I went to a conference recently that focused on healing core beliefs. The idea behind the conference is
“What you believe you perceive, and what you perceive you experience”
Each of us fashions our life on misbeliefs.
Beliefs we developed in response to injuries, loss, and difficult situations.
The mind puts together an equation that reads: if this then that… if there is a contest then I will not win..the belief being I never win anything. Or I never get picked first. Or even deeper I am not Worthy or Loved.
When you build your life on a core misbelief such as I am not worthy or I am not lovable. Your experiences lead you to this conclusion.
Let’s check out how one might create a structure that teaches her that message over and over again.
With a core belief I am not worthy: You might choose lovers or partners that either don’t have the communication skills to share with you your worth; You would experience always feeling taken for granted or unimportant.
Or you might choose people who are so self-focused they can’t see you (such as a neurotic or narcissistic personality); You would experience that nothing you ever did was good enough so that you mattered.
Or you might choose people who need you to take care of them and they can’t focus their energy on you…in that instance you would have to give and give without experiencing receiving love.
You might choose overwhelming tasks that you could not accomplish. Or you might accomplish many things and still feel empty after completing them
The tendency is to think the problem is with the other person.
Catch yourself, notice if there is a pattern. Is it in all your partners, close friends, lovers? If it is, it may be more about you and your core belief.
This isn’t to say that the other person might not have the issue you think he does.
It’s just that if you want to change you experiences you have to change your core beliefs.
It’s harder to do than you think. It takes real courage to see how you are holding yourself back from having the love or life you want.
Usually these core beliefs are set up from a standpoint of necessity. They are a result of injury, trauma, something that has gone wrong in your original psychosocial development. They may have been true about that one event, but not generalizable to all of life. Once in place they are like shorthand, if this then that. I have to give and give, no one will ever love me just for myself…how do I know because that’s how (fill in the blank important caregiver) treated me. And, it’s not that person’s fault either.
It’s a belief.
It isn’t solid or real. It drives the mind, but it doesn’t have to drive the heart.
Go into your heart feel your beauty, your lovableness, your worth. Love yourself first then you will experience the love from those around you …and no that isn’t narcissism, that’s the flow of life.
It comes from within first. Then it touches on everything else. in love and light, bg
Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2016 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Discover your path, set an intention for what you want to create in your life: It’s difficult to get where you’re going without a map.
Practicing mindful meditation on a daily basis changes the interchange between your inner tripartite mind.
Your tripartite mind was identified by Freud where he observed that decisions were made through an inner interaction between your inner id: primitive wants and desires, your inner rule holder, your superego and your inner mediator, your ego who looks for ways to make both the id and the superego happy. Too much emphasis on the id ruling your decision-making and you end up being a person who is self-centered, not very good at negotiating with your peers and in general a taker in society. Too much emphasis on the superego ruling your decision-making and you end up being a bit bossy, rigid, and not very good at navigating in relationship. While the balance is found in emphasizing the ego’s role of balancing inner needs and society’s rules. Mindfulness is a fantastic way to empower the balancing aspect of your tripartite mind, the ego. ( In general, those who are encouraging mindful meditation reference the selfish and rigid aspects of the mind, (id and superego) by calling them the ego – so it can be confusing.)
Mindful meditation It increases your ability to respond in real-time and allow your instinctive sensory connected cues to guide you rather than your habit reaction patterns reactivity. This allows you to increase your internal sense of empowerment, inner sense of strength and your inner security.
This is a powerful lesson in parenting. To teach your child to develop his or her authentic sense of self you free up an inordinate amount of defensive energy so that he or she can simply allow the flow of life to create and innovate and be happy. But it has to start through your action. What you model is the first lesson taught to your child about health and inner strength, security.
When you model mindful action and respond to tragedy and difficulty with joy, patience, mindfulness, and a sense of inner security, you offer a specific model to help your child develop his or her own sense of inner strength and security.
Forgiveness, mindfulness, and focus on what matters are important keys to this process.
Here is an example of this process of modeling in action. This happened as a result of my authentic modeling of powerful inner security and acting in a way that moves a situation forward.
Several years ago, when my daughter was five years old, I was writing an important lecture for my continuing education class at a community college. I was close to completing the project. I had a time-crunch and was working quickly, at my kitchen table while my daughter was drawing next to me. I thought I was saving the project. I had just completed some important slides wherein I had created some complicated graphs about the power of mindful meditation and it’s effects on the brain. So I had added statistics, information and graphics of the brain. I was completing slide 65. When I went back to send it to my colleague at the university I only had 30 slides. 35 slides had been lost. This was a disaster, as the information was due in two hours so that it could be printed for the participants. I had lost two days of work. When I realized my situation, I had a shortness of breath. I looked on my desktop and in other areas to see if the slides were available on the computer elsewhere. I was unsuccessful in finding them anywhere. So I emailed my colleague to let her know the situation and sent the slides I still had saved. My daughter observed my behavior and my demeanor. What she heard me say was, I don’t want to waste my time getting upset, as it wouldn’t help me with my problem. I sat back down and restarted writing the slides. I was able to finish the project in 90 minutes, because I focused on the process with faith and inner security that I could do it. It was logical as I was only redoing what I had already done, so it was not going to take the same amount of time as it did when I was creating the original slides. Maintaining a sense of mindfulness and letting go of my negative emotional response I had more energy to get it done. The slides went to the printer in plenty of time and the conference was a hit.
But here’s the important part of this story.
Two days later my daughter was working on her computer to draw a picture for her friend for her birthday. She worked on it for an hour. She was bringing it to her friend’s house for her birthday that day. Just as we were getting organized to leave she went to print the picture and there was nothing to print. She had forgotten to save the final product. My five-year old daughter looked at the blank page and rather than crying or throwing a tantrum or making a big deal she said, I don’t want to waste my time on getting angry, I’m just going to go back to the computer and redo it, just like mommy did with her seminar. She returned to the computer and did another picture, she didn’t have as much time, but she was happy with her gift.
A sense of Power is derived from inner security, and inner strength. It requires confidence and clarity. When you feel insecure, or confused you feel powerless.
Pay attention to your feelings to assist you in releasing that which no longer serves you.
You may need to forgive before you can let go.
Anger is an important part of survival. It links with fear and energy to survive.
The limbic system is the part of the brain that reacts to the physical world reflexively and instantaneously, in real-time, and without thought. This is based on previous experience and a number of pathways set up through habit reaction patterning. This causes individuals to automatically act in specific ways that over time are against their best interest. Freud called this repetition compulsion.
Freud identified that humans had a compulsion to repeat specific negative experiences in an effort to change the outcome.
Buddhist thought identifies that mindfulness allows a person to delay that compulsion to react and offers an opportunity to respond to the specific instance in play. When one does mindful meditation consistently the meditator increases his or her ability to mindfully respond.
There are studies that show that mindful meditation changes the shape and lighting up of the amygdala and hippocampus such that there is an increase in the attitude of altruism. This increases the chance for collaborative, mutually positive mindful response to situations and reduces that automatic firing of reactivity that causes defensive reactions. The Amygdala integrates emotional meaning with perception and experience. The hippocampus integrates short-term memory storage and retrieval. All of these physical activities within your brain are shifted to the positive through mindful meditation. This allows for a shift from reactivity to proactivity.
When you model the practice of mindful action, meditation, thoughtful compassionate action you are changing the world around you through your positive effect on those closest to you. Your children will reap the benefits of this behavior and you will promote the development of inner power, security, authentic action and social change on a core level.
This social change will be away from propaganda and an external locus of control through popularity and following the outside push of reactivity to an internal locus of control, a sense of empowerment, security, inner strength, resilience and overall spirit-mind-body health.
Children learn through modeling.
As they grow and develop, they say what they heard and do what they saw in childhood.
Sometimes that means they develop the same inconsistent words and actions they observed in they youth.
Make your best efforts to be congruent, or to discuss the conflicting beliefs you hold. Help them understand the multi-layer aspects of decision-making so that they can find their own personal, congruent beliefs.
Practice compassionate understanding and compassionate discipline, lovingkindness, forgiveness, courage, inner strength, and bravery. Modeling these shows them a way to stand up to the propaganda and simple answers they are bombarded with through marketing, and divisive political activities so they can create authentic multilevel personal solutions to the difficult problems in their communities.
Parenting is more than providing the physical support needed for children to grow. It is important to offer protection and support to develop their spirit and mind as well. A healthy spirit in a child will lead to mindful action and physical health. A healthy spirit is one where children have flexibility, resilience, inner strength, courage, bravery, compassionate understanding, inner drive, and a sense of connection to the fabric of life. in love and light, bg
Being in the environment, modeling care of plants, animals, forests, oceans, and that the earth and its inhabitants are all connected as one is the most powerful way to bring us all together as one community and create a sense of unity.
Gather support from the natural environment.
Meditate, create art, work in the garden, exercise, walk through nature, in reconnecting with the tapestry of life you can see the support there as you offer shift in consciousness to your human community.
Shed your skin, Trust your heart-centered, inner guidance IV system. Live your life fully and allow your full, big self to be present in the tapestry of life. You may experience a new Alignment within you, around you and between you and source. in love and light, bg
Find out more in my new book,Instinctive Health Medicine, Finding Your Path to Grace, due out in July 2016.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Aligning with your true path, your true self in your multidimensional self allows for healing.
When your immune system is down. Think about how you can shift your nutrition and build in meditation yoga and stress management — these are your best treatments to build immune.
Crazy simple: sleep, exercise, good food, and breathwork are best at healing your body.
In terms of nutrition focus on dark berries, dark leafy greens, quinoa, eggs, dark beans, and white beans.
In terms of supplements – D3, a good B stress, like B100- which includes b2, b4, b6, b12, niacin and folic acid, C with rosewood and cranberry to assist in intake.
If you are a vegetarian make sure you get iron (you can take a plant based supplement called floradex) and zinc (make sure you get a formula that has the proper zinc and copper relationship or chelated zinc) These can assist you.
Vegetarianism is a great way to get nutrition- you just have to be good at getting enough protein and immune support from beans, chickpeas, berries and yogurt (if you are not lactose intolerant — yogurt is my go to every day to help stay balanced and get protein and digestive enzymes naturally).
Emotions, and lack of spiritual grounding and connection can negatively affect your immune system, that’s the reason for making sure you are participating in stress reducing activities like yoga, meditation, breathwork, and exercise in a balanced way, every day.
Your health is an integrated thing: mind, spirit and body — all three together – good food sustains your body and helps with balanced thinking and spirit source connection – so does breathwork and exercise prayer and meditation – it isn’t usually one thing but all together in harmony that maintain your health.
You can find out more – just search this site for: 4×4 habits for health. Spirit, mind, body, community.
There are many articles on balancing spirit mind and body, and resetting your thinking.
Spirit : breath, meditation, yoga, Qi gong, connection to your natural inner senses as sensory guidance system.
Mind: stress reduction, cognitive retraining, forgiveness, gratitude, paradigm shifting. Reducing anxiety and shifting depressive thinking.
Body: food, water, rest, and exercise
Community offers connection and Rejuvenation
Best supplements identified above as well as inositol hexaphosphates and inositol
Best yoga position – find yoga strategies for health, check out this site for more information about how yoga and health are related.
And finally, if you feel sad, apathetic, lost, out of sync, unable to find your way in the world, consider creating space in your life, every day, to return to nature.
Hike in the mountains, walk on the beach, take a walk through the park. Swing on a swing, ride a bike..reconnect to nature all around you. You can feel this even through the plants in your lobby or on your windowsill.
The more you allow yourself the opportunity to reconnect with nature, the more likely you will feel a release of negativity and an inner communication that you may have earlier silenced so that you can again or for the first time feel deeply connected to the tapestry of life.
The trees inhale your carbon dioxide and exhale oxygen. You inhale oxygen and exhale Carbon dioxide. We, the trees and humans, animals, birds, are all interconnected in one tapestry of life. Part of the intense degree of disconnect seen in the field of mental health is the severe disconnection humans experience from the natural sense communication in nature. Go out into nature and you can begin again to develop your internal sensory guidance senses first with the five plus one senses of sight, smell, taste, sound, touch and intuition, and then as you develop your sense awareness these will expand tenfold.
With these actions you will discover your own personal path to grace.
Find out more about this in future writings on this blog and through my new book, Instinctive Health Medicine, Finding Your Path to Grace, due out in July 2016.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
You started with intention, created a map, then began to breathe.
These are the first steps in in re-visioning Spirit and Mind to shift your perspective and health habits.
This week is about attending to the connection of spirit and mind via the breath and concretizing the new vision in your daily actions/habits.
Find your paper that has your personal narrative of intentions.
Re-view your words – are they representative of your intentions three weeks later?
make adjustments, additions, and clarifications.
Find you picture map, what is attractive to you about it today? See it both from a figurative and holistic perspective – figure and ground connecting spirit and mind.
Look into the mirror and view your physical self.
First you will focus on the negatives, things you do not like about yourself.
Jot these down,
now return with compassion and love to your image in the mirror.
be grateful for what is there both the parts you wish to change and those you like when you view them.
Make an effort to shine love on your self through this process. So if you are unhappy about extra pounds then see how these represent something good. Perhaps you still carry weight from the joy of carrying your child and you can be thankful for those pounds while you simultaneously determine it is time to release them.
Or if you see lines between your brows consider what that represents, perhaps a strength of thinking skills and focus, be grateful for your capacity to focus so directly and then you may determine you desire to shift your habits to include play and relaxation in balance. This blog from back in 2010, really gets to the heart of this, please check it out to help you focus on seeing the good in bad…or emphasizing the positive, https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/09/14/how-you-face-the-day-is-how-it-faces-you-back/ .
How you see yourself matters. Consider compassionately responding to the aspects of your physical being that you find repulsive.
Next, Shift this to your behaviors and words.
Consider how you came to develop the behavior that you desire to release.
Be grateful for the way in which it has positively served you ,
and then you may make a decision to release that patterning.
In this moment you are free to make a deeper shift in your intentions to connect your spirit and mind in an integrated narrative, picture map. You can achieve this by creating a second map that incorporates a fuller picture of your new view OR you may connect the narrative and map you have by putting them onto a paper together, including our new insights from the work in the mirror.
(This process is one you may want to do several times a year to reset your goals and return to your center.)
Place the map and narrative in a place where you frequently pass by it throughout the day.
Each time you pass it,
stop,
view it fully.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Creating a space within yourself for the images and words to infuse youwith peace, will, strength, and joy to create your new habits to health.
And as always, Remember you have a better chance of getting where you want to go if you have a map…in love and light, many blessings, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris website. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
This is a facebook post from William Khaziri of Bliss River.
He and David Khaziri are two truly amazing beings who have taken it upon themselves to offer to anyone interested in listening, ways to uplevel consciousness.
All the podcasts are available for download.
This is mine.
“Hey everyone, this is Will from Bliss River wanting to let everyone who has liked this page and or who knows Dr. Beth to please listen to our enlivening and powerful Podcast. Dr. Beth as you all probably know has more than just a wealth of knowledge but her character and profound intuitive wisdom teaches us effective ways that we can change for the better immediately. For example, she taught us about Cranial Sacral Therapy on the Podcast and I took action and got a treatment done with amazing results. My Vippasana meditation practice has also been dramatically improved through her teaching us the basics of meditation over the Podcast. It has been an honor Dr. Beth and please, if I may ask that everyone who enjoys the Podcast please review our iTunes page so that her message maybe recognized more by Apple through increased reviews and then found by more people on the main iTunes Podcast homepage.“
I invite you to listen to these for your own edification and consciousness elevation.
Connecting with these men at Bliss River has reignited my faith in the global community. I hope you find it equally as exciting and supportive about how we are all connected and if we focus on changing our environment we can create a ribbon of change in the larger community or even the consciousness of the planet. Very exciting.in love and light, bg
And as always, Remember you have a better chance of getting where you want to go if you have a map…in love and light, many blessings, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris website. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
Most of you recognize that the integration of spirit, mind, and body is a multi-level, multi-phase experience. It is dynamic, changing responsively to your inner and outer environment.
Recent events have further elucidated for me the subtleties of this dynamic process.
Participating in a fifty mile race after three weeks on the bike. To my surprise while participating in the long ride, I began to feel unable to continue…my friends encouraged me to use my yogic breath and my experience of inner peace to press on… Ultimately I noticed it was my will that gave me the strength to continue.
Re-training myself for a distance swim for my first triathlon sprint. During the swim training, I discovered an underlying degree of anxiety that was exacerbated by loss of breath — it projected me right back to an earlier event of almost being choked when I was raped as a teenager. It was shocking and almost uncontrollable to keep swimming – my body was fighting for life while I could clarify that it was not actually happening, my heartrate ramped up my breath became flat and labored…I couldn’t swim properly…Ultimately in the swim training it was my inner breath and my yogic training that assisted me in calming my fear and re-integrating myself into the now, to release the energy of the rape experience connected to ‘air-hunger’.
Having endured significant sexual harassment throughout my life, I have made significant efforts, with success, to clear the vestiges of effect from this trauma, and to eradicate the insecurities that could have colored how I interacted in relationship and partnership. This information is further explained in the section on MAAPS insecurity drivers in my book* Turning Me to We: the Art of Partnering with mindfulness.
These recent events focused how the trauma vestiges can effect your relationship with yourself.
As could be expected, the rape was the most problematic to clear. It was held within my psychic, emotional, and cognitive memory as well as my physical body. To this day I have a holding in my upper body that is still reminiscent of the position in which I was pinned down. This is not unusual for individuals who have survived a rape to have these various types of physical changes. I have had success in clearing this to a fairly deep level physically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically.
I have had the great fortune of applying mindfulness, psychotherapy, and forgiveness toward my history of harassment and the rape…as such I have created warm loving non-abusive relationships with my partner and friends. It is for this reason that I spend so much time training, teaching, and modeling mindfulness and forgiveness as part of a healthy lifestyle individually and in relationships/partnerships.
With this being stated, I was quite surprised by the deep level of fear and anxiety that exhibited in myself during the ride and swim training. It speaks to the depth of effect in the spirit, body, mind web that is within human consciousness; and how deeply trauma plumbs to the center of one’s being.
Humans are dynamic, multi-dimensional beings.
The process of clearing trauma can take years and releases in layers.
Trauma for one being may not be traumatic for another.
Spiritual trauma is the most debilitating, as spirit connects humans to the greater universe of energy. When spiritual trauma is directly bound with physical trauma, thinking can skew off into a place that could be described as ‘hell on earth’.
Over the years I have noted that individuals who have intense anxiety suffer far more than those around them…because they do not have the peace that comes with centeredness…the peace you experience with centered mindful meditation and breath.
The lesson of this recent athletic training is that each challenge requires an integrated spirt, body, mind response. And, that balance is affected by the vestiges of previous traumas or incorrect correlations of power.
Human beings are spiritually and willlfully driven.
It is your ego*/ will that can pull you through a difficult challenging task– that is where hard work and discipline are kings and queens.
And, it is your spiritual inner faith and knowing that is required in other challenges….
(ego as defined as the balanced mediator of your personality, mediator between id and superego – see Gineris, Turning Me to WE, The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, p 186, Rebalancing: Empathy, Ego and Spirit).
The space between mindful breathing and will is the ground where all battles are fought. This is in a phrase then entirety of Sun Tzu’s The Art of War* * to know yourself, know your enemy, to know when to act and when to be quietly strong as you prepare to act….
Staying within the threshold of calm is an act of faith and will. Success requires both dynamically and rhythmically in play.
The practice of yoga can teach you this through your use of breath to move through challenges.
The practice of mindful meditation can teach you this as you breath yourself into neutrality, compassion and the now.
The practice of athletic training can teach you this if you understand the relationship between will and allowing, remaining centered in your integrated spirit, mind and body.
If you struggle with anxiety, use these practices to bring you into a more dynamic and flexible relationship with your will (discipline/Qi) and your faith (spirit/breath/Shen), you will find more peaceful and powerful successes in all you undertake to accomplish. Namaste, in love and light, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Even More outlined in Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014. You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through her website. This book is the HOW TO companion book to Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013). Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure). You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships. One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
There are a variety of ways in which energy can get blocked. It can be a blockage in cognition through rigid limiting belief systems, it can be a blockage within the body through muscle and breath holding over time, it can be a blockage in your chakras or energy field through a disconnection from spirit OR it can be a combination of all three.
In order to release the blockage humans require intention, insight, gratitude, and forgiveness.
It is an active process. It can be begun with voice and communication but breath and at least one other sense must be employed (sound, smell, color, healing touch/acupuncture, or taste (food, nutrition).
Over the next few blogs I will share with you steps to heal yourself and release your internal blockages. Additionally, I will offer ways to heal your relationships applying these specific techniques and the information available in the Me to WE book (see the link below for the book and other blogs on this site.)
To get a fuller picture of how sound heals you may want to review this blog, or get the iBOOK developed by me with several friends through the TALON CLAW HEALING CIRCLE…this is downloadable to iphone and ipod.
Remember, to release energy blockages, you need
intention, I want to heal or uplevel my consciousness.
insight, I am projecting from a habit reaction pattern of reacting.
gratitude, This conflict is a gift to assist me in righting an inner misbelief or loss of faith.
and forgiveness, I forgive myself for how I disowned my needs; I forgive you for the injury caused knowingly or unknowingly.
How these steps direct you is through the focused energy of your personal sensory guidance system and your heart led healing rather than psych (mind) or cognitive/behavioral led healing alone.
Spirit must be engaged and in the lead in order for a transcendence through thought-based, limiting beliefs.
This allows for real negotiation, movement into the WE style of partnering/ relating, (feb 2013 blog, i ching Tai (peace) guiding Me to WE) and the elevation of consciousness: transcending third dimensional interactions of right/wrong, good/bad, persecutor/victim, blame.
Your heart knowing is Always communicating to you about what you need and who you are through your personal sensory guidance system of senses. Listen to your sense reactions, your instincts, your intuition.
Learn to interpret your feelings so that you can see what is your projection and what is universal… focus on intention, insight, gratitude, and forgiveness as an integrated system, informed by your sensory system (which includes intuition) and you will live in a different world. This is a quantum shift in consciousness led by your heart spirit connection. In each interaction, perception, and action the world can be created anew. Find your way home. Namaste, in love and light, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. The steps above are outlined in Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014. You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through her website. This book is the HOW TO companion book to Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013).
Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can discover how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships. One being at a time, you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
In Sociology there is a term that is used to discuss the problem with social change policies, unintended consequences.
There has been a longstanding debate in the field of Sociology, regarding what to do with the information gathered through observation, even participant-observation, by sociologists. Should sociologists use the information to create social policy, social changeORshould sociologists remain observers and educators about what they learn so that humans can be more fully educated and then free to make the best choice for themselves in small groups and individually. Currently we are in a time-continuum where the social change aspect of sociology is winning that debate.
Bias is the biggest problem in the practice of sociology. Since bias is imbedded into each sociologist’s consciousness through her upbringing and social group connections it becomes difficult to see personal bias. Therefore, sociologists are at risk for introducing bias into the equation of truth without consciously knowing it. The process of paradigm shifting, critical thinking and mindfulness greatly assists sociologists in recognizing their bias, but it is a constant challenge.
In science the practice of the double-blind study is meant to resolve these issues. However, for sociologists the type of study is observation and cataloguing, even in participant-observation an investigator ‘joins’ the group, simply to observe. You can think of this as an undercover officer without any intention of actually stopping tragedies that are observed. This is how the original focus was on identifying and reporting observations; you can think of this like the Prime Directive of no interference in Star Trek. Education was the way to create change rather than directly participating in social ‘justice’ change policy. Recognizing that society is dynamic, living the sociologist observes but avoids interfering with the process due to the risk of unintended consequences…what western biological medicine might call bad side effects of specific pharmaceuticals.
Let’s look at a few changes that have come through this action of social change policy.
Unintended consequences of No-fault divorce.
Prior to 1985, in order to get divorced fault had to be proved by one of the married parties. The thinking in the eighties was that this resulted in high incidence of suicide by wives and high incidence of domestic violence against women. So the passage of no-fault divorce was thought to assist women to feel more free and empowered. Unfortunately, it resulted in the ‘feminization of poverty’ and more children living in poverty.
From Wikipedia: A paper published in The Harvard Journal of Law and Public Policy, written by Douglas Allen, on the economics of same-sex marriage, argues that the introduction of no-fault divorce led to a six-fold increase in just two years after a century of rather stable divorce rates. Also, the law increased the rate at which women entered the workforce, increased the number of hours worked in a week, increased the feminization of poverty, and increased the age at which people married. ( Allen, Douglas (June 22, 2006). “An economic assessment of same-sex marriage laws.”. Harvard Journal of Law & Public Policy29.)
A more useful action would be to educate children about choosing partners, the MAAPS concept developed by Gineris, 2013, and being mindful in marriage choices. The debate to allow same-sex couples to marry has missed out on this aspect of importance in creating positive, powerful partnerships regardless of gender combination.
The ACA has already led to unintended consequences.
The focus by the ACA was on creating more insurance. Coming from a perspective within the healthcare system as a provider and a receiver it is noticeable already that, unfortunately, at least so far ACA has resulted in less access to healthcare. In the last six months the number of individuals covered with insurance has dropped, due to actions resulting from the ACA. Few individuals were able to get coverage who were not previously covered in 2008. The intended outcome target has been missed and the trend is downward. (For those individuals reading this that tend toward cynicism, this may be a private intended consequence of those who put the ACA it into place because they are interested in a different form of insurance…however it is an unintended consequence from the historical statements of the intention to create a source for better access to healthcare at a lower price.)
A more powerful effect of sociological data about lifespan and lifestyle would have been to educate individuals on the benefits of caring for their physical vehicle, emotions and consciousness. Education on how to live healthfully to avoid the need for healthcare. This creates an opportunity for individuals to take ownership in creating their own health and managing their choice in this regard. Education increases understanding and therefore power to create personal change. This is the dynamic aspect of society. Change from within based on many individuals making similar choices due to knowledge and experience.
‘if you give a man a fish you feed him for a day, if you teach a man to fish you feed him for a lifetime….’
Day-care, having your child be raised by the community rather than your personal family social system has resulted in unintended consequences.
Parents have less say in the care of their children. Due to the nature of human beings learning about how to be in a community from their caregivers in early childhood, the influence of the parent has greatly reduced and the influence of the state has greatly increased. Parents chose daycare to increase their freedom to work – often a necessity, however they were unaware of the consequence of losing influence in the beliefs, personality, and behavior of their own children.
In addition the psychological makeup of the child raised in daycare is to be cared for by the a group or community, thus the seedling idea that the government owes a person certain positive rights.
A more effective use of the sociological knowledge of how children develop beliefs, their MAAPS for relationship, and values is to educate parents and children as they develop, about these concepts so that individuals can be more empowered and free to make these choices in parenting and care.
Making pot legal will result in unintended consequences.
This is controversial for me to say. I know. Many alternative healers feel that marijuana is positive. Often I hear my colleagues espousing its benefits. My experience both as a psychotherapist and as an energy field healer belies this. Pot mucks up the electromagnetic field so that the person over time is cut off from his or her direct sensory system connection to spirit. Yes some individuals may describe feeling more connected to spirit when they are under the influence of pot, but they have lost their direct connection through their electromagnetic field and have diminished their effectiveness of their sensory guidance system. The effects of this remains even after the person stops using marijuana and can only be healed through energetic clearing tf the person’s electromagnetic-field by an energy worker. So the unintended consequence is to diminish the person’s connection to spirit and to make the person dependent upon the drug to have the inspirational experience. Additionally, long-term, excessive use diminishes a person’s sense of innovation and will, resulting in a constant state of being slightly like a zombie.
Educationopenly about issues that underly pot use would be more fruitful than simply saying it is harmless, no more harmful than smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol. This would allow for each individual to make an evaluation from a more holistic perspective.
The hypocrisy of professors, like Bill Ayes, who makes over 100K a year and teaches anti-Americanism: “I pray every day that I can change America and get rid of Capitalism”…he isn’t off the grid he is living through Capitalism. He argues against financial inequality while actually creating it with his behavior. The challenge of being in a position of expert is to unintentionally miss out on the opportunity to actual teach the positive effects of thinking through a problem personally using mindfulness and critical thinking. Using the position of teacher or professor to speak the truthwithout teaching the importance of dialogue and critical thinking to continuing to evaluate the veracity of that truth, is wholly unethical and creates the unintended consequence of creating ignorance rather than increasing the skills for decision-making and upleveling consciousness.
A more useful application of the sociological information about power and community is to create a space wherein the participant can sort through the answer though mindfulness and critical thinking. Educating students on how to think, how to use their brains to think through a problem, deduction rather than just come up with the answer the professor determines true, in a Sherlock Holmsian style of clarity and mindfulness would allow for continued consciousness elevation for the entire community of human beings, and ultimately the planet.
The Indian Child Welfare Act of 1978 and the Child Abuse Act of 1974,2010 seem to have fared better than the above examples.
The Indian Child Welfare Act (1978) was originally set in place in response to several things, the high incidence of children leaving the reservations and being raised in non-Indian homes which led to a high incidence of depression and suicide as the children reached adolescence (far greater than those children adopted who were from non-indian families). This appeared to be a cultural issue as well as a psychosocial developmental issue. In addition, there was concern from the Native American community that the Native American culture was being decimated by the loss of their children to carry it onward.
There were problems in dealing with how a child was identified as Indian, in that various tribes had different percentages of Native blood or connection to a tribal roll as ways to identify a being as Native American. As time went on it also became an issue if the child had never been a part of the Native Community (1982) especially if the parents had not actually lived in the Native Community in their own upbringing. However, the intended consequences were met positively, due to this act the incidence of suicide by Native American children in early adolescence decreased dramatically, and far more Native American children were endowed with their cultural heritage.
The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (1974, 2010) has had a positive effect on the increasing recognition and identification of child abuse by parents and communities, and the general understanding of the societal culture. There have been difficulties with managing the regulation of foster parents and managing how to respond to these kinds of problems with families either through criminal cases or education through various state agencies developed to protect children removed from unsafe homes.
These Mantras clarify how to proceed as a sociologist. Those who don’t study history tend to repeat it. Because there are cycles in the sociological development of human communities. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. This is based in the problem of a legislative, bureaucracy making decisions that require the fineness of individuality. An agency moves too slowly and cumbersomely to make adjustments that are personal and individualized. Regulation and individual freedom work against each other unless the regulation is set up to protect negative rights versus positive rights, ie: the basis of the US Constitution. And finally, the strongest ethical position for all sociologists: know your biases, act from a neutral non-biased perspective.
Counselors who are in the business of change are constantly working to maintain a watchful eye on their own biases in how they assist their clients and patients to change.
Mindfulness, Compassionate understanding, Critical thinking by drilling down as well as expanding the knowledge of whatever you are attempting to resolve increases your opportunity create change that elevates the consciousness of the planet. As you take care in your own assumption about what is true, pay attention to an inner pressure to make another do what you feel is right. Stop, Look and Listen to yourself and the other person, stop acting… take a break, and go within to observe yourself and the underlying assumptions you hold, return to center.
And if you are being pressured against your own inner sense of knowing, that is free of bias but truly instinctive, then you can use your critical thinking and mindfulness to take the best action for your self. When pulled in to create policy, actually discern for yourself what you believe, pay attention to the dynamic aspect of society, listen thoroughly and investigate fully before you proceed with a proposal to avoid social policy change that results in unintended consequences. in love and light, bg
dr beth gineris is an integrative medicine practitioner in albuquerque, new mexico. she offers compassionate, mindful guidance to online coaching clients and clinic patients daily using her medical intuitive, clinical counseling, energetic rebalancing, and oriental medicine skills. a great class on MAAPS and how to have more positive and empowering relationships is happening in Albuquerque, NM at the center March 15, 2014. Reserve your place at http://www.bethgineris.com
Spiritual consciousness evolution happens through transcending and connecting to the place where spirit and human are best, not one better than the other. bg
My friend, Georgia, said to me recently, that I have an angel’s view from 30 thousand feet… I can see how others get in their own way, the blocks in their electromagnetic field, their conflicting, problematic, limiting attitudes & beliefs, AND how these are creating boulders in their path..
From her perspective I can see this and this can at times make others not like me
…others see this in you, they know that you can see.
This recognition by another, when she (or he) is not ready to commit results in a bifurcated response, on one hand she sees I can help and presents herself for a healing, like asking me questions about what she should do in her life about some thing, sometimes a person may actually show up in my office for a session….the bifurcation happens when the person wants release or a clearing passively. She wants me to do the work of healing her without any commitment to the healing personally.
In order to get the healing you have to actually choose and do the healing work… That is the catch, it isn’t passive on your part.
And so, when I don’t say what a person wants to hear, or when I focus on how (he or) she has power in a situation and what actions (he or) she must take in order to create the space for a healing, and the person just wants to be healed without any personal shift, this can result in negative energy toward me.
….Which is how our conversation started, I was lamenting about the process and how unpleasant it is for me.
…But it isn’t enough for them to present themselves to me for a healing… ‘just because you can see from an angel’s view doesn’t mean you can help like and angel’….
Crash!That brought me right down to earth.
Her point being that while I may feel compelled to help everyone who crosses my path and I am at the ready to create these miracles, I am still only allowed to wield that healing power when the other person is fully committed to the shift into her (his) new self.
….you have the skills and capacity to transform and clear other’s fields, but there has to be a conscious willingness,a direct agreement and intention from the spirit/human needing transformation for you to do it…
As much as I feel compelled to heal others because I can, doing so requires an integrated conscious agreement for healing and an active readiness that is transmitted through actions, statements, and higher level karmic release.
You have to step fully into your elevated self. Which means you have to integrate your consciousness and your commitment to healing.
Integrated conscious agreement, the action of not only saying I need help but also holding the intention and willingness to receive the shift and embrace the necessary release of unhealthy attitudes, actions, beliefs, and mis-knowings.
This is the release of the karmic emotional cords that are within your DNA.
I interpret this to be the way in which karmic cords may be in your DNA.
So that as you develop your chakra wheels and open to the development of higher level chakra spheres you open yourself to the knowledge of these karmic cords and open yourself to healing, releasing and clearing them.
This requires integrated spirit/matter (human) consciousness knowing and recognition.
You can choose to heal, clear your karmic cords and elevate your spiritual, emotional and physical being.
Until then I will continue to deflect the negativity as it flies by me, and I will hold the view from thirty thousand feet. I see you and I send you love and light, bg
Heart pounding in your chest when you look at or think about someone? It might be love..
or it might be fear. How you interpret that pounding is context.
To face your fears and disarm the power of bullies you have to shift your interpretation of that pounding from fear requiring flight…..
to acknowledgement requiring mindful action…
and then to love seeking an opportunity for recognition.
Facing fears is knowing your self and then seeing, understanding, and clarifying how you fit into the situation you are facing.
This is best done, gently and quietly, allowing your heart to guide your actions.
Fears derive from a lack of knowing…
a habit-reaction to another experience that feels similar…
control or mis-allocation of energy toward protection…
mis-understandings.. of yourself and expectations, or of another and expectations (or both)
an inappropriate paradigm that doesn’t take into account the whole picture of ‘what is’.
Love is indeed the best treatment for fear.
But getting from the fear to love can be blocked or feel impossible if you haven’t developed your internal path to grace.
To a lesser degree getting from anger or insecurity to forgiveness and gratitude is also difficult.
These steps can help.
Set aside time to discover who you are through breath, meditation, journaling. yoga, and other creative pursuits.
Practice using the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, to reset your placement of power august 15, 2012 post four agreements plus one (this strongly diminishes your sense of fear).
Set your internal personal goals as paramount for your energy and behavior so that you are not spending oodles of time meeting others expectations but rather directly focusing your energy and resources on what brings you joy. This returns you to empowerment rather than a sense of smallness and disempowerment. It moves you out of reactivity and into proactivity.
Accept that your path to ‘greatness’ doesn’t follow the same path as others and embrace your friends’ successes with the sense that this increases your chance of greatness too (rather than experiencing the sense of competition or limited chances to greatness).
Focus love and compassion toward yourself and others.
Release the need to prove your point.
Be willing to adjust your position as you receive new information. Be free to grow, change, and uplevel your understanding and consciousness.
Receive criticism from others as if it is coming from someone who deeply and truly loves you, this shifts your receptiveness, because it disallows a sense of defensiveness – then you can ascertain if there is a grain of truth in it or of no value.
The idea of someone trying to overpower you is co-created. You and she co-create the drama. You can disarm the overpowering fear by following these steps. In most circumstances this will free you to create a different more equally empowering situation. If it doesn’t, if the other person really wants control, just remember you have free will in how you want to participate.
You cannot engage your free-will when you are in a reactive mode. Pay attention to what causes reactivity in you. Heal that and you can remove the target from your back for those who are consciously and unconsciously engaging in this fear promoting behavior.
This will free up a huge amount of energy for you to create precisely what your heart desires.
Make real efforts to not act as if you are somehow more evolved than another, that actually is a provocative/bullying tactic. in love and light, bg
Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
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