarity,  listen to your heart, listen with your heart and your mindful space.  Then make a change in your beliefs and your actions to embrace a better more inclusive, holistic space.

One of my favorite mantras is:  he who throws the second punch starts the fight – without the agreement of the second punch no fight is possible….defensive action is best followed in the way of the peaceful warrior:   let the first punch go by, walk away from a fight if you are able, use the art of aikido and the art of verbal and cognitive aikido to deflect, deflate and define… BE a faithful true being of peace – avoid writing hateful things about those you perceive on the other side of an argument.  Live in the middle space, walk in the middle way, look for how you and your enemy agree and create a time/space continuum that uplevels all.

Namaste, In love and light, Beth


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focusing on mindful living leads to spirit, mind, body health

Hello and welcome:

I was asked last weekend to give a lecture at the ABWA, American Business Women’s Association, New Mexico Fiesta on Turning the Triple Play – Keeping Life in Balance.  Here are some of the important tidbits I shared with the 40 or so attendees.

If you want to be successful in the three arenas of your life, self, family, and business or work, then you will want to follow develop these 4 Habits:

Habit 1: SPIRIT meditation, Breath, prayer

Meditation, Prayer, Breath daily or twice daily to redirect and refocus your energy, attention, and intention.

This connects spirit, mind, and body, increases access to your balanced core self and increases your ability for critical thinking, flexibility, and quick responsiveness.

Belly breathing alone can reset your cells, mood, emotion, realign and center you.

Brain scans on long-term meditators show that regions associated with attention, self-awareness and sensory processing are thicker in meditators, and that this can offset age-related cortical thinning: “evidence for … cortical plasticity” (Lazar SW, Kerr CE, Wasserman RH, et al. Neuroreport. 2005;16(17):1893-1897).

“The regular practice of meditation may have neuroprotective effects and reduce the cognitive decline associated with normal aging.” (Pagnoni G. Cekic M. Neurobiology of Aging. 2007;28(10):1623-7).

Evidence found as a result of mindful meditation: Increase in cortical thickness in areas assoc. w/ attention, interoception, & sensory processing such as prefrontal cortex and right anterior insula, using this network to attune to internal senses via the social neural circuits involved in interpersonal attunement, including the middle prefrontal regions, insula, superior temporal complex, and the mirror neuron system – all from mindful meditation practice AND more positive Amygdala responses:  positive affect regulation by optimizing prefrontal cortex regulation of the amygdala. AND Left sided anterior activation: develop tendency toward positive emotional responses & approach /reward oriented behavior, (which aids in decreasing symptoms of depression and anxiety)(Applied Mindfulness Current Psychiatry Vol8.no12p40 2010).

Consider the power of the serenity prayer:  release what you cannot control, shift what you can control, discern the difference

Any of these activities can increase your spiritual meditative connection : Soothing/meditative music; Meditative walking,running;  hiking, dancing; yoga practice; Prayer; Gardening.  Any activity that brings mind/thinking to neutral and offers a spiritual connection with whatever feels spiritual to you

Habit 2: MIND release anger,reduce stress

Address anger and frustration early to extinguish them from your daily routine. Paradigm shift, Forgive, Be compassionate, Be Mindful

Understand Anger’s role: The Alarm aspect, your sensory guidance system: Alert, Respond, Clear

Step out of your Survivor scenarios and Habit reaction patterning – if you want more information about these and how to do that search this site with these phrases, I have written a lot about them – or you can read my two books on mindfulness in parenting and partnering see link below.

Befriend your Anger.  Discover what messages it is giving you, which boundary has been crossed and then see if you can reset your internal alarm system and let it go but releasing it and taking the required action.

Focus on the attitude of Gratitude.

Ways to reduce stress and release anger include: Inverting misbeliefs and focusing on what you want rather than what you fear.  Breathing through until you can reset yourself and be mindful.  Using mindful communication.  Practicing yoga. Journaling to investigate underlying issues or to dump worries.  Using a time-in or stop, look and listen method, thought stopping, and EFT.

Activate the power of gratitude and Forgiveness

Prolonged stress (and unresolved anger) leads to wear-and-tear on the body (allostatic load) Mediated through the Sympathetic Nervous System; Allostatic load leads to:  Impaired immunity, Accelerated atherosclerosis, Metabolic syndrome (hypertension, high cholesterol, type-2 diabetes, central obesity), Bone demineralization (osteoporosis), and Chronic stress can sensitize the brain for the later development of depression (McEwen BS. Ann N Y Acad Sci. 2004;1032:1-7).

Mindfulness practice increases:  Neural plasticity, Immune modulation, Anti-inflammatory, Enhancing immune function, positive Behavior/ lifestyle change, Improvements in sleep, Rumination reduction, and General wellbeing (Ivanovski B, Malhi G. Acta Neuropsychiatrica 2007;19:76-91).

Habit 3: BODY Eat, drink, sleep, exercise

Eat whole foods that are grown or cared for in a humane loving way, are primarily prepared by you or someone you love, and look like a rainbow to support your physical health.

Drink 3 liters of water a day, more if you exercise or live in a dry climate.  Water, not tea, or coke, or coffee etc…H2O positively helps with your cellular health. It positively affects your cognition, heart, electrical gastroenterological, kidney-urinary, and immune system – WOW, right?!

Water is profoundly necessary for your body systems and mind to work efficiently, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2908954/

Your hydration needs are affected by your exercise habits, the altitude at which you live, whether you are menstruating, and your personal system imbalances ( ie: slow digestion, toxicity, meds etc)

Exercise 1 hour a day for maximum health if you are not currently doing this, move up to it slowly to build your muscles and systems in a healthful way. Begin with 20 minutes every other day then move to 15 minutes daily, then 30 minutes every other day and them 20 minutes daily, until you make it to 60 minutes a day.  Choose an exercise regime that suits you, holds your interest, brings in fun.  Positive Benefits of Yoga -> reducing depressive symptoms, and inducing remission in mild to severe depression in depressive disorders – WOW! (Current Psychiatry Vol.8,No10,p39-47).

7 benefits of exercise:  1/ Controls weight, 2/combats health conditions/diseases heart, cholesterol, breath capacity, strength, cognition, 3/improves mood, 4/boosts energy, 5/promotes sleep, 6/increases interest and capacity for sex, 7/ fun – creativity, healthy competition, focus, endurance, social, widens interest. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/exercise/HQ01676 .

Sleep 6-8 hours a day.  Sleep is the most powerful health promoter! It balances your brain, blood, spirit, reduces pain and inflammation.  Don’t ignore it!  Sleep is the great neutralizer and reformer.

Sleep plays an important role in learning and memory consolidation.

Sleep deprivation can result in memory loss and diminished fine motor and cognitive skills; can impede response time in crisis situations and increase psycho-emotional problems.  Lack of sleep can increase pain experience.

sleep 7-9 hours each night/get to sleep by 11pm.  School-age children need 9-10, Babies/Toddlers require 12-14 hours of sleep; Teenagers need 8-10 hours of sleep. For kids sleep debt can lead to an increase of restlessness, attentional, oppositionality issues

Sleep affects Cognition, learning, health, experience of pain & stress; it benefits your Spirit, Mind, and Body: http://www.mindfulparentingmag.com/2012/11/29/the-importance-of-sleep/

Habit 4: the power of community, rejuvenation, and networking

Connecting, collaborating, networking, and groups offer a special kind of balance.  Finding a space to belong, share struggles and get support increases your power in maintaining the balance in these four habits.

Studies show that women respond to stress with tend and befriend.  Connecting in ways that help with self growth and rejuvenation, work interests and social endeavors through focusing on learning or maintaining knowledge helps keep your mind healthy.

Focusing on groups that sustain your body like exercise groups or training or food.  And connecting with spiritual outlets will keep you centered and grounded.

See how you can institute these four habits today.  Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it,  Namaste. in love and light, bg

Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON:  The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE:  The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.  www.bethgineris.com


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Life Lessons in Relationships, Energy, and Color

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A lovely concept of how to shift negative emotions and actions is to focus on each chakra center and apply a system of inversion to the negative feeling housed there.

Begin by recognizing how you may be caught in a negative emotion or action that limits your access to balance, stunts your health, or interferes with your prosperity.

Each energy center –>chakra, corresponds to a negative energy state and the capacity for a positive blossoming energy shift. chakra_location_color

  • Here is a list of how these energies resonate
  • from negativity, imbalance/ to balanced, positive empowerment
  • –> beginning with the first chakra, red:  fear/action;
  • second chakra, orange: isolation/integration;
  • third chakra, yellow: low self-worth/non-judgment;
  • fourth chakra, green: hopelessness/unconditional love;
  • fifth chakra, blue:  negative speech (toward yourself [negative self-talk] or others)/positive speech, affirmations, and compassionate understanding;
  • sixth chakra, indigo:  depression/creativity;
  • and the seventh chakra, violet:  anger/acceptance.

To shift your perspective first discover which energy center appears to be out of balance then apply the positive empowering action to shift the negativity and create balance in that center.  Your first internal response will be a release, a lessening, a flexibility, and a sense of peace.  You will experience a deeper sense of strength and flexibility and an outer sense of lightness and peace.

You can also use the colors to help you resonate with the chakra energy centers.  Using meditation and breathwork breathe into the space in your body that is being stagnated or blocked with the corresponding color to help cleanse out the negativity and re-energize the center.

The spaces that correspond with the chakras begin at the base of your spine, then the area just two inches below your belly button, the third is your solar plexus, just under your ribs at the center of your body, the fourth energy center is on your breastbone between your breasts, the fifth is your throat, the sixth your third eye which is the space between your eyebrows and the seventh is at the top of your head in the center – your crown chakra.

Your first picture of yourself is from your interactions in your family, peers, and lovers.  This idea of reflection being the way in which you see your self is a longstanding tenant in sociology and psychology.

The concept of a mirror reflecting to you your personality and self picture is the earliest style of seeing your true nature.

A deeper style of connecting with self is to have a knowing from within that is separate from the concept of reflection in relationship.  This is related to your personal sensory guidance system.

Over my lifetime I have had the distinct honor of learning about chakra imbalance and balancing through my relationships.

  • When struggling with postpartum depression I learned the valuable lesson of taking action in response to fear…sometimes going toward the source of my fear, actually stepping into that which I was fearing to see through the mindset of fear, into the strength of empowered, responsive action.
  • In my lonely, isolated childhood I learned the power of integration which required dealing with my low-self-worth and the importance of pulling on my non-judgmental posture and a reframing of hopelessness to unconditional love.  These lessons have powered the long positive train of amazing, productive and fulfilling relationships in my life.
  • To shift into mindfulness I endeavored to continually shift my negative speech to positive speech reframing, inverting, and freeing every negative thought like butterflies and wildflowers; from this stance in the world compassion, inner truth and outer prosperity are my constant companions and experiences.
  • In my loneliest times, when I felt deeply bereft I turned to creativity, painting, sculpting, gardening, and writing to allow my grief to spill out and be replaced with strength, renewal, and joy.
  • And finally, that unpleasant and undignified friend anger – through my acceptance I experienced the power of my true self –> the reality of what was became the ground upon which I built a bigger, better, more beautiful Tao.

Discover your inner radiance and rainbow of energy.  Heal yourself through breath, color, and relationship by shifting negativity to prosperity through these active shifts in being and responding in your relationships and within yourself. Namaste, in love and light, bg.