Breath invites opportunities to reset your multilevel spirt-physical system so that you can act mindfully in the present moment… discover ways you can use your senses of sound, smell, and breath to shift yourself into balance. in love and light, bg
Ever enter a space and all of a sudden feel angry or sad?
Or have you noticed that when you are feeling depressed you start to feel physically sick?
In Chinese Medicine Qi (chi) follows Shen. Qi is vital life force energy in Chinese Medicine. Shen is the most insubstantial of energies and represents the energy of spirit. Shen is an energy that is more insubstantial than Qi.
If Shen – spirit goes out of balance it follows that Qi will go out of balance and this can then lead to physical disease. Emotional instability can lead to an imbalance in the movement of Qi which may result in some physical disturbance.
As an example, what happens while in-utero can have effects on the development of a child in his early years. Medically we know that early nutritional issues or the introduction of drugs in-utero can affect the…
Under stress people fall back to their comfort defenses...
Seems like a strange juxtaposition of terms comfort and defense…but the concept is that you have developed a set of defensive mechanisms that have protected you in life up to now.
These are a result of missed-connections in your parenting and missed-understandings and missed-communications in your social relationships…through family, friends, teachers, and supervisors…even your clergy can at times miss in their target of teaching.
The defensive position is ..the interpretation plus reaction… you developed as a result of those missed-interactions.
If you find yourself having the same fight — again, — shift your reaction by trying to understand what is stressing your partner, child, friend or colleague… then you may be able to help alleviate the stress and find a new and more secure way to connect.
Begin by aligning fully with yourself, while completely aligning with your friend, partner, child, or colleague… in that space of complete alignment you are standing in the center of both paradigms.
It requires empathy, boundaries, and inner security.
You must empathize with the other while you have compassion for yourself.
You have to understand where your responsibility for yourself begins and ends and your responsibility to the other person begins and ends.
And you have to have a sense of knowing (confidence rather than insecurity) or security.
The fall back position happens
when you lose your sense of security or trust in the relationship (or yourself),
or you confuse where you end and the other person begins (recognize the for/to responsibility issue),
or you interpret the other as attacking you, rather than having compassion and empathy.
This action (or reaction)where you fall back to comfort defenses is the way you reset in a war.
When a person is in a war he advances, when the attack is too strong the person falls back to a comfort defense, a place where he can reset and recuperate. That’s what happens with stress.
Stress challenges individuals at a core level and causes each to feel the need to fall back and recuperate…the natural or rather knee jerk reaction is to become defensive and interpret the other person as attacking.
The best way to respond rather than react is to focus on your feelings, your sensory guidance system…what are you feel in your senses…then you align with your feeling BUT not with your historical interpretation of what that feeling means. By unlinking your feeling, from your interpretation of what that feeling means about the other person, you are creating the space for empathy (compassion), boundaries (paradigm recognition and shifting), and inner security.
Catch yourself when you are in the fall back position.
Catch yourself when you have raised a shield of protection, defensiveness.
Catch yourself when you feel alone behind a rigid wall of your own creation.
Catch yourself when you feel yourself pulling back your heart from the situation.
Truth is held at the center of all paradigms. When you allow yourself to release your attachment to something being a certain way then you are free to shift your paradigm and connect. Take the time now to understand what matters to you. Look for ways to be congruent in your beliefs, your thinkings, and your actions. Allow your words and actions to align with each other.
Discern what creates defensiveness, fear, insecurity, and lack of faith in you.
You can shift away from defensiveness through these steps: Find ways to Create:
Connection out of defensiveness,
Love and Knowing out of fear,
Confidence out of insecurity,
and Faith out of lack of faith.
Do this and everything you desire will be at your heart center and your fingertips.
Use these uncomfortable feelings to teach you about yourself through Inner and Outer Reflection. You will become the strongest person in your world, empowered to create what you desire. Remember, to release energy blockages, you need
intention, I want to heal or uplevel my consciousness.
insight, I am projecting from a habit reaction pattern of reacting.
gratitude, This conflict is a gift to assist me in righting an inner misbelief or loss of faith.
and forgiveness, I forgive myself for how I disowned my needs; I forgive you for the injury caused knowingly or unknowingly.
How these steps direct you is through the focused energy of your personal sensory guidance system and your heart led healing rather than psych (mind) or cognitive/behavioral led healing alone. Spirit must be engaged and in the lead in order for a transcendence through thought-based, limiting beliefs. You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com.
Your heart knowing is Always communicating to you about what you need and who you are through your personal sensory guidance system of senses. Listen to your sense reactions, your instincts, your intuition.
Learn to interpret your feelings so that you can see what is your projection and what is universal… focus on intention, insight, gratitude, and forgiveness as an integrated system, informed by your sensory system (which includes intuition) and you will live in a different world. This is a quantum shift in consciousness led by your heart spirit connection. In each interaction, perception, and action the world can be created anew. Find your way home. from may 23,2014, energy blockages released.
These steps are outlined in Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014. You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through her website. This book is the HOW TO companion book to Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013).
Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure). You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships. One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
Outer Reflection is how you see. You make determinations about your self, others, what you have created and what you can create via a mirror–>through what you perceive reflected back to you. The work in development is to establish an inner picture that can take in new information as it is reflected but can also deflect distorted information. Outer Reflection is how you decipher how others see you. What you like in another is often about what you are striving for in yourselves. Sometimes it works against you, via a thing called projection:
What we dislike in another may also be about something we dislike within ourselves that we don’t want to accept. (this was first identified as a psychological ego defense mechanism by Freud).
Defensiveness is a notable component of projection. It is also an inner clue to let you know that you are being triggered and reacting from a habit reaction pattern, or in past-tense, rather than in present time. You can use the feeling of defensiveness to gently nudge you to use Inner reflection to mindfully determine how to respond to a situation. We are all one unit. The universe, the plant, animal and human species are one dynamic, interactive organism. The universe is constantly responding to you and you are constantly responding to the universe. This is the nature of things; it is a kind of ebb and flow. When you get stuck in a habit of reacting, or an attachment to how things should be or look, then you get caught in a feedback loop wherein you perceive specific things being mirrored back to you that are more about your history than the present moment. You lose the benefit of the dynamic reflection of the universe, and relationships. Turning No to ON works with this element of reflection…using the mirror reflection of ON from no, to get you to use your inner reflective tools. Inner reflection is mindfulness. It is an active process of recognizing, perceiving the mirror reflection and then using paradigm shifting to determine the voracity of the outer reflection. It gives you space, slows time, so that you can actually create broader and deeper connections to your environment, and your community. It increases understanding, clarifies your place in the world and transcends fear-based reactivity. Turning Me to We in relationships uses inner reflection to include a vision of the world as interdependent rather than narcissistic or defensive. Narcissistic reactions are all about me, me, me. They are fear-based and one-dimensional. Defensive reactions are both me and I, I, I, they are fear-based and two-dimensional. YOU can Use this reflective aspect of the universe to reset your self and get to neutral, so you can create interdependent, non-fear-based, multi-dimensional relationships that encourage connection and collaboration.
I chose these reflective, mirroring titles to telegraph the importance of transcending reactive, defensive, fear-based interaction. I wanted to encourage at the start this focus on the reflections, not just the meaning of these words, to get you to understand and engage in the internal shift required for health. You only have power over yourself. The world within which you live is your creation. When you own that, you free yourself to make the necessary changes within yourself to create the world you truly desire from your integrated, non-fear reactive, multi-dimensional spirit, mind, body self.
Turning No to ON is moving from No to Yes and Off to On. It is dynamically and mindfully working with the entire situation within which the No is happening to understand what is being reflected by the child, so that you can shift him or her to an On position ready to participate, interact and learn. When no is turning into ON it has to shift focus, see from a different perspective: see the reflection of the NO so that you can understand the Yes and be ON. When me is turning to we it uses an inversion, a shift in perspective, so that the needs of me shift into the needs and receptivity of we. You can think of using an inversion to shift the M into a W.
In order to get from Me to WE you have to develop empathy, boundaries and inner security. Me is dependent, needy and insecure. An individual who is relating in a Me style of relationship has loose boundaries, difficulty saying no, and often feels s/he must give up self needs to meet the needs of the other.
I is defensive, competitive and fearful of being engulfed. An individual who is relating in an I style of relationship has rigid boundaries, difficulty saying yes, and fear of being subsumed into the other and lose internal strength. In order to move out of Me and I styles of relating you need to use both the power of reflection from others and a sense of inner security to establish a path through Me and I styles of relating into a We style of relating with mutuality and flexible boundaries. Finally, remember that paradigms are a part of how we interpret these reflections. Practice inversions and this will assist you in developing a way through the Me and I to the WE or through the No to ON. Paradigm shifting is visual and language. An example of a visual paradigm shift is the traditional duck/ bunny. An example of a language paradigm shift is that the name for the Tibetan word for sun is the Hopi word for moon and the Hopi word for Sun is the Tibetan word for Moon. If you make a straight line from the Hopi land through the earth you come out on the other side in Tibet. http://www.ahastories.com/hopiprophecy.html.Truth is held at the center of all paradigms. When you allow yourself to release your attachment to something being a certain way then you are free to shift your paradigm and connect. Take the time now to understand what matters to you. Look for ways to be congruent in your beliefs, your thinkings, and your actions. Allow your words and actions to align with each other.
Discern what creates defensiveness, fear, insecurity, and lack of faith in you.
Find ways to Create:
Connection out of defensiveness,
Love and Knowing out of fear,
Confidence out of insecurity,
and Faith out of lack of faith.
Do this and everything you desire will be at your heart center and your fingertips.
Use these uncomfortable feelings to teach you about yourself through Inner and Outer Reflection. You will become the strongest person in your world, empowered to create what you desire. Namaste, in love and light, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Even More outlined in Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014. You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through her website. This book is the HOW TO companion book to Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013). Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure). You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through the Turning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships. One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
intention, I want to heal or uplevel my consciousness.
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