Hello, yesterday this blog hit the number, 19000 hits. I feel grateful to my friends and their friends who have come to check out what’s happening here. Thank you all, in love and light, bg
So today I want to share about two proverbs.
One is Taoist: Let Go or Be dragged.
It is the way. Life is dynamically changing. Sometimes the time comes to shift a situation. You see this often in relationship. The relationship has come to a place where a shift is required for it to continue in a healthy manner, but the individuals don’t want to let go of the habitual way they had interacted.
Releasing each other from the habitual or routinized interaction allows for the two individuals to float up and flow with the wave of change, perhaps coming back together in a better more healthful fashion; perhaps moving away from each other and into a healthier relationship with themselves, leaving space to create a new relationship.
Holding on can result in a spinning inward of negativity that ultimately drags down the energy of the relationship until it implodes. This is just one description of the proverb, but the idea is to go with the flow, allow the flow of the universe to guide you and to release yourself from holding on to something that does not serve you.
The other proverb is the donkey in the well fable.
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried and struggled to get out but the sides of the well were too deep and too smooth for the donkey to exit. For hours the farmer tried to figure out what to do. He could not figure out a way to help the donkey escape. Finally, thinking the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway. Rather than retrieve the donkey he decided to cover up the donkey and fill the well with dirt.
At first, when the donkey realized what was happening he cried horribly. Then, he quieted down and let out some happy brays. A few shovel loads later, the farmer looked down the well to see what was happening and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was shaking it off and taking a step up.
As the farmer continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, the donkey continued to shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off!
The moral to the fable is this: Life is going to shovel dirt on you. The trick to getting out of the hole you are in is to shake it off and take a step up. Every adversity can be turned into a stepping stone. The way to get out of the deepest well is by never giving up but by shaking yourself off, and taking a step up. To do this you need to change your inner perspective, your inner attitude, your interpretation of what is and what is not. This allows you to see your situation from a differently and allows you to find solutions and take actions that help yourself.
More than anything in life, what happens to you isn’t what matters,
What matters is how you choose to respond to what happens to you.
Your life is what you make it. Your paradigm defines what you see and what power you perceive you have, even what power you perceive others have over you. The donkey could have lived (and died) in the paradigm he began with in his journey into the well; but in the fable he used his observation skills and thinking to shift his perspective and paradigm to change his circumstances by using the tools given to him – the rising dirt.
Both of these parables can be interpreted in a physical way, but they are equally as applicable to psycho-emotional and spiritual circumstances that require a shift in perspective.
In the donkey circumstance the shift from victim to thriver, creating his own way to safety was a physical, psycho-emotional and spiritual shift. This is also true when faced with a circumstance where let go or be dragged applies.
Own your life.
Wake each day renewed in your belief in your self, belief in the world around you and in the people in your life that matter. In this way you can be centered in your attention your unexpected and habitual experiences that require a shift.
Recognize that letting go is sometimes the most loving thing you can do even if the other is unaware of the gift.
And hold true to your inner strength even when those you believe in have let you down.
Model thriving. Have your thriving rub off on those around you so that the world around you, and the people around you can all shift perspective in unison to walk out of the well they have fallen into.
With deep gratitude to you, in love and light, bg
January 24, 2013 at 4:57 am
Wow. Thank you Beth! I have just come to a crossroads in my long distance relationship, and both of these stories ring true to me. I had to let go of this relationship as it was stuck in mire and there really was no other way to go…and now I have the strength to move forward with my life, with Grace. Own your life – Love it! Ann
January 24, 2013 at 6:13 am
I think a relationship of mine is also coming to a place where it can’t keep going in the same way anymore. Beth’s advice is solid. Best wishes for resolving your situation and finding the next steps on the path.
January 24, 2013 at 12:39 pm
Beautiful Ann – so happy for you – a lot of people are shifting out of stifling relationships, I think it is part of the 5th dimension shift. Those upleveling have to let go and rise up their consciousness even further, in love, so they can live in the light more fully. It’s whole new perspective. Thanks for the comment, so happy the post was timely for you!, in love and light, Beth
January 24, 2013 at 6:10 am
Congratulations on the 19,000 hits!
Have you heard the other ending to the donkey story? The donkey bites the farmer, meaning that if you try to cover your ass, you are going to get bit. With either ending, the donkey comes out well.
January 24, 2013 at 12:41 pm
I have read that interpretation. It is apropos. I like the inspirational focus of this one. You are very well read!
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