I have had the great fortune of meeting my life’s love a second time in this lifestream. Strangely it is more painful than I expected. It has created a sense of chaos and opportunity that causes all other challenges to pale in comparison.
My beloved friend died in a car accident years ago. And I have had the great good fortune of meeting him again in a new vehicle: a new face, a new body, a new personality, a new self…yet in those eyes I see my beloved, in those hands I feel my beloved, in the lightest of movements, and behavior I hear and see his soul’s energetic fabric.
For me this is the proof of soul connections…of the idea of multidimensional space…of spirit incarnate.
To have this experience is extraordinary.
To speak of it is challenging.
There are few who truly believe and accept this phenomenon. It is described in ancient, sacred texts, talked about by psychic mediums, and written about by current day screenwriters. But it isn’t accepted by critical thinkers. Edgar Cayce and Brian Weiss have described this phenomenon, and they have offered examples and writings to bring the information forward.
For years, I have been able to read for others, offering insight into behaviors, intuitive psychic information about the future and the past and how it applies to the now; I have seen other’s past lifes and offered these to help in their spiritual and psycho-emotional growth …but this personal experience is so much more profound. Doors open in my consciousness as a result of this experience. The biggest challenge is how to remain at the soul level and how to remain tender, true, and kind to not only the soul connection but also the 3rd dimensional self. It requires grace to incorporate it into my real three dimensional life.
The laws of the soul that transcends dimensions, that travels across timelines, are profoundly different from the laws of third dimensional physicality and morality. When walking your soul path along with your 3rd dimensional self you must be able to honor both sets of laws. In third dimension, there is life and death, black and white, even with the understanding in physics that all is in movement by observing atoms… the experience of a wall is still solid. To walk along the soul path, one must hold these limitations while opening your consciousness to the limitless experience of the soul.
The books offered by Edgar Cayce and Brian Weiss offer a pathway through this unchartered water.
It seems the one with the memories has quite a bit of consciousness juggling to do because the memories are so powerful; But at least there is a full knowing. The soul who has forgotten or cannot express the knowing in an intelligible way, even to himself, has intense emotion without fabric. It is painful.
There is an elevation of consciousness that is overtaking the planet. The focus at times is chaotic. People can feel the change, but are unable to identify the thread of how the elevation can make a difference. The increase in seeing our connection to each other across nations is taking hold.
Along with this elevation, there is a deeper understanding of soul life; this soul work opens the opportunity for increased compassion; the importance of treating each person as if they are part of your soul family. A brother or sister or lover from another spacetime, increases the true sense of connection and need for tenderness in response.
I am deeply grateful to have elevated my sense about the true interconnections not only across species and with the earth as a sentient entity, but also across time and space. It is the unified field theory from the inside out. I hope this experience offers support to any of you who are beginning to see/feel/know information that transcends time and space. in love and light, bg
There was such a positive and powerful response to the first section of chapter one, I thought I would offer the second section to the chapter…please let me know your sense about it… in love and light, bg
I notice the Dean’s lips are moving, but I can’t quite make out what she is saying. Oh good. Finally she is talking.
Involuntarily, I shivered. She was sitting right next to me, but I couldn’t really understand what she was saying; the words were coming in like an out of tune radio station, they just didn’t make any sense. And then I heard her, sharp and clear…
“Robbie is dead.” “His car went off the road Saturday morning. The police think he was killed instantly.”
The thoughts inside my head blew about me … No! No, he isn’t dead; he can’t be dead. I have to tell him… I have to see him. I have to tell him how sorry I am. I have to tell him I’m ready to marry him.
His face flashed across my inner vision. The feelings from our last meeting crashed in my heart.
Flash. Crash!
No! I have to set this right.
I heard my words reverberate back to me. “No! No, he isn’t dead.” “No you mean he’s in the hospital. He’s just hurt; he’ll be okay,” as if I was giving her the corrected line. I couldn’t accept what she was saying.
My urgency must have been unbearable for her. Her eyes blinked with tears. Gently, her head shook no.
She reached across the space on the couch to comfort me, patting my leg rhythmically. I felt faint. The room began to spin. I fell into her chest as she continued to now rhythmically pat my shoulder. She supported me as I broke down.
Her voice unwavering, “No Beth, he is not in the hospital. He’s gone.” He was gone? He left me without knowing that I had changed my mind?
Our last interaction, me being such a jerk, was now unforgivable.
It hit me like a one, two punch to my stomach. He was gone, my beautiful future stolen from me. My uncaring and inflated behavior was our last interaction. It stood like a headstone marker on his grave.
Her words and my memories pierced through my consciousness like a knife through my heart. The pain was debilitating. I couldn’t breathe.
I felt at the edge of nothingness, completely powerless. I sat there deflated, like a pierced party balloon. I don’t know how long I remained in this state. When I looked up, the sun was no longer shining and the trees outside mirrored my inner storm.
I finally composed myself enough to walk out of her office.
Her secretary smiled at me weakly as I passed down the hall.
It was all I could do to put one foot in front of the other; I could barely walk. I found myself at my dorm room. Thankfully, my suitemate returned to her previous muteness.
That was the only thing that returned to normal. Everything and everyone else was different. Night came and left. Day came and turned to night. Life continued around me but I was not a part of it. I felt robotic, disconnected, remote and out of sync with the whole of life around me. I couldn’t tolerate the birds singing or my friends laughing, wherever joy presented itself I turned away. Happiness grated on me like nails on a chalkboard.
I recoiled from life. Spiritless on the inside, I couldn’t even find the energy to fake it on the outside.
The image of her sweater with black marked stains stuck with me for a long time.
I numbly completed my last semester of college, in a fog, unable to concentrate on anything. Everything changed. I couldn’t bear to listen to music, people laughing, or see my friends. And it seemed they avoided me too. I was flat and lifeless; there wasn’t much there for connection.
Entire days went by without me seeing anyone.
I felt desolate, angry with myself, angry with Robbie, lonely and lost.
In the days that passed, I discovered how in his last moments of his precious life Robbie reoriented the direction of the car to save his passenger’s life. A stranger to our community, this sweet young man began to wish he had died instead of Robbie. To his face I said “no, no…don’t think that.” But in my heart I screamed, yes, yes, why do you get to live; why not Robbie. I hated myself for thinking and feeling that way. I couldn’t stop my heart pain. Life was so difficult and challenging. I was walking though water without a regulator, drowning with every breath.
That heroism was so consistently Rob’s character; he was always there at the right time, loyal and dependable when it really mattered. Why didn’t he save himself? I was coming back for him.
Inconsolable, time passed in starts and spurts, and then it seemed to trickle by. So much of my energy went to managing my grief that little was left to relate to friends or complete my studies.
“Beth, I’m giving you this A grade because of your work here-to-for, not for the work in this paper.” The words written in red ink across the front of my final paper stung, but I was grateful for the understanding of my dearest sociology professor.
“This is sub-par work Beth, but I know this has been a difficult time so I’m giving you an A in the class anyway.” Another painful note in red from my psychology professor, I vacillated between painful prickling and numbness. I was grateful for their understanding. There was nothing inside to pull on for my studies; I was bereft of passion. There was just enough life in me to robotically go through the motions.
For the next six weeks, my senses were in a state of paresthesia; over and over my professors forgave my distracted, poor work.
Working at 20 percent, I limped into graduation.
Two months after Robbie’s death I graduated, said goodbye to my friends and school, and shut the door to my previous life.
Spiritless, I walked into my barren future. I was the skin you see from a cicada, perfectly formed with no life inside.
I filled the space with work.
Astonishingly, my logical, solution-focused father was the dearest comfort to me during that time.
Notes arrived. They slowly filled the empty space in my apartment and heart.
“Hi honey, thinking of you! Dad” staring at me as I brushed my teeth.
“Remember to get out and see friends. Dad” taped to my steering wheel. I taped them to my mirror, and used them as bookmarks. They marked my path back to life.
He had an unerring capacity to simply be present with me in my grief.
“Here’s a picture of Robbie from when he was at the house. Love, Dad” That picture became my velveteen rabbit.
One day on the phone he told me that Robbie (unbeknownst to me) arrived in my hometown earlier in the year that Robbie had died; he asked my father’s blessing to marry me.
The pictures of them together at my house simultaneously felt stabbing and comforting. He knew I would come around. He knew I loved him. He had to have known to fly from New York City to Albuquerque, just to see my Dad.
I kept seeing his face at that last meeting, and feeling how out of sync my actions were. It was shocking and triggered intense discomfort. Steadily though, my unconscious kept driving me toward forgiveness. Like a river pushes and pulls fragments down the current, my thoughts drove me toward forgiveness of him, forgiveness of me, forgiveness of God.
My Dad and I shared this deep love for Robbie.
“He was a good man honey. He loved you so much. I’m glad I got to know him. Keep working it will help you stay strong. You can come home any time you want to honey. Love, Dad.” He loved you so much, stay strong, those words reverberated in my mind. It was one of the best notes I received from my Dad. I kept it in my favorite journal.
I worked by day as a law firm runner in LA and by evening as a residential counselor with developmentally delayed adolescents, teaching them independent-living skills.
I loved running by moonlight through downtown LA.
I savored my time alone. I don’t know if it was punishment or protective but it was healing. It gave me time to think, forgive, and distance myself from the intensity of what had happened. Although I did most things alone, I shared my apartment with my best friend from college. She was mostly gone working on political campaigns. I was mostly gone working. It was a perfect arrangement for healing.
I loved her so much because I didn’t have to explain what was going on with me. She knew. She loved me anyway. Other than Trish, I can’t remember making any friends.
My memories of that time are like snippets of fabric sewn together with travel along the Southern California freeways.
After fourteen months my senses came back.
Trish had to move to another state to follow an important campaign. I decided to move back to Albuquerque.
It seemed that light began to come back into my daily life.
I heard the birds singing and it didn’t make me want to yell stop. Music was inviting. I danced.
Somewhere, I found the space within me to have faith again in the fabric of Life.
Robbie’s death became a defining experience in my life. The importance of love, honesty, forgiveness, and acting in congruence with my true character became the boundaries required for health and freedom in relationship.
Ultimately, I felt my deliverance from my inner prison. Salvation lit me slowly with the realization that he knew I loved him. He saw through everything from beginning to end. I was the last to see the truth and it was too late to enjoy the love waiting for me.
I forgave myself for being immature and unthinking.
I developed an urgent need to be authentic in all my communications, a left over compulsion from that fateful night. It made me a bit intense and probably too serious.
Overtime, I befriended the ebb and flow of life and death.
I came to accept that there was a tapestry of life that I could tap into and flow with but that I had to remain sincere and accept the consequences of my actions.
If I had married Robbie, I may not have become the person I am today, leaving a hole in the fabric of the lives of those whom I have offered healing counsel. That’s how I think about it now. I walk in a state of grace, with a sense of gratefulness for the gifts I developed out of my devastating loss; grateful to have positively affected so many through that loss.
And it was from that knowing I spent my last weeks with my father as he got chemotherapy for end stage pancreatic cancer.
And so here is the first chapter of the book…Working through loss offers deep awareness of the tapestry of life…, how have your traumas elevated your consciousness? Send me a comment or write one in the space below…in love and light, bg
Intention, Attention, Perspective, and Perception, are four words that describe sensefulness; these words are guiding principles that create in their intersection mindful action. Acting from these principles, together, places a person in present-time and calls for mindful action.
Being mindful is like seeing in 3-Dimensions, seeing in several dimensions, at once.
When I first started to do injections into joints I had to learn all the anatomy of those joints. There is a sensfulness that it requires for success. It requires a degree of inner sight that creates a set of coordinates that places the fluid precisely where it needs to go. It is the same when working with complicated systems, family and relationship systems. When working as a therapist with families or couples seeing in 3-D is fundamental to being able to get the whole picture from the two (or more) skewed perspectives offered. You have to be able to interpret what is, and isn’t said, as well as the energy and force of what matters to the various participants.
Reading pulses in my oriental medicine training, and attending to the face, energy, and meridian systems in each human I treat with Oriental medicine requires attending to all the information in relation to each other and in space and time. I was taught to feel depth, quality and speed of each of the 12 channels but I also felt the emotion that went with the pulse. One of my teachers told me that was atypical. Yet it was the most important aspect to HOW I chose to treat the person successfully. This multidimensional sight is simply the intersection of the principles of Intention, Attention, Perspective, and Perception. This is the way in which one determines How to respond to incoming stimuli when interacting with others mindfully or in relationships as partners and parents
I think seeing in 3-D is essential for real, full communication and right action. And unless it’s natural it’s something that requires awareness about how to do it and lots of practice.
The words intention, attention, perspective, and perception increase your awareness and focus you onto the space in a 3-dimensional way.
Intention focuses you in on what you intend, what you want/desire or what the other intends, wants/desires.
Attention focuses you in on the tone, loudness, word choice, meaning and emotion as well as whether you and the other have the same meaning for words and/or actions – it pulls you into the present.
Perspective gets you into the figure/ground aspect of the interaction and allows for paradigm identification and paradigm shifting.
And, perception has aspects of all of the other three but in a more whole-istic fashion. It allows for mindful understanding and mindful action.
It’s like looking at a situation, relationship, or problem from a 360 degree perspective, breadth as well as depth.
When you are thinking about a situation or a relationship start to use these words as guide posts to increase your mindfulness awareness of yourself and the other(s) involved and see if you don’t get some surprising answers about what may be going on in those situations.
You can use your intuitive sense, your observations, questioning skills, and willingness to listen and act in a mindful present moment way. Practice applying the whole picture to the situation. (Copyright, bethgineris from turning NO to ON: the art of parenting with mindfulness, 2011.)
Working with the idea of 4th dimension, space and time, is a way of thinking about what happens when you are shifting paradigms.
Immanuel Kant in his Critique of Pure Reason developed a concept of transcendental philosophy. In Kant’s view, a priori intuitions and concepts provide us with some a priori knowledge which also provides the framework for our a posterior knowledge. His theory about space-time is fascinating as to how it relates to the 4th dimension. Space and time for Kant are a form of perceiving, together, and causality is a form of knowing. From his perspective both space and time and our conceptual principles and processes pre-structure our experience.
This develops the idea that paradigms and paradigm shifting are a product of perceiving and then introspectively knowing. For Kant things as they are in themselves are unknowable. In his view for something to become an object of knowledge, it must be experienced, and experience is structured by our minds – both space and time being the forms of our intuition, or perception, and the unifying, structuring activity of our concepts. These aspects of mind turn things in themselves into the world of experience – so that they can be known.
For me, multidimensional sight is viewing with your five senses plus intuition,
and the concept of time as represented by the now, past, and future;
2/ recognizing how interpretations in time affect the future; and
3/ noting how changing those interpretations actually CHANGES reality.
Mindfulness increases ones capacity to see in 4-D. I think of mindfulness as a concept that includes spirit, mind, and body responses integrated with information to guide our actions and cognitions, in the space-time continuum of the NOW.
Our minds are full with a focus on perception, attention, perspective, intention, and time. These are the foci that allow us to see in 4-d – giving space for figure/ground perspective and paradigm shifting.
Intuition provides a blink response, as described by Malcolm Gladwell in this book by the same name. A cue that there is something wrong or right. It allows for us to integrate our observations of our sensing system with our knowledge to guide us. The blink quality may allow for this integration to come to us as a whole (what Fritz Perls defined as a Gestalt) and in an instant.
Emotions are not knowings in and of themselves, they are triggers, or responses – it may be a trigger to alert us that there is someone crossing our boundaries like an internal sensing alarm system, or they may be emotional triggers to survivor scenarios, or responses as a posterior knowledge.
Viewing emotions as experiences but not knowings assists one in determining how to respond to an emotion. A good example is Feeling sorry for oneself it can erode at our being in an insidious way but is not always rooted in a reality.
Recognizing that perceptions and experiences can be temporal but not necessarily real or factual can assist one in seeing in 4-D and remaining centered in ones life.
If you find yourself feeling defensive, angry or feeling poor me, assess whether the feeling is part of a habit reaction pattern or a trigger OR an accurate assessment of something happening in the present moment.
Sometimes these feelings are cues about how what is happening now is akin to something historical that needs to be addressed.
When the feeling is nagging and bothersome rather than intense and loud then it may be indicative of a problem if it feels reactive and loud then it may be more of a habit reaction pattern or trigger. This is counterintuitive.
You can make a comparison of history event and the now event, to discern which is in play.
Mindfulness is a concept of utilizing one’s emotional sensory guidance system, and physical sensing system and the
Fullcapacity of our cognitive and problem solving skills to evaluate situations and experiences in order to create and guide our way. This is seeing in 4-D and allows for a unifying and flexible style of relating in the world.
Seeing in 4-D increases one’s capacity for centeredness and groundedness with flexibility and strength.
Seeing in multiple dimensions, inner guidance III
Allowing yourself to listen to the vast information available to you through your internal guidance system is essential for mindful, comprehensive communication and right action. Even though this is a natural, instinctual process – it can be eroded in early childhood due to a push to conform to group rules and beliefs – when you want to recapture your connection to this internal guidance you need to increase your awareness and practice paying attention and responding.
The words intention, attention, perspective, and perception increase your awareness and focus you onto the space in a multi-dimensional way. Each word embodies a specific energy or vibration that can wholly stand alone, but when the energy of each term is inked the whole of the process is multi-dimensional.
• Feel into the meaning of each of these terms for yourself so that you can get an image of the vibration of the word interacting like an equation with the other words.
• Give the internal image dimension through color or shape in how you experience the words interacting.
• This will allow you to create your own picture of how to focus yourself onto your path through your inner guidance holding the multi-dimensional information from your senses together yet bounded in a way to see the various paradigms.
• The interactions between and among the vibrations are as important as the word meanings and the whole equation.
You may see the words relating like a spear and a target, then a circling or something that encompasses and then finally something that shoots to a height and then grounds like an anchor. All directions and energies; not a blur of color that becomes murky but energy and color interacting and adjusting
Intention focuses you in on what you intend, what you want/desire or what the other intends, wants/desires.
Attention focuses you in on the tone, loudness, word choice, meaning and emotion as well as whether you and the other have the same meaning for words and/or actions – it pulls you into the present.
Perspective gets you into the figure/ground aspect of the interaction and allows for paradigm identification and paradigm shifting.
And perception has aspects of all of the other three. It allows for mindful understanding and mindful action.
It’s like looking at a situation, relationship, or problem from a 360 degree perspective, breadth as well as depth, multi-dimensionally.
So when you are thinking about a situation or a relationship start to use these words as guide posts to increase your mindfulness awareness of yourself and the other(s) involved and see if you don’t get some surprising answers about what may be going on in those situations. Pay attention to your internal guidance through your six senses to see if you can get a multidimensional picture and understanding of the situation or relationship.
You can use your intuitive sense, your observations, questioning skills, and willingness to listen and act in a mindful present moment way and this will have two effects: increase your personal degree of compassion and decrease your personalization of the information – personalization here meaning taking something personally with some sort of negative attachment rather than seeing the information more objectively or mindfully.
Paying attention to the quiet voice within and clarifying your intention – these will increase your understanding of your inner guidance and give you direction about what is your best right action.
It can also help you know when your best action is non-action, allowing or going with the flow. For some this is the most difficult “action” to take, but when it is connected to this inner knowing it feels active to be in a waiting, allowing space.
Being mindful opens the door to seeing in multiple dimensions and distinguishing different currents of information simultaneously, which creates a space to understand each separately and see how each affect the other.
Copyright, beth gineris, turning Me to we: the art of partnering with mindfulness, 2013.
YOU can Gather support from the natural environment.
Meditate, create art, work in the garden, exercise, walk through nature, in reconnecting with the tapestry of life you can see the support there as you offer shift in consciousness to your human community.
Shed your skin, Trust your heart-centered, inner guidance IV system. Live your life fully and allow your full, big self to be present in the tapestry of life. You may experience a new Alignment within you, around you and between you and source. in love and light, bg
Find out more in my new book,Instinctive Health Medicine, Finding Your Path to Grace, due out in July 2016.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Aligning with your true path, your true self with your multidimensional sight allows for healing.
Practicing mindful meditation on a daily basis changes the interchange between your inner tripartite mind.
Your tripartite mind was identified by Freud where he observed that decisions were made through an inner interaction between your inner id: primitive wants and desires, your inner rule holder, your superego and your inner mediator, your ego who looks for ways to make both the id and the superego happy. Too much emphasis on the id ruling your decision-making and you end up being a person who is self-centered, not very good at negotiating with your peers and in general a taker in society. Too much emphasis on the superego ruling your decision-making and you end up being a bit bossy, rigid, and not very good at navigating in relationship. While the balance is found in emphasizing the ego’s role of balancing inner needs and society’s rules. Mindfulness is a fantastic way to empower the balancing aspect of your tripartite mind, the ego. ( In general, those who are encouraging mindful meditation reference the selfish and rigid aspects of the mind, (id and superego) by calling them the ego – so it can be confusing.)
Mindful meditation It increases your ability to respond in real-time and allow your instinctive sensory connected cues to guide you rather than your habit reaction patterns reactivity. This allows you to increase your internal sense of empowerment, inner sense of strength and your inner security.
This is a powerful lesson in parenting. To teach your child to develop his or her authentic sense of self you free up an inordinate amount of defensive energy so that he or she can simply allow the flow of life to create and innovate and be happy. But it has to start through your action. What you model is the first lesson taught to your child about health and inner strength, security.
When you model mindful action and respond to tragedy and difficulty with joy, patience, mindfulness, and a sense of inner security, you offer a specific model to help your child develop his or her own sense of inner strength and security.
Forgiveness, mindfulness, and focus on what matters are important keys to this process.
Here is an example of this process of modeling in action. This happened as a result of my authentic modeling of powerful inner security and acting in a way that moves a situation forward.
Several years ago, when my daughter was five years old, I was writing an important lecture for my continuing education class at a community college. I was close to completing the project. I had a time-crunch and was working quickly, at my kitchen table while my daughter was drawing next to me. I thought I was saving the project. I had just completed some important slides wherein I had created some complicated graphs about the power of mindful meditation and it’s effects on the brain. So I had added statistics, information and graphics of the brain. I was completing slide 65. When I went back to send it to my colleague at the university I only had 30 slides. 35 slides had been lost. This was a disaster, as the information was due in two hours so that it could be printed for the participants. I had lost two days of work. When I realized my situation, I had a shortness of breath. I looked on my desktop and in other areas to see if the slides were available on the computer elsewhere. I was unsuccessful in finding them anywhere. So I emailed my colleague to let her know the situation and sent the slides I still had saved. My daughter observed my behavior and my demeanor. What she heard me say was, I don’t want to waste my time getting upset, as it wouldn’t help me with my problem. I sat back down and restarted writing the slides. I was able to finish the project in 90 minutes, because I focused on the process with faith and inner security that I could do it. It was logical as I was only redoing what I had already done, so it was not going to take the same amount of time as it did when I was creating the original slides. Maintaining a sense of mindfulness and letting go of my negative emotional response I had more energy to get it done. The slides went to the printer in plenty of time and the conference was a hit.
But here’s the important part of this story.
Two days later my daughter was working on her computer to draw a picture for her friend for her birthday. She worked on it for an hour. She was bringing it to her friend’s house for her birthday that day. Just as we were getting organized to leave she went to print the picture and there was nothing to print. She had forgotten to save the final product. My five-year old daughter looked at the blank page and rather than crying or throwing a tantrum or making a big deal she said, I don’t want to waste my time on getting angry, I’m just going to go back to the computer and redo it, just like mommy did with her seminar. She returned to the computer and did another picture, she didn’t have as much time, but she was happy with her gift.
A sense of Power is derived from inner security, and inner strength. It requires confidence and clarity. When you feel insecure, or confused you feel powerless.
Pay attention to your feelings to assist you in releasing that which no longer serves you.
You may need to forgive before you can let go.
Anger is an important part of survival. It links with fear and energy to survive.
The limbic system is the part of the brain that reacts to the physical world reflexively and instantaneously, in real-time, and without thought. This is based on previous experience and a number of pathways set up through habit reaction patterning. This causes individuals to automatically act in specific ways that over time are against their best interest. Freud called this repetition compulsion.
Freud identified that humans had a compulsion to repeat specific negative experiences in an effort to change the outcome.
Buddhist thought identifies that mindfulness allows a person to delay that compulsion to react and offers an opportunity to respond to the specific instance in play. When one does mindful meditation consistently the meditator increases his or her ability to mindfully respond.
There are studies that show that mindful meditation changes the shape and lighting up of the amygdala and hippocampus such that there is an increase in the attitude of altruism. This increases the chance for collaborative, mutually positive mindful response to situations and reduces that automatic firing of reactivity that causes defensive reactions. The Amygdala integrates emotional meaning with perception and experience. The hippocampus integrates short-term memory storage and retrieval. All of these physical activities within your brain are shifted to the positive through mindful meditation. This allows for a shift from reactivity to proactivity.
When you model the practice of mindful action, meditation, thoughtful compassionate action you are changing the world around you through your positive effect on those closest to you. Your children will reap the benefits of this behavior and you will promote the development of inner power, security, authentic action and social change on a core level.
This social change will be away from propaganda and an external locus of control through popularity and following the outside push of reactivity to an internal locus of control, a sense of empowerment, security, inner strength, resilience and overall spirit-mind-body health.
Children learn through modeling.
As they grow and develop, they say what they heard and do what they saw in childhood.
Sometimes that means they develop the same inconsistent words and actions they observed in they youth.
Make your best efforts to be congruent, or to discuss the conflicting beliefs you hold. Help them understand the multi-layer aspects of decision-making so that they can find their own personal, congruent beliefs.
Practice compassionate understanding and compassionate discipline, lovingkindness, forgiveness, courage, inner strength, and bravery. Modeling these shows them a way to stand up to the propaganda and simple answers they are bombarded with through marketing, and divisive political activities so they can create authentic multilevel personal solutions to the difficult problems in their communities.
Parenting is more than providing the physical support needed for children to grow. It is important to offer protection and support to develop their spirit and mind as well. A healthy spirit in a child will lead to mindful action and physical health. A healthy spirit is one where children have flexibility, resilience, inner strength, courage, bravery, compassionate understanding, inner drive, and a sense of connection to the fabric of life. in love and light, bg
Being in the environment, modeling care of plants, animals, forests, oceans, and that the earth and its inhabitants are all connected as one is the most powerful way to bring us all together as one community and create a sense of unity.
Gather support from the natural environment.
Meditate, create art, work in the garden, exercise, walk through nature, in reconnecting with the tapestry of life you can see the support there as you offer shift in consciousness to your human community.
Shed your skin, Trust your heart-centered, inner guidance IV system. Live your life fully and allow your full, big self to be present in the tapestry of life. You may experience a new Alignment within you, around you and between you and source. in love and light, bg
Find out more in my new book,Instinctive Health Medicine, Finding Your Path to Grace, due out in July 2016.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Aligning with your true path, your true self in your multidimensional self allows for healing.
Seemingly it is the sixties again…from the alternative world to the mainstream news, the children of the sixties, who are now in their sixties are interpreting events to fit their agenda. It doesn’t matter if you read your astrology: the writers want to bring back the sixties, or if you watch the news: there are riots in the streets because of racism… it’s as if the children of the sixties have only one style of interpreting the events around them. Their view of the world has overtaken that of those that were in power before them (the fifties generation)…. it’s not that strange for social groups to want to create the world in their image…it’s the rhetoric which is problematic for me. I can see their point, I see where they are coming from, the problem is that it is out of sync out of the timespace of thinking, it limits the opportunity for true consciousness elevation. Collaboration, unity, and the understanding, true belief that we are all one world. requires ascension, it requires seeing in a higher dimension, not dualistic but multidimensionally to work toward creating that unity.
I was raised in the same set of beliefs. I challenged my parent’s worldview. I learned to think in a liberal environment and questioned authority. I was a strong Kennedy Liberal.
Now that the liberal perspective is the authority, the question authority challenge has to come from the libertarian or conservative perspective.
It’s a neutral theme about how to think critically.
I understand that politics is full of propaganda, but propaganda doesn’t serve the alternative community.
The alternative community is where innovation, and really holding the middle space should be coming from. Unfortunately, I see propaganda coming through in astrology readings, channelings, and fringe prediction on a daily basis.
This is my litmus test. Once I hear or read a push toward propaganda I know that person is pushing their ego perspective not channeling from a high source. When I channel information I am continually surprised by the level of love and neutrality and elevated information I receive and hear. Consistently I experience the beauty of the higher dimensional systems; I may feel a negative sense toward someone in my personhood, but then when I channel from source, I hear source saying that person is light just like me…Source is not in good/bad or third dimension, source in in a dimension beyond fifth.
This may sound a little weird to my readers who are not part of the alternative world. That’s cool, let’s look at it from a more cognitive perspective.
My world view is not that of the hippie, partly because I am just too young to have that part of my cellular structure (although I have lots of peers that have gripped that belief system), partly because I am driven toward congruence. Which is to say if I am challenging another to be loving and kind I strive to treat that person the way I am entreating them to treat others. That is not what is happening in the community at large from the mainstream perspective. More often than not I observe hatefulness, superiority, righteousness, and a demeanor of superiority in my fiercely liberal friends toward their political opposites or those whom they propagandize as against their beliefs. That feels deeply incongruent with the liberal agenda of being compassionate toward others. Whenever acting in a way outside of what you are requesting to be the action toward yourself, then you are not living in an integrated spirit self mindful space.
I was raised by a person whose life-breath was integrated compassion and mindfulness derived from his amazing intellect. This integrated spiritual/cognitive mindfulness became my natural way in the world; it became my life-breath. In addition, I was lucky enough to not push down my sensory guidance system that results in a sensefulness knowing that connects me to other humans, animals, plants, nature and spirit in an inexplicable way, and assists me in knowing that we are one world, one planet, one group – all.
I am an immigrant’s daughter. My people left a difficult place to make a better life. They worked hard to make that a truth. No handouts, nothing for free. Those hard life stories that aren’t a myth but reality for my people. My father was the baby of 13 children. His father died when he was a teenager. He won a scholarship to university in Chicago, due to his amazing intellect, and had to forego it to work full time to support his mother. His mother had to mortgage her home to send him to night school, which he completed in 3 years while still working. He took care of his sisters, his mother, and his family, whenever asked. He was the first of his generation to get a college degree. He worked hard, started five businesses, each successful, and then sent all of his children to college. We went on to get graduate degrees, and for one of us from Ivy league Universities. I am the child of a man who moved five social class positions in his short lifetime and then raised me with principles that used to be considered ‘American principles’.
I went to a very liberal, liberal arts college where I was taught HOW to think, not what to think, all perspectives were offered and supported, it was my job to develop critical thinking and decode for myself what mattered. And I came back home challenging my parents’ belief systems, looking at how my country was making mistakes and believing we could make the whole world better through mindfulness, communication, compassion and care. I traveled to Europe and my continent neighbors, and I saw how countries, like people, were not all cut from the same cloth. Different things worked successfully for different countries just as they do for different personalities. I studied Sociology and breathed-in the understanding that culture defines and creates thinking in a way that sometimes shifts a person out of critical, mindful thinking. I learned that you have to challenge the belief systems that ‘seem’ natural and like breathing, because those are ideas that were introjected, swallowed whole, rather than a function of critical thinking. (gestalt therapy, theory, peeling the onion, how to create mini-cultural revolutions) I worked in the chronic mental health community and helped people caught in that community to interact more efficiently in a world that didn’t quite make sense. I interacted with and helped people in the fringe of our society, always with compassion and care. I learned a lot about how culture, experience and dualistic thinking created the problems surrounding the American culture.
Now, I write about mindfulness and sensfulness, ecopsychology, multidimensional interaction and the elevation of consciousness. The answer is not in either the liberal or conservative perspective, it is in transcending and including BOTH. The answer is in integrating the diverse belief systems so that they are interacting in a positive, caring, accepting collaborative way.
How is this related to Independence day? The people who strove to change the nation were like my father, integrated spiritual people. They made an effort to transcend the rebellious pull, to create a thoughtful design to maintain a space in the middle, to help those who show up in the nation to create a real change in how people were treated. They were imperfect, they couldn’t change some of the beliefs that were against their spiritual knowing, so they wrote the Declaration of Independence to include what they knew to be true that all people were created equal, all had the right to life and liberty. As the years go by we create the fullness of that truth with all people, and for my mind all sentient beings on the planet and the planet herself. There is still more work to go to elevate the consciousness of the planet. But those men then created an avenue through the declaration of independence to offer a way to create a higher level of consciousness right here. For that reason I am proud to be an American, and through that care and love for this experiment, I am dragging in the entire human race, the animals and plants and stars, hoping that soon, very soon all can see how we are one people, one world. how wolves change rivers
From my experience with Sociology, with helping people in many different communities and cultures, we aren’t going to get there by demeaning groups through propaganda. We can do it through a real dialogue, sincerely using sensefulness and mindfulness in a multidimensional way to create a healing and an elevation of consciousness on the planet. The empathic civilization, Jeremy Rifkin
With each step you can step onto the Path to Grace.
It requires internally challenging your knee-jerk reactions, belief systems, and those things that trigger you to anger and hatefulness.healing survivor scenarios
Act from a compassionate understanding place with an ernest desire to understand your fellow and sister perspective so that you can learn and grow and clarify your own perspective.
Act toward others with the loving care you desire from them. Use the golden and silver rule to guide you and the elevation of consciousness is at hand.
Not all will survive this powerful time. Each of you can maintain your integrated mindfulness and sensefulness, and while you are learning from others, they are learning from you. This will create the space for an elevation in consciousness. five element cleanse
Gather support from the natural environment.
Meditate, create art, work in the garden, exercise, walk through nature, in reconnecting with the tapestry of life you can see the support there as you offer shift in consciousness to your human community.
Shed your skin, Trust your heart-centered, inner guidance IV system. Live your life fully and allow your full, big self to be present in the tapestry of life. You may experience a new Alignment within you, around you and between you and source. in love and light, bg
Find out more in my new book,Instinctive Health Medicine, Finding Your Path to Grace, due out in July 2016.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Aligning with your true path, your true self in your multidimensional self allows for healing.
Every now and then it’s good to check your behavior to see if you have developed a habit of making yourself small, or invisible, to not offend those around you.
This happens as a survival technique. You see it in humans who find themselves homeless, rescue animals, children from hostile environments and empaths, or sensitives. These beings work at staying invisible to avoid attack. They live on the edges of the world.
For those of you who are sensitive or empathic the experience of moving into being seen can be challenging. It requires standing confident in what you know, without attack and learning to use a style of Verbal Aikido to not feel the injuries thrown your way.
Certainly the use of the Four Agreements as you develop your multilevel communication are helpful in maintaining a sense of balance as you step into your full self and remove your invisibility cloak.
The process of truncating your personality takes time. It begins early in your life, before you actually get the chance to be Big.
It is as an involuntary action, like holding up your hand to your face as protection when you see something coming at you. It’s an involuntary, protective action. For empaths it happens early in life.
What may surround the cloak is a feeling of vigilance, a sense of smallness or lack of protection, and pressure to not take up much space.
You can hear it in your voice: ending sentences in an upward lilt, not speaking your truth, giving in and a turn away from conflict.
Usually it works so well that after the first time it gets ingrained into your personality, your behavior habits, your social interactions, until after awhile, maybe a year or more it is your only way to act. You may know the answer but you only tentatively offer your argument, submissively offering that you may be right, even when inside you know that 2 plus 2 is 4, or in the Buddhist tradition 2+2=1 – you say it cautiously barely taking a stand.
You know you have this invisible cloak style of relating
if you often feel you are not listened to or not heard. You may expereince others actually walking right over you in speech and conversation. You may feel yourself slightly bowed internally as if protecting your heart and solar plexus.
And you have a strong pressure to keep your focus on the other:
how to help the other, how to make the other happy, what needs the other has, how to make your self useful, agreeable,non-threatening.
To a small degree this is part of life. Integrating with the social group, give and take, empathy, and compassion, seeing another’s point of view.
When it becomes pathological is when you are unable to actually stand up for yourself. You feel anxious, your heart pounding if you are to state your opinion and you feel deeply injured when others do not hear or listen to you.
As a person begins to shift away from being small, the cloak interferes. You may feel conflicted as you stand up for yourself. You may feel easily injured when others do not hear you or see you. You may be so sensitive to other’s feelings that you don’t communicate what you are feeling, or you don’t act to create your own life, in order to make the other person not feel hurt or offense.
And when you do start to speak your truth, you may notice that those around you will work to put you back into the small place in which you have been living.
If you are wearing an invisibility cloak you may want to use the MAAPS program to see which of the insecurity drivers, Money, Attachment, Achievement, Power, or Structure, are in play.
As you attempt to act from a more honest, confident, grounded, and WHOLE BEING space, you may find that you are inarticulate in how you identify yourself and how you stand up for yourself in relationship. This is normal. The path to removing your invisibility cloak is to re-member all your parts. To bring together, in a more empowered and confident way, your integrated self.
You have to allow yourself the road of mistakes in how you speak up, how you communicate your truth and knowing, and you have to tolerate that others will be offended, angry and unhappy with your shifting and growth.
It is a delicate dance to learn a new way of standing visible in the world, in your community.
This will be especially difficult for empaths and sensitives who are making an effort to create a consciousness change in the fabric of the universe. Being challenged to be kind, while identifying problems in relationships and being challenged to confront the long held duality consciousness that disallows the elevation of consciousness.. You will feel challenged to be always kind and to be the bigger person which often results in you actually making yourself small.
Every now and then it’s good to check your behavior to see if you have developed a habit of making yourself small, or invisible, to not offend those around you.
If you discover you have an invisibility cloak use the above steps to take it off and practice visibility. Allow yourself to tolerate others not liking you, stay connected to source. As you are able to tolerate others not liking you, you will also notice that you can tolerate this attack and feel more aligned with the whole truth.
Gather support from the natural environment.
Meditate, create art, work in the garden, exercise, walk through nature, in reconnecting with the tapestry of life you can see the support there as you offer shift in consciousness to your human community.
Shed your skin, Trust your heart-centered, inner guidance IV system. Live your life fully and allow your full, big self to be present in the tapestry of life. You may experience a new Alignment within you, around you and between you and source. in love and light, bg
Find out more in my new book,Instinctive Health Medicine, Finding Your Path to Grace, due out in July 2016.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Aligning with your true path, your true self in your multidimensional self allows for healing.
In the early nineties, I had the great experience of working and training with two powerful Reiki practitioners in Albuquerque, NM. After several years of interaction, training, and practice, I began to use these healing skills to assist others in shifting the unseen fields around them, as well as their cognitive habits that interfered with their growth. This training deeply informed my natural Medical Intuitive ability. It gave form and structure to the information that I had received and intuited since beginning my therapy practice, and allowed me a process to share this information more effectively.
This was the beginning of a long journey of developing myself as the vehicle for change, so that not only did I have access to my words, cognitive headstands, care, mindfulness, compassion, and stillness, I also had access to healing via energy exchange with my hands.
Long before I had read a book called Joy’s Way (W. Brugh Joy, MD, 1979). I knew that what he described in his book, was what happened in therapy with my clients and patients. I could feel other’s pain, or emotional energy, negative or positive; I was affected by the energy of spaces; and I had strong time-space continuum experiences of previous lives with the people with whom I came into contact. I noticed if I asked, an answer would come – a knowing. I could see problems in spaces by simply asking to see the space and look for negative energy. I learned later this was called remote viewing and remote clearing; and that my knowing was like channeling, or a form of clairvoyance. But for me it was simply natural, like breathing. Actually for a long time it was more trouble than helpful, because I knew things about others that they didn’t precisely know themselves. It created lots of trouble in personal relationships, as you might imagine. And because I could feel other’s pain, I felt a lot of pain in me. It took some time to discern what was me and what was other.
He discussed how he saw, felt the power energy centers in the hands, and feet, splenic area, knees, elbows and hips, as well as the chakras in the multidimensional field of his patients. This was a way in which he could assist them in their healing.
(This was not his image, but offers information about the energy fields).
I used the long distance technique solely until I received my Doctor of Oriental Medicine License in 2005. And today I continue to find the long distance technique as most supportive and healing as it allows individuals to have access to the healing energy at any time.
This has made me into a lovely healing channel for those who find their way into my office. You can read about my experience finding my husband’s cancer in a previous blog, https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/05/26/instinctive-knowing/ on this site or my book Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness book (2011)
I found the Reiki symbols were very helpful at increasing my sensibilities and focusing my compassion and care with the elevation of Universal Love. And I found the principles as profoundly valuable:
In 1995 Diane Stein wrote a book called Essential Reiki in which she printed the powerful Reiki symbols. Previously these symbols were only received at attunements, after study and practice with a Reiki practitioner. It was a big deal among practitioners that she chose to do this. I felt it was a great opportunity for many more people to be inspired by the power of healing their etheric, emotional, and cognitive fields allowing for a new alignment with spirit.
Since that time I have used the symbols to help others increase their connection to Universal Love. Reiki energy is pure healing energy, it connects to Universal Love. It cannot be used for something negative; this is to say one cannot use the symbols to increase their power to do something harmful.
I use the symbols to protect my daughter as she leaves for school, or when she is away from me. It allows her to be surrounded by positive energy and assists her to remain mindful, connected to source. I did this for Max when he was younger and I feel it helped him through many difficult times.
Here are the symbols: The top symbol is called ‘cho ku rei‘. It is the Power symbol in that it empowers the person and it empowers the other symbols. The next one pictured is called ‘sei he ki’. It assists in clearing emotional trauma or incorrect thinking. You can use this symbol in conjunction with a positive mantra, like I am loved, and then follow that statement with the power symbol. The third symbol is called the ‘hon sha ze sho nen’ and it is the tree of life symbol it connects heaven and earth, it is used for long distance healing and to assist in proper alignment to the person and the chakra system.
To use the symbols they are drawn either in the air or on paper from left to right and top to bottom, then the name is stated three times (in your head or out loud). The you may say the mantra three times and then draw the power symbol to empower the mantra and symbols. With the tree of life symbol again it is drawn left to right then top to bottom, like a painting, the name is i=said three times and then the power symbol is drawn. The power symbol is drawn from right to left then down and around clockwise to increase power or turn on the light switch. (Diane Stein offers information in her book about the power of clockwise and counterclockwise drawing of the power symbol.)
I encourage you to use these for yourself. At first, to understand, and increase, your understanding of how they assist you before using them with others.
One of the best ways to assist you in elevating your consciousness is to choose to follow one of the Reiki principles above, by saying for example, “just for today … and then complete with one of the principles above like…. “Just for today, I will not anger”.
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris.com. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover how your worldview works to your benefit or detriment, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011). If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
Aligning with your true path, your true self in your multidimensional self allows for healing.
When you feel you are hitting a wall in your relationships consider the difference in these four concepts in how you respond to the blockage.
Break down: it’s like a flat tire. You stop. You cannot move forward or backward. You’re in a stagnant, sometimes involuting situation. This leads to disease, disconnection, and stagnation. Following a break down you can discover a way to break through.
Break up: complete disconnection. Separation. Detached, unattached. This can be very positive when there is a stalled situation that has no mutually satisfying resolution.
Break out: again disconnection, freeing from a tethering or prison or domination. Following a Break out you may be able to discern a break through.
Break through: This is an elevation. A shift in consciousness. In this phrase there is a freeing from a tethering of inner belief that is holding you back. Breaking through requires mindfulness and paradigm shifting.
If you are in a situation that has stalled, where you are experiencing a need for change or a revolving unresolved conflict…consider which of these is your best action.
You can get there from here…when you use the phrase break through you have the chance of reclaiming yourself, reconnecting with your partner, and shifting the world in which you live simultaneously…how great is that? in love and light, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries..
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris website. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. Go outside, reconnect with your center with a walk in nature. in love and light, bg
Partnering with Mindfulness offers the opportunity to have thriving, mindful, mutually empowering relationships. In November, I wrote about how to negotiate the holidays with grace and included this acronym as a way to focus your energy. https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2014/11/19/smile/. I have reposted some of it here:
Smile: Spirit, Mind, Intention, aLignment, and Energy Spirit: reconnect to your heart’s joy through tastes and smells that elevate your heart connection: dark chocolate, helps to calm your heart and treat palpitations and and anxiety ( not too much at a time of course) Blue and red berries, great antioxidants and blood builders help to elevate your mood, cinnamon has a calming warming effect, and a positive side effect of balancing blood sugar so helps to balance mood, the sweet licorice taste of fennel, tarragon, and anise help to calm cramping, aids digestion and calms the heart. Ylang ylang, orange zest, lime, bergamot, rose, geranium, and vanilla all assist to set the mood. They have positive effects at the olfactory level and assist to reduce feelings of depression, apathy, anger, and insecurity and increase feeling of joy, connection, acceptance, and forgiveness. Mind: Shift your attitude to where you actually have power, engage compassion, forgiveness, and perspective shifting. (see below the 2 steps that assist in this activity). Intention: reset to your parasympathetic nervous system. Breathe! Slow down and rest then refocus from your center. Identify what you really want to accomplish- what is your goal for the holiday ? — Begin with the attitude of gratitude. aLignment: reorder your priority: Focus on what you WANT, rather than what you Fear – See and focus on what is working – What you are grateful for – Stand in the center of your internal power… About what you know about yourself and our partner and what feels like love to your partner…try to live there.
Feeling loved has the qualities of acceptance and feeling seen. Really loving has the qualities of seeing with acceptance and understanding.
Most people spend their lives looking for love and or acceptance. The best way to feel love is to love another.
A book by Eric Fromm called The Art of Loving, is one of my guiding sources for how to love as well as the book The Road Less Travelled by Scott Peck. These books provide a view of love that is an offering for a paradigm shift from the traditional concepts of loving and seeing. It’s about how to see the other, to experience and offer love more fully with acceptance and compassion. (see this post for more information: https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/07/20/love/ )
Energy: Release and let go of historical grudges – forgive, (if the action is something that disallows you from seeing the person – this is a reasonable choice -> it is the holding on that I am suggesting you release – it happened, it changed you or the other person or your relationship – accept that fact, and then release the anger, fear, and negativity so that it can be placed into your history and not create stress or disease in the now). Part of energy is movement so if you begin to feel down remember to eat whole foods, drink clean and healing water, BREATHE, and get your body moving, with dance, yoga, or hiking to get the bugs out, go into nature and experience the tapestry of life all around you sometimes hidden when we are focused on too much thinking and not enough heart….Energy is also part of everything above..it is the culmination of integrated spirit, body, and mind lead by your heart- intuition.
Smile. The actual action of smiling relieves, heals, builds your immunities, offers an opportunity for connection to others in peace and on the same plane. It is a gift to yourself and a gift to those with whom you interact. It is a flower that can uplevel your and other’s consciousness. Smile with gratitude, in forgiveness, to rejuvenate, –>> return to balance.
The most challenging aspect of relationship is connecting…not when you feel all gooey and lovey, but when you feel hurt, disconnected, or angry…of course that is one of the most important times to connect..
Try these two steps when you are faced with that situation..
Do a cognitive head stand:
Think of everything you like about that person, whether you feel angry because of something they did or didn’t do or say OR hurt by them in some way,
This focuses you on why you want to work out the disconnect and how much you care about him or her… once you do that, you free yourself up from the defensive, fight posture and open yourself up to the connection posture…
Hold an image of the person in your mind in that loving space when you begin to discuss the problem…every time you feel his or her negativity, reorient yourself internally – look at that image,
That will help you communicate from your heart, you will have to say what is bugging you, but HOW you say it will be what is communicated – the love and connection.
Consider this: ‘It’s not about being right it’s about be with (connecting)…that’s the glue of relationship.’ (Gineris, 2013, Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness).
Relationships are dynamic and multi-level. You come in and out of being in the same space. Sometimes you are completely in sync and when that happens you flow. When you feel the stickiness, the flow not flowing, but sticking, then you have to check your perspective and reorient yourself.
It helps to remember what brought you to the relationship in the first place.
This requires you shift out of a right/wrong, defensive perspective and into a clarity of connection. It requires you disperse and shift defensiveness in to connection.
Defensiveness is a product of feeling attacked. In most relationships defensiveness is the way in which the fight continues…so if you feel defensive, you can shift out of it through the above two step process. Defensiveness and competition go hand in hand.
Competition is a wonderful thing. It is a great way to discern who is the best athlete or competitor of the people who showed up to the event…but in relationship competition can be divisive, and create distance, and resentment. In relationship individuals are looking to be seen, accepted, and co-create. There can be a sharing of leadership, and knowledge and teaching.
Connection and collaboration – interdependence is the key.
Collaboration offers the best style of interaction in relationship. You cannot collaborate when you are vying for proof of rightness. Collaboration is a byproduct of mindful paradigm shifting. It allows both parties to share personal perspectives while discovering a centered place where both perspectives meet.
Family and love relationships are the kind of relationships where this is most paramount.
Often it is a tone, phrase, feeling, or style of interacting, that creates the defensiveness.
Left over resentments, and injuries must be resolved. Partners and family members must let go, forgive, reset, if they are going to continue in the relationship. This is the only way to disperse the defensiveness. If an injury or resentment is too big to release then you may have come to the end of the line with that relationship. Release it with love and forgiveness. Discern what is your part and make a lesson of the loss to assist you in future relationships. Don’t hold on. Let go.
When you are bound to the injury and resentment and also unwilling to let go of the relationship, you can create a difficult and unpleasant relationship.
Whenever you feel defensive, look to see what is underneath…is it connected to a historical relationship? Is it connected to an unresolved injury or resentment? Clarify what is underneath, unearth it and bring it to the surface. Then use the above two step process to try to resolve the problem with your partner. If it is unresolvable, allow yourself to release the unforgiveness. Forgive your partner and yourself; this may result in the dissolution of the relationship but it will create a freeing within you to honestly connect in your future relationships without holding the next person accountable for an unresolved injury. Namaste, in love and light, bg
Use the word SMILE to focus your energy for the Valentines day weekend. If you are struggling with your partner or feeling out of sync use the 2 steps above to reset your focus and remember what brought you together. Let go of being right – move into connection and alignment…whether in a relationship or not these will help you be mindful in your life. in love and light,bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries..
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris website. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
You started with intention, created a map, then began to breathe.
These are the first steps in in re-visioning Spirit and Mind to shift your perspective and health habits.
This week is about attending to the connection of spirit and mind via the breath and concretizing the new vision in your daily actions/habits.
Find your paper that has your personal narrative of intentions.
Re-view your words – are they representative of your intentions three weeks later?
make adjustments, additions, and clarifications.
Find you picture map, what is attractive to you about it today? See it both from a figurative and holistic perspective – figure and ground connecting spirit and mind.
Look into the mirror and view your physical self.
First you will focus on the negatives, things you do not like about yourself.
Jot these down,
now return with compassion and love to your image in the mirror.
be grateful for what is there both the parts you wish to change and those you like when you view them.
Make an effort to shine love on your self through this process. So if you are unhappy about extra pounds then see how these represent something good. Perhaps you still carry weight from the joy of carrying your child and you can be thankful for those pounds while you simultaneously determine it is time to release them.
Or if you see lines between your brows consider what that represents, perhaps a strength of thinking skills and focus, be grateful for your capacity to focus so directly and then you may determine you desire to shift your habits to include play and relaxation in balance. This blog from back in 2010, really gets to the heart of this, please check it out to help you focus on seeing the good in bad…or emphasizing the positive, https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/09/14/how-you-face-the-day-is-how-it-faces-you-back/ .
How you see yourself matters. Consider compassionately responding to the aspects of your physical being that you find repulsive.
Next, Shift this to your behaviors and words.
Consider how you came to develop the behavior that you desire to release.
Be grateful for the way in which it has positively served you ,
and then you may make a decision to release that patterning.
In this moment you are free to make a deeper shift in your intentions to connect your spirit and mind in an integrated narrative, picture map. You can achieve this by creating a second map that incorporates a fuller picture of your new view OR you may connect the narrative and map you have by putting them onto a paper together, including our new insights from the work in the mirror.
(This process is one you may want to do several times a year to reset your goals and return to your center.)
Place the map and narrative in a place where you frequently pass by it throughout the day.
Each time you pass it,
stop,
view it fully.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Creating a space within yourself for the images and words to infuse youwith peace, will, strength, and joy to create your new habits to health.
And as always, Remember you have a better chance of getting where you want to go if you have a map…in love and light, many blessings, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2015 offers special techniques for releasing unresolved injuries…and the elevation of consciousness.
You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through the bethgineris website. Beth’s groundbreaking book Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013), has some great tools about Temperament style and your personal style of partnering, as well as the insecurity Drivers MAAPS. Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
You can find ways to simply connect to yourself in a loving forgiving way through theTurning No to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness Book (2011).If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships.
One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
bols. The next one pictured is called ‘sei he ki’. It assists in clearing emotional trauma or incorrect thinking. You can use this symbol in conjunction with a positive mantra, like I am loved, and then follow that statement with the power symbol. The third symbol is called the ‘hon sha ze sho nen’ and it is the tree of life symbol it connects heaven and earth, it is used for long distance healing and to assist in proper alignment to the person and the chakra system.
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