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January 31, 2014
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Mind reading 101

Ever hear from your partner,

‘do you expect me to be a mind-reader?’

Well, the truth is

Yes you do!

Why?

Because if your partner really paid attention then he or she would know what you want in the relationship.

Using your full capacity to listen, and pay attention results in the other person feeling seen, loved and understood. This article is about mind-reading 101.

Mind reading…. 101. It’s really about being mindful and observant, like a mentalist, which will look and feel like you have esp. When you pay attention with all your senses and mindfulness you can really understand your partner. And, when you feel heard by someone else you feel real and loved.

Kahlil Gibran references this in his poem book, The Prophet (1923, 1978, 1984). Which is an oft-quoted book at marriage ceremonies.

Thich Nhat Hanh’s Mindfulness book, Peace Is Every Step (1991, Bantam Books, New York), offers insight:

“Darling do I understand you enough? Or am I making you suffer?Please tell me so that I can learn to love you properly…..” Real Love, pg 80.

“Love is a mind that brings peace, joy,and happiness to another person. ….The essence of love and compassion is understanding, the ability to recognize the physical, material, and psychological suffering of others, to put ourselves ‘inside the skin’ of the other. We ‘go inside’ their body, feelings, and mental formations, and witness for ourselves their suffering. Shallow observation as an outsider is not enough to see their suffering. …When we are in contact with another’s suffering, a feeling of compassion is born in us. Compassion means, literally, ‘to suffer with’.

…” Meditation on Compassion, pg 81, 82.

To develop this quality in yourself, follow these 6 easy steps.

Know yourself. Develop your understanding of your wants, your strengths, and limitations. Once you know where you are you can allow yourself to feel trust and then open to your partner’s needs, wants, and perspectives. Knowing yourself allows you to connect with other’s and see not only your own perspective but that of another.
Open your heart. From an open heart you can hear through defensiveness. From an open heart you are able to practice compassion and loving paradigm shifting. Think duck, bunny paradigm shifting – both are real/true/accurate, just different perspectives of the same image:
Reset your senses to neutral. This is the idea of choosing to connect rather than be right. Choosing to remove fight from your vocabulary in order to focus on deflecting negative or attacking energy and going underneath that to the injury or suffering or pain of the other and seeking to create/find understanding and connection.
Observe another’s face, voice/tenor, and gestures. Stop, look, and listen. Make the connection through observation and clarification. Pay attention, notice incongruence and seek a way through to a deep understanding and knowing of your partner.
Use yourself as a reflection of your partner. Feel into your own body as a reflection of the other’s heart rate, anxiety, breathing, tension, peace; listen to your inner voice – for something off, something strong, something intuitive.
Speak your feelings and thoughts, use clarification and inquiry from a balanced loving neutral place – not defensive. Reflect what you see as the incongruence. Deflect/deflate another’s anxious negativity, or look for clarification of how he or she got there… discover what was the preceding action that triggered the anxiety or angry response; feel into yourself and then inquire from your partner, to ascertain what you partner is looking to receive so that he or she feels seen, heard, connected and loved. Once you understand or get clarity on this information, give it lovingly and without condition.

Your capacity to read another’s mind is directly related to your personal self-knowing and your desire to connect, understand, and paradigm shift.

Meditation, Mindfulness, Removing fight from your vocabulary, and Developing you connection to your internal sensory guidance center are actions that improve your capacity to develop compassion, understanding, and care within you.

Living in this way will elevate your spiritual consciousness and result in deeper, more powerful, and mutually satisfying relationships in all aspects of your life. in love and light, bg

January 23, 2014
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Intuition, Premonition, and Precognition – perception in time and mindfulness

This blog of January 31, 2011 has had the most hits on my site. So I wanted to update followers (and those who find themselves viewing this blog) on what has been transpiring over the last 6 months.
A quote from the bog: My last three premonition events share a very specific physical experience that occurs directly in my brain and perceptual field. It is as if part of my brain is not under my control, akin to how a muscle feels when it has fallen asleep and is beginning to get blood back to it – heavy, fuzzy and outside normal control. It is difficult to describe the feeling, but it has a quality of an intense dizziness and slight disorientation, unable to stand up and I experience my head being heavy and pulled to the ground. There is no precipitating event to explain the phenomenon. It lasts from several minutes to several hours; my pulse and blood pressure are normal for me. .. end quote.

In the recent six months I have been doing increasing energy work on the people who enter my practice, using specific essential oil sprays, for energy rebalancing of the wheels within their spiritual/physical systems as well as the auric fields around them, incorporating the medical intuitive information I receive and clarifying imbalance through tuning forks and toning bowls. As I have developed this I am experiencing even more elements of the above described experiences within my own brain and physical body. This has been very helpful to those people entering my practice.
For those also experiencing these changes, here are some helpful techniques to rebalance yourself after a healing treatment or premonition/precognition experience.

Baking soda can help to remove radiation and problematic negative discharge that has caused an imbalance within you.

Salting the environment, your sleeping area, your meditation area or workspace can dampen negative energies, you can then vacuum these up to cleanse.

Apple cider vinegar in a bath can help to maintain your cleansed auric field.

Sage, asefetida, lemongrass, and mugwort can clear the air and clear physical objects that have been glutted with negative energy…

you may know that some item needs one of these if when you pick it up or touch it you feel nausea or it hurts your hand.

Cypress, orange blossom, eucalyptis, and geranium help to assuage depression and anxiety.

Lemon, lime, and grapefruit help to clear out negative, angry, frustrated feelings.

Rose helps to access self love, compassion and forgiveness.

Chamomile and lavender assist with calming nerves and helping to allow sleep.

These are a few ways you can help yourself move into this new dimension without falling ill or feeling that the cost to help is too hard on your body.

May you continue to evolve to your highest dimension, in love and light, bg

InstinctiveHealthParenting4U

Hello

Intuition, premonition, and precognition are knowings about the future.

Intuition is a type of sixth sense that is integrated with our five sense awareness system and can be developed through mindfulness, attention, and intention. Intuition is more about a now experience. Intuition is an instinctive knowing, and provides guidance in decision-making and direction.

Premonition and precognition are a type of future knowledge either through sense awareness or actual information or cognition of a future event. These are generally urgent and or negative, a feeling or knowing that something bad is going to happen.

I have written previously about intuition in my blog called instinctive knowing. I think of intuition as an instinctive knowing that gets our attention in subtle and nagging or persistent ways, pulling us back to situations to take action to avoid something that is a problem or needs our attention.

I have had several premonition experiences.

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January 21, 2014
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Facing Fears, Disarming bullies

Heart pounding in your chest when you look at or think about someone? It might be love..

or it might be fear. How you interpret that pounding is context.

To face your fears and disarm the power of bullies you have to shift your interpretation of that pounding from fear requiring flight…..

to acknowledgement requiring mindful action…
and then to love seeking an opportunity for recognition.

Facing fears is knowing your self and then seeing, understanding, and clarifying how you fit into the situation you are facing.

This is best done, gently and quietly, allowing your heart to guide your actions.

Fears derive from a lack of knowing…

a habit-reaction to another experience that feels similar…
control or mis-allocation of energy toward protection…
mis-understandings.. of yourself and expectations, or of another and expectations (or both)
an inappropriate paradigm that doesn’t take into account the whole picture of ‘what is’.

Love is indeed the best treatment for fear.

But getting from the fear to love can be blocked or feel impossible if you haven’t developed your internal path to grace.

To a lesser degree getting from anger or insecurity to forgiveness and gratitude is also difficult.

These steps can help.

Set aside time to discover who you are through breath, meditation, journaling. yoga, and other creative pursuits.
Practice using the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, to reset your placement of power august 15, 2012 post four agreements plus one (this strongly diminishes your sense of fear).
Set your internal personal goals as paramount for your energy and behavior so that you are not spending oodles of time meeting others expectations but rather directly focusing your energy and resources on what brings you joy. This returns you to empowerment rather than a sense of smallness and disempowerment. It moves you out of reactivity and into proactivity.
Accept that your path to ‘greatness’ doesn’t follow the same path as others and embrace your friends’ successes with the sense that this increases your chance of greatness too (rather than experiencing the sense of competition or limited chances to greatness).
Focus love and compassion toward yourself and others.
Release the need to prove your point.

Be willing to adjust your position as you receive new information. Be free to grow, change, and uplevel your understanding and consciousness.

Receive criticism from others as if it is coming from someone who deeply and truly loves you, this shifts your receptiveness, because it disallows a sense of defensiveness – then you can ascertain if there is a grain of truth in it or of no value.

The idea of someone trying to overpower you is co-created. You and she co-create the drama. You can disarm the overpowering fear by following these steps. In most circumstances this will free you to create a different more equally empowering situation. If it doesn’t, if the other person really wants control, just remember you have free will in how you want to participate.

You cannot engage your free-will when you are in a reactive mode. Pay attention to what causes reactivity in you. Heal that and you can remove the target from your back for those who are consciously and unconsciously engaging in this fear promoting behavior.

This will free up a huge amount of energy for you to create precisely what your heart desires.

Make real efforts to not act as if you are somehow more evolved than another, that actually is a provocative/bullying tactic. in love and light, bg

Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.

January 5, 2014
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Living in the Light…be a rebel

Living in the Light is more than being positive.

Living in the Light is knowing that you are loved, knowing that you are protected, knowing that you are in sync with your higher self and higher power goals.

The power to change your world, and by transitive property the world around you, is in your mindset. Your perception of yourself at the center of your world. This is not a narcissistic centeredness, it is a grounded and upleveled understanding that what you experience as truth is what you see.

So if you experience as truth the world is against you and you are a victim, this will be what you identify in all your interactions and therefore, what you will reinforce as truth. You will enhance the energy of lack and being invisible or unappreciated.

However, if you stand in the center of your life, and expect good things to be your experience you will observe miracles all around you. This requires a willingness to eschew fear, ‘what if’, ‘if only’, and anxiety as your experience of the world. It requires an unbounded willingness to see how the world is working on your behalf and have faith in the spiritually upleveled aspects of the world around you. This requires compassion, lovingkindness, and a focus on connection rather than competition. So, when you hear hatefulness spewing from another rather than reacting in hatefulness, you send to that person love and compassion; you allow yourself to hear the pain, fear, or misunderstanding underneath that hate so that you can assist in his or her elevation by simply responding with love and compassion. Remember, a fight can only continue when you punch back. If you do not engage in the fight with reactive hatred or anger, you open the space for understanding, peace, forgiveness and light to enter.

In the animal world, the alpha male and alpha female exert power over the group through competition for limited resources. Often physical strength and creation of alignments push out others and create a space where the alpha exerts control. Today we simultaneously label this bullying and reinforce it with the according of power — this mixed message of it being labeled bad when a little boy or girl is mean but give power to the winner of a very negative political race — makes it so that the societal message is that playing dirty, winning at all costs and bullying is wholly and completely acceptable in fact honored, so that living in the light is actually going against the norm in this current alpha society.

Our political world has used this style of power to control how the population makes decisions about who is to be in power – using whether something is ‘cool’ as a standard of what to follow. The political world, the publicist, the hollywood environment, uses this to market the buying population and focuses on pre-teens, teenagers, young adults, and those who want to be perceived as hip like these youngsters to control power positions, and make money, even controlling the population to make decisions that are not in their individual best interests. Even the world of spirit, and spiritual health has been overrun with this idea of cool, propaganda for profit. Unfortunately this has made it so there are many groups that use this combination of alpha group power and spiritual upleveling in cohesion so that it is cool to be part of some religions but not others rather than encouraging an overall elevation of spiritual interaction and action on the planet. You can see this in how the political arena tries to scapegoat and denigrate certain people for their religious beliefs and uplevel others that will increase their level of cool.

Living in the light is applying a standard of true spirituality, sincere faithful attention with compassion and lovingkindness toward all beings, as each struggles to find his or her place in the world. So that an enlightened approach, to those who see the world differently from yourself, is to have a willingness to understand their paradigm and then look for ways that you and she agree, so that a true and real conversation can be had rather than a power struggle for power in the marketplace.

Love is the great balancer and neutralizer. Lovingkindness and compassion allow you to live in the light in your approach to all human beings, animals, and plants. It is through this method that the earth shall survive. It is though this method that balance can be reset in the natural earth, because it is the beta mentality that is what is needed for the global society and earth balance to happen. The Beta and the Omega look to balance the Alpha, but our political environment has gone too far with the alpha power structure. This hierarchical style cannot contain the global needs of the earth. The beta-mentality looks for connections, is inclusive and accepting. The omega-mentality is playful, diffuses negativity, and creates an environment for letting off steam without reprisal. The alpha-mentality is most useful in third-dimensional thinking of right/wrong, good/bad, and limited resources, when there is danger from without and there is a need for absolute power, however the dependence on this style of leading, solely, has allowed for oppression, divisiveness, out-grouping, and propaganda to the detriment of global societies. This is not to say that the way forward is through the social-democratic, progressive beliefs of socialism or an over-dependence on governments, Unfortunately these policies enhance the use of propaganda and alpha-style mentality; they create a different style of hierarchy, not centered in the light or spirit. Rather than increase the use of true cohesiveness, connectedness, and mindfulness they diminish even further the importance of elevating all and create a different societal structure that will ultimately create an even smaller degree of peace.

Much of my writing is about paradigm shifting and mindfulness as a way of dealing with not only individual, but also small group and large group interactions. These ideas are infused in many religions, many philosophies both east and west and many successful groups. Not one belief system holds the patent on the idea of mindfulness; it part of Taoist, Judeo-Christian, Hindu, Native American and many other religious and philosophical tenets.

To live in the light is to be continually bringing yourself back to neutral and to discover within yourself a positive bent in all that you do so that you are actually shining light onto others and yourself to bring in the beta-mentality of connection and uplevel capacity of the whole group.

Be a rebel. Make a decision today to lighten your perspective,

move into the light in all our perceptions
eschew competition, fear, limitations, and division,
look beneath the powerful emotional arguments of the propaganda and publicity around you, look at what is considered cool, and see if it fits with what actutally uplevels your world, and the society at large
look for, and allow yourself to see, the underlying goal, of the denigration of specific groups, to acqurie political power
use mindfulness, lovingkindness, compassion and the beta or omega mentality in all of your interactions

In this way you will create peace within yourself and experience connection and understanding in your world. Love is the answer. Love is the way.

in love and light, namaste, bg

Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.

December 11, 2013
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sleep like a dog for a long life

Hello and Welcome!

This post offers excellent support to increase your healthy balanced living.

Li Ching-Yuen was purported to have lived 256 years in China dying in 1933. When asked the secret to his long life he related his knowledge for longevity in this simple sentence: “Retain a calm heart, sit like a turtle, walk like a pigeon, and sleep like a dog.”

…retain a calm heart may also be translated to maintain a tranquil mind… this is a direct reference to meditation. Over the years many studies have shown the deep and abiding benefits of meditation; showing that focused mindful meditation helps with maintaining healthy brain function and cardiovascular function. Meditation increases resilience to stress.

...sit like a turtle is a reference to stillness, being still, allowing stillness without distraction and without multitasking…this allows for the fullness of each experience and allows for rejuvenation…there is significant evidence that the amount of stimuli requiring attention or the amount of multitasking required by americans leads to stress and allostatic overload. Creating stillness increases space for rejuvenation and a return to balance.

…walk like a pigeon, also translated as walking quickly or sprightly, this referenced moving rhythmically and frequently. This seems to keep the body, heart and mind activated and attentive without a sense of hyperactivity. Activity with rest is the most balanced style of physical development and health.

…sleep like a dog…this is indeed my favorite as it references the importance of not holding onto anything that causes anxiety, releasing unforgiveness, allowing past to be past and being in the now…conserving energy and embracing the importance of deep and fulfilling sleep…healthy in-balanced dogs take frequent naps when there is a lull in activity and then awake refreshed ready to pounce on the day or evening.

When you focus on living in a healthful, balanced fashion you increase your lifespan and decrease the negative effects of aging. Living out of balance shortens your lifespan.

In a time when there is debate about health insurance and the issue of accessibility it is important to see through the propaganda to truth.Health insurance doesn’t precisely increase accessibility. Healthcare is not health insurance. In order to increase accessibility, many shifts are required.

You can sidestep this problem, if you are currently healthy or moderately out of balance, by increasing your balanced practice in living.

Consider the issues of spirit, body, and mind. (You may also read this series of articles on shifting your attitude, connecting to your spirit, and balancing your life, to develop your 4×4 Habits to Health.)

How are you increasing your risk for imbalance and need for health care? Ask yourself these questions.

Do you have difficulty sleeping? Do you awaken after a full nights sleep and feel unrested?
Do you feel sluggish? Do you have an ongoing sense of fatigue?
Do you have trouble exercising either due to a lack of energy or pain?
Do you have chronic pain?
Do you have a pervasive sense of uneasiness or anxiety?
Do you feel overwhelmed with your tasks and responsibilities?
Do you feel you overeat, or drink alcohol, or use drugs to deal with your stress level?
Do you feel isolated? Or do you feel too much responsibility for those for whom you care?
Do you eat food you know is not good for you because you are too busy to make good food? Or do you eat food that is not good for you because you have to eat quickly and on schedule?
Are you overweight and find you cannot seem to drop the weight even when you try?
Do you have unresolved anger or unforgiveness regarding earlier injuries, losses, or relationship issues?
Do you feel bereft spiritually?
Do you feel apathetic?
Do you feel angry, and short-tempered more than 30 % of your waking time?

If you get more than half answers in the positive, your life is out of balance. This kind of imbalance can lead to heart disease, increased bad cholesterol, increased levels of glucose, increased levels of cortisol, decreased energy, difficulties with sleep and the overall regenerative processes built into your integrated spirit, mind and body processes, and a more rapid aging process. To make the necessary shifts in your habits of living, begin with the above mantra. You can start today!

Up to now, the western medical program in the US has been to enable Americans to behave in an unbalanced way and then get treatment for their bad behavior, calling this health care treatment. Now that we are moving into a socialized medicine program, this will begin to diminish. less and less will unbalanced, unhealthy behavior be supported through medical treatment. This is because the cost to do so is very high.

As you look over the last 120 years there is an interesting observation of overindulgence, then abstinence with the pendulum swinging toward each end in succession. Letting go and partying then pulling in and recuperating. The ground for this warfare being your body. When lifespans were closer to fifty years rather than one hundred years, this overindulgence only shortened a person’s life slightly. Now, individuals who want to live longer will have to live healthier more balanced lifestyles to have their bodies be working efficiently at the end of their lives.

“Retain a calm heart, sit like a turtle, walk like a pigeon, and sleep like a dog.” OR

Change your attitude, Heal your spirit, Balance your life… if you want to find a deeper practice or just want support in finding your way to balance, you can contact me at my website for more intensive coaching or other great resource material, www.bethgineris.com…in love and light, bg

photo of two dogs sleeping: Lisa Aldon

Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.

November 9, 2013
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Create Space for Joy, 3 steps

Hello and Welcome!

Real joy heals.

Here are three simple steps to create space for Joy to come into your energetic, personal field and Balance your Life.

One remove fight from your vocabulary.
Two focus on your strengths rather than your limitations.
Three Be Grateful…even when you are in dire circumstances.

Whether you experience Joy or not is completely up to you…

What happens to you is outside of your control HOW you respond to what happens to you is COMPLETELY within your control.

Joy is a matter of attention and intention.

Practice these three steps every day and you will create space for JOY.

Your environment may not change immediately but as you change…and because all of life is a system, once you change your joyous effect on your environment will positively affect everyone and everything within it.

This works in both directions, choosing joy creates more pleasing (and less negative experiences) and choosing negativity begets more negative experiences.

If you want to Change the world, or just change your world…BE the change…. change your perspective, change your language…be in your relationships what you want to experience in relationship.

Change how you see, look for connection, understanding, and moments of perfection. Have that attention and intention drive how you see and you will experience more space for Joy.

Three steps: remove fight from your vocabulary, focus on your strengths, and be grateful practiced daily create space for Joy.

I am deeply grateful for your continued interest and fantastic work on the planet. in love and light, bg

October 29, 2013
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Living in the Light

Hello and Welcome!

…..if the universe responds with creating the things where you put your attention then is it better to point out what is wrong in the world or to point out what is right?

Is it Pollyanna to attend only to the positive? the light?…..

The challenge is that you are spirit-humans, anchored to the third dimensional earth plane with duality and limited time, AND corded to the unlimited quality of instant creation through attention, intention, thought, word, and action. Standing one foot in each zone….or plane…. or dimension…

….identifying what needs changing is necessary, it clarifies;

…holding the attention and tending to what you want and seeing that completed, changed, and present in the now is essential for living in the light and upleveling consciousness.

These are challenging, interesting, beautiful times… embrace each perfect moment and link these together to see your world perfectly enlightened.

As I encourage the upleveling of consciousness, I ponder the concept of duality and unity. How might shifting from duality to unity appear or present itself in my everyday world and environment. What might I experience within myself? How might I look, sound, and be? What might I reflect?

Duality feels right/ wrong, good/bad, or light versus dark separating out along continua of opposites. Unity feels all encompassing, embracing, holistic, and inclusive; whorls or inclusive wholes.

When I align with the strength of living in the light, my presence is joyful, happy, and offers the aura of fulfillment. I radiate a sense of peace. I observe others drawn to me and the light opening hearts to increase internal joy.

Living in the light and shining in this way brings to me even more of that enlightened power and inner strength.

What I notice is that this is simple and easy, like breathing when all is peaceful and light around me. When I am faced with a fear-promoting situation, negativity or an experience of attack from without my capacity to remain in the light is challenged.

I reactively shift into the habit of vigilance, thinking, analysis, defense as a protective response. But when I lower my energy to that of mind alone I feel myself isolated and disconnected – fear immediately surrounds me…lowering, my vibration. This disconnection and heaviness feels deficient of light.

When I am living in the light and responding with my internal sensory guidance system I immediately notice the shift and can apply my mindful focus on how I have changed and what preceded the shift to address what has triggered my defensive reaction. Once aware of the event I can reset my place in the light.

This issue of duality feels like a software upload, in order to shift into unity the software in my thinking and action relationship has to be updated to include mindfulness. So even writing about my experience of moving from duality to unity is dualistic… from negativity to positivity.

Utilizing the element of fear or judgment to encourage the upleveling of consciousness is a mistaken action. It pulls on the precise element of duality that you are trying to uplevel, and so creates a type of wobble in your consciousness.

Being joyful, secure, inviting and compassionate uses the action of love to encourage enlightenment.

Gandhi said: Be the change you wish to see in the world. He was encouraging embracing the responsibility for change personally in order to shift the culture or environment one being at a time.

Stephen Covey: Wrote (in the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) that in order to create change in your own relationships you should change have to be… so that what you wanted to have in your relationship you needed to be in your interacting style, first.

I realize that if I want to encourage living in the light I need to live in the light and telegraph that light through all my senses so that simply being in my presence another might feel the light and shift within him or her self.

In order for the consciousness of beings on the planet to change those leading the way must change have to be, and be the change of enlightenment.

Living in the light is living in compassion, lovingkindness, and forgiveness, with the attitude of gratitude. Shifting perspective to see the positive in the darkest places to bring light to each; to see the flow between and the whorl of both together so that my and your experience of light can shift consciousness to make mindful, collaborative, connecting healing choices.

Practice these steps to get into, remain, and live in the light of compassion, mindfulness, lovingkindness, forgiveness, and grace:

wake each day with a focus on what is working in your world, and what you desire to experience
change have to be: act in the way you desire others to be, and stand in the center of that action with integrity, and truth
Feel, see, visualize, and be grateful for how your desires are present in the now
use Verbal aikido to deflect, deflate, and define (reset or redefine) negativity and experience of duality into unity.
remove fight from your vocabulary, release defensiveness; replace fight and defense with an earnest interest in understanding, clarity, and collaboration
seek connection, listen to your sensory guidance system, embrace flow

These six steps will return you to balance, increase your awareness, understanding, compassion and experience of unity, and allow the immediate and rejuvenating uplevel of consciousness your soul desires. Change your attitude, Heal your Soul, Balance your Life. In love and light, bg

October 24, 2013
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III: Balance your life, Nourish your Body, Connect to your Community

Hello and Welcome! This is third in a series of articles. III: Balance your Life, Nourish your Body and Connect to Community.

I: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your Soul, III: Balance your Life

III: Balance your Life, nourish your BODY through mindful habits: Eat, drink, sleep, exercise

Eat whole foods

grown or cared for in a humane loving way,

primarily prepared by you or someone you love,

and look like a rainbow to support your physical health.

To promote brain health and increase immunity as well as maintain a healthy memory eat nuts, legumes, and foods that ‘look like a brain”… pecans, walnuts, eggs, cauliflower, cacao, and coffee beans to name a few. check out this post in my other wordpress blog, IntegrativeMedicineStrategiesNow, Brain Food Really.

Drink 3 liters of water a day, more if you exercise or live in a dry climate.

Water, not tea, or coke, or coffee etc…H2O positively helps with your cellular health.

It positively affects your cognition, heart, electrical gastroenterological, kidney-urinary, and immune system – WOW, right?!

Water is profoundly necessary for your body systems and mind to work efficiently, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2908954.

Your hydration needs are affected by your exercise habits, the altitude at which you live, whether you are menstruating, and your personal system imbalances ( ie: slow digestion, toxicity, meds etc).

Exercise 1 hour a day for maximum health

if you are not currently doing this, move up to it slowly to build your muscles and systems in a healthful way. Begin with 20 minutes every other day then move to 15 minutes daily, then 30 minutes every other day and them 20 minutes daily, until you make it to 60 minutes a day.

Choose an exercise regime that suits you, holds your interest, brings in fun.

Positive Benefits of Yoga -> reducing depressive symptoms, and inducing remission in mild to severe depression in depressive disorders – WOW! (Current Psychiatry Vol.8,No10,p39-47).

7 benefits of exercise: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/exercise/HQ01676

Controls weight,

combats health conditions/diseases heart, cholesterol, breath capacity, strength, cognition,

improves mood,

boosts energy,

promotes sleep,

increases interest and capacity for sex,

fun –> creativity, healthy competition, focus, endurance, social, widens interest.

Sleep 6-8 hours a day. Sleep is the most powerful health promoter!

It balances your brain, blood, spirit, reduces pain and inflammation. Don’t ignore it!

Sleep is the great neutralizer and reformer.

Sleep plays an important role in learning and memory consolidation.

Sleep deprivation can result in memory loss and diminished fine motor and cognitive skills;

can impede response time in crisis situations and increase psycho-emotional problems.

Lack of sleep can increase pain experience.

Sleep 7-9 hours each night/get to sleep by 11pm. School-age children need 9-10, Babies/Toddlers require 12-14 hours of sleep; Teenagers need 8-10 hours of sleep. For kids sleep debt can lead to an increase of restlessness, attentional, oppositionality issues

Sleep affects Cognition, learning, health, experience of pain & stress; it benefits your Spirit, Mind, and Body. http://www.mindfulparentingmag.com/2012/11/29/the-importance-of-sleep/

Consider the power of community, rejuvenation, and networking

Connecting, collaborating, networking, and groups offer a special kind of balance.

Finding a space to belong, share struggles and get support increases your power in maintaining the balance in your life.

Studies show that women respond to stress with tend and befriend.

Connecting in ways that help with self growth and rejuvenation, work interests and social endeavors through focusing on learning or maintaining knowledge helps keep your mind healthy.

Focusing on groups that sustain your body like exercise groups or training or cooking and nutrition groups.

And connecting with spiritual outlets will keep you centered and grounded.

Some of this information is from an earlier InstinctiveHealthMedicine blog entitled focusing on mindful living leads to spirit, mind, body health, July 24, 2013.

See how you can institute these shifts today, re-read all the articles to remain in balance. i: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your soul, III:Balance your life. Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it, Namaste., () in love and light, bg

Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013. www.bethgineris.com

October 22, 2013
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II: Heal your Soul, Move Spirit from facilitator to Leader

Hello and Welcome!

This is second in a series of articles. II: Heal your Soul, Move Spirit from facilitator to Leader.

I. Change your Attitude, II: Heal your Soul, III: Balance your Life

II: Heal yout Soul, Move SPIRIT from facilitator to leader and your direct point of focus toward meditation, Breath, prayer, and a search for unity

Meditation, Prayer, Breath daily or twice daily to redirect and refocus your energy, attention, and intention.

Spirt focus, clarity, and connection as a primary focus connects spirit, mind, and body, so that you create what you desire rather than avoiding what you fear. It increases access to your balanced, core-self and increases your ability for critical thinking, flexibility, and quick responsiveness.

Belly breathing alone can reset your cells, mood, emotion, realign and center you.

Brain scans on long-term meditators show that regions associated with attention, self-awareness and sensory processing are thicker in meditators, and that this can offset age-related cortical thinning: this is strong “evidence for … cortical plasticity” (Lazar SW, Kerr CE, Wasserman RH, et al. Neuroreport. 2005;16(17):1893-1897).

Thinking about what happens with stress, meditation and breathwork diminishes and eradicates the negative effects of stress. When Mind is in control the power to reduce stress is limited; when your leader is Spirit the opportunity to engage in mindful meditation allows for powerful healing effects.

“The regular practice of meditation may have neuroprotective effects and reduce the cognitive decline associated with normal aging.” (Pagnoni G. Cekic M. Neurobiology of Aging. 2007;28(10):1623-7).

Evidence found as a result of mindful meditation:

–>>Increase in cortical thickness in areas assoc. w/ attention, interoception, & sensory processing such as prefrontal cortex and right anterior insula;

using this network to attune to internal senses via the social neural circuits involved in interpersonal attunement, including the middle prefrontal regions, insula, superior temporal complex, and the mirror neuron system->> all from mindful meditation practice.

AND, more positive Amygdala responses include: positive affect regulation by optimizing prefrontal cortex regulation of the amygdala including Left sided anterior activation,

this allows development of a tendency toward positive emotional responses & approach /reward oriented behavior,

(which aids in decreasing symptoms of depression and anxiety)(Applied Mindfulness Current Psychiatry Vol8.no12p40 2010).

Consider the power of the serenity prayer: release what you cannot control, shift what you can control, discern the difference.

Any of these 7 activities can increase your spiritual meditative connection:

Soothing/meditative music; singing

Meditative walking, running; hiking,

dancing; Tai Qi, Qi Gong

yoga practice;

Prayer; focused breathing, meditation

Gardening, meditative focus while performing repetitive motion chores,

Any activity that brings mind/thinking to neutral and offers a spiritual connection with whatever feels spiritual to you

Next read III: Balance your Life, Nourish your body and connect to your community.

See how you can institute these shifts today, and read the following article. i: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your soul, III:Balance your life. Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it, Namaste., () in love and light, bg

Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013. www.bethgineris.com

September 30, 2013
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Your internal MAAPS of Relationship

Hello and Welcome! This is a reblog of a September 30, 2013 post.

To have a powerful, positive, and mutually satisfying relationship you need to decipher the code to your map. Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (Gineris 2013) offers insight into how your create your inner map in relationship, what kind of relationship feels secure to you, and what drives that security.

It is like a mystery or a puzzle. (more on puzzles and mysteries, instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/06/17/introspection-and-epiphany/Malcolm Gladwell)

Relationships are complex. We use a map to partner. This map is designed from these intersecting coordinates

Your temperament,
Your social group connections,
The prevailing Cultural beliefs of Your location in time,
And, your security drivers from your psychosocial childhood development: What I call MAAPS

The key to navigating relationship is to discover what drives YOU to partner, what a good partner LOOKS like to your heart, mind, and body blueprint. And when that picture has some skews in it – this book offers soul-utions for how to shift that center and boundaries of your inner map.

So what are the map-keys in relationship?

Your family structure, how you observed your family relate to each other & YOU
Your personal group ties, religion, ethnicity, part of USA or other country, and your socio-economic status: READ your BELIEF systems,

These feel instinctive but are learned.

It delineates HOW you develop in relationship. From a ME style through an I style to WE. This is from dependent through an independent to an interdependent style of interacting

To shift from ME or I into a WE-style of relationship requires moving your paradigm perspective from DUALITY to UNITY. Use the MAAPS security driver system: Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power or Structure, to decipher the code of relationships by understanding your insecurity drivers. By reviewing the test you can discern which of the security drivers drives, how, with whom, and under what conditions you partner.

Once you understand your personal map you can use meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork exercises and techniques to shift perspective, from a Me or I into a WE-style of relationship. Using various exercises to Unlink survivor scenarios or Habitual Reaction Patterns in relationship you free yourself from the constraints of limiting beliefs, fears, and insecurities.

Additionally embracing your integrated spirit mind, and body connection opens the space for true Inner Guidance.

3 key components differentiate how you can relate: empathy, boundaries, and inner security.

Me-style, dependence, narcissism, incapacity of empathy, difficulty with boundaries, diffuse boundaries – can’t say NO, feels empty at core and needs completion.
I-style, independence, competition, chooses to not use empathy for fear of loss of self, difficulty with boundaries, rigid boundaries – can’t say YES, fears engulfment and needs distance, separation.
We-style, Interdependence, connection, and collaboration, openly empathic, flexible boundaries, feels solid, knows self so can say NO or YES as is appropriate for the relationship and situation. Interdependent, maintains sense of self while also intimately and connected, chooses to focus on Unity and collaboration with a continued self-connection simultaneously.

These relationship styles’ different Boundaries:

TWO halves ( ) =1 co-dependence: ME

Me: ( ) difficulty saying No; two halves make a whole

Two independent circles no overlap, I, 00= 2

I: 00 difficulty w/ Yes; walking side by side without integration

Two overlapping circles 1+1=3: WE, easy flexible boundaries, interdependent.

WE: o0o 1+1=3 interdependent, mutual, flexible, collaborative can say Yes and No.

Duality to Unity: Toward a Union of WE

Shifting Your Consciousness, Away from Defensive, competitive, narcissistic , Away from Balance sheet/ exchange patterns —>> Toward Listening fully, clarifying and receiving before speaking (for some this is a cultural snare), Toward Seeking understanding Rather than picking points to argue. Toward connection rather than where you diverge, feel that first then balance divergence.

This groundbreaking book offers you insight, exercises, and reinforcing information so that you can incorporate into your style of relating the keys to a better, more fulfilled life through profoundly shifting how, with whom, and under what circumstances you partner.

You can find a deep sense of peace, joy, and strength through the understanding of what drives you and developing a centered, inner strength to shift your style of being in the world through neutralizing your insecurities and embracing your inner guidance.

You can find out more here.in love and light, bg

dr beth gineris is the author of Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness (2011) and Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (2013). She endeavors to assist individuals in the process of upleveling their consciousness in everyday interactions to experience profound love, connection and care in their relationships and communities. You can find her books on amazon.com and through her website.

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Change your Attitude, Heal your Soul, Balance your Life. Uplevel YOUR consciousness. Find your way HOME through MAAPS.

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