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Your internal MAAPS of Relationship

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Hello and Welcome!  This is a reblog of a September 30, 2013 post.

To have a powerful, positive, and mutually satisfying relationship you need to decipher the code to your map.  Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (Gineris 2013) offers insight into how your create your inner map in relationship, what kind of relationship feels secure to you, and what drives that security.

It is like a mystery or a puzzle.  (more on puzzles and mysteries, instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/06/17/introspection-and-epiphany/Malcolm Gladwell)

Relationships are complex.  We use a map to partner.  This map is designed from these intersecting coordinates

  • Your temperament,
  • Your social group connections,
  • The prevailing Cultural beliefs of Your location in time,
  • And, your security drivers from your psychosocial childhood development:  What I call MAAPS

The key to navigating relationship is to discover what drives YOU to partner, what a good partner LOOKS like to your heart, mind, and body blueprint.  And when that picture has some skews in it – this book offers soul-utions for how to shift that center and boundaries of your inner map.

So what are the map-keys  in relationship?

  • Your family structure, how you observed your family relate to each other & YOU
  • Your personal group ties, religion, ethnicity, part of USA or other country, and your socio-economic status:  READ your BELIEF systems,

These feel instinctive but are learned.

It delineates HOW you develop in relationship.  From a ME style through an I style to  WE.  This is from dependent through an independent to an interdependent style of interacting

To shift from ME or I into a WE-style of relationship requires moving your paradigm perspective from DUALITY to UNITY.  Use the MAAPS security driver system:  Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power or Structure,  to decipher the code of relationships by understanding your insecurity drivers.  By reviewing the test you can discern which of the security drivers drives, how, with whom, and under what conditions you partner.

Once you understand your personal map you can use meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork exercises and techniques to shift perspective, from a Me or I into a WE-style of relationship.  Using various exercises to Unlink survivor scenarios or Habitual Reaction Patterns in relationship you free yourself from the constraints of limiting beliefs, fears, and insecurities.

Additionally embracing your integrated spirit mind, and body connection opens the space for true  Inner Guidance.

3 key components differentiate how you can relate:  empathy, boundaries, and inner security.

  • Me-style, dependence, narcissism, incapacity of empathy, difficulty with boundaries, diffuse boundaries – can’t say NO, feels empty at core and needs completion.
  • I-style, independence, competition, chooses to not use empathy for fear of loss of self, difficulty with boundaries, rigid boundaries – can’t say YES, fears engulfment and needs distance, separation.
  • We-style, Interdependence, connection, and collaboration, openly empathic, flexible boundaries, feels solid, knows self so can say NO or YES as is appropriate for the relationship and situation.  Interdependent, maintains sense of self while also intimately and connected, chooses to focus on Unity and collaboration with a continued self-connection simultaneously.

These relationship styles’ different Boundaries:

TWO halves ( ) =1 co-dependence: ME

  • Me:  ( ) difficulty saying No; two halves make a whole

Two independent circles no overlap, I,  00= 2

  • I: 00 difficulty w/ Yes; walking side by side without integration

Two overlapping circles 1+1=3: WE, easy flexible boundaries, interdependent.

  • WE: o0o 1+1=3 interdependent, mutual, flexible, collaborative can say Yes and No.

Duality to Unity: Toward a Union of WE

  • Shifting Your Consciousness, Away from Defensive, competitive, narcissistic , Away from Balance sheet/ exchange patterns —>> Toward Listening fully, clarifying and receiving before speaking (for some this is a cultural snare), Toward Seeking understanding Rather than picking points to argue.  Toward connection rather than where you diverge, feel that first then balance divergence.

This groundbreaking book offers you insight, exercises, and reinforcing information so that you can incorporate into your style of relating the keys to a better, more fulfilled life through profoundly shifting how, with whom, and under what circumstances you partner.

You can find a deep sense of peace, joy, and strength through the understanding of what drives you and developing a centered, inner strength to shift your style of being in the world through neutralizing your insecurities and embracing your inner guidance.

You can find out more here.in  love and light, bg


front cover.me2we
dr beth gineris is the author of Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness (2011) and Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (2013).  She endeavors to assist individuals in the process of upleveling their consciousness in everyday interactions to experience profound love, connection and care in their relationships and communities.  You can find her books on amazon.com and through her website.

Author: instinctivehealthparenting4u

Author, Integrative medicine practitioner, psychotherapist. Albuquerque, NM practice, focus on return to balance and the integration of spirit, mind, and body through meditation and mindfulness. Monthly trainings, & professional and personal development coaching. Find more on my website www.bethgineris.com. Read my books, Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (amazon.com, kdp.amazon.com) for increased internal wellness and alignment with your spiritual purpose, and to activate joyous relationships.in love and light, bg

2 thoughts on “Your internal MAAPS of Relationship

  1. Reblogged this on InstinctiveHealthParenting4U and commented:

    This is a reblog of ..your internal MAAPS of relationship… Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power and Structure the security drivers that focus you in relationship and either create connection or limit how you can connect and partner. If you have this book in your library and have enjoyed it, found it useful, and want others to know about it – please go to amazon.com and write a lovely review for it – so that others can see how great it is. It turns out that your good reviews (4 and 5 stars) move the book up the ladder so that it will show up more quickly in searches and more people can get help from this comprehensive relationship resource book. Thank you friends! in love and light bg…and those followers who haven’t gotten the book yet, check out the link at the end of the article.

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