Imagine golden light coming in the top of your head and moving down along the interior of your body along your spine with your in-breath.
As you exhale imagine negative energy, stress, fears, or obstacles moving out your feet.
If you like you can think of how the sun feels on your back to get an image of warmth moving through you.
Breathe in so that your tummy gets big and breathe out so that your tummy gets smaller. Breathe in for a count of 3 and out for a count of 5 (after a while you may want to breathe in for a count of 5 and out for 7 or even long but always have your out-breath be longer by two counts).
You can have you child teach a favorite stuffy to help learn the routine.
In medicine the best strategy to habituate yourself to a procedure issee 1, do 1, teach 1. So use that strategy here to help inculcate for your child the meditation process.
After 10 to 20 breaths have a strong exhalation and open your eyes; you will feel refreshed. You can lengthen the time you breathe to 3 – 5 minutes.
Encourage your child to practice in the morning and the evening.
3-5 minutes for younger children is an excellent practice. As your child becomes more practiced you can increase to 15 minutes twice a day. Long time meditators may meditate for 30 or more minutes. Let your experience define what is best for you and your child.
Encourage your child to use this technique when faced with a stressful event. After practice it will become a natural instinctive method in response to feeling out of balance, feeling fearful or stressed.
You can do this too and it will reinforce your child’s practice.
Enjoy! in love and light, bg
On April 5, 2014, I will be teaching a course on the use of mindfulness to treat anxiety for coaches, teachers and parents, at the Center for Instinctive Health Medicine…. Mindfulness techniques to reduce anxiety & stress, in children, excellent for counselor, caregivers, coaches, and teachers tuition $120, April 5, 2014, 9-3, 6 hours of ceu for counselor and therapists— includes applications for children and adolescents for parent/teacher training. [this class can be purchased for training in classroom or counselor site training – modified to fit your needs – contact dr. gineris by email]….. These techniques are great for counselors and I offer CEUs for nm licensed counselors, you can sign up through my website, www.bethgineris.com.
dr beth gineris is the author of Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness (2011) and Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (2013). She endeavors to assist individuals in the process of upleveling their consciousness in everyday interactions to experience profound love, connection and care in their relationships and communities. You can find her books on amazon.com and through her website.
Heart pounding in your chest when you look at or think about someone? It might be love..
or it might be fear. How you interpret that pounding is context.
To face your fears and disarm the power of bullies you have to shift your interpretation of that pounding from fear requiring flight…..
to acknowledgement requiring mindful action…
and then to love seeking an opportunity for recognition.
Facing fears is knowing your self and then seeing, understanding, and clarifying how you fit into the situation you are facing.
This is best done, gently and quietly, allowing your heart to guide your actions.
Fears derive from a lack of knowing…
a habit-reaction to another experience that feels similar…
control or mis-allocation of energy toward protection…
mis-understandings.. of yourself and expectations, or of another and expectations (or both)
an inappropriate paradigm that doesn’t take into account the whole picture of ‘what is’.
Love is indeed the best treatment for fear.
But getting from the fear to love can be blocked or feel impossible if you haven’t developed your internal path to grace.
To a lesser degree getting from anger or insecurity to forgiveness and gratitude is also difficult.
These steps can help.
Set aside time to discover who you are through breath, meditation, journaling. yoga, and other creative pursuits.
Practice using the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, to reset your placement of power august 15, 2012 post four agreements plus one (this strongly diminishes your sense of fear).
Set your internal personal goals as paramount for your energy and behavior so that you are not spending oodles of time meeting others expectations but rather directly focusing your energy and resources on what brings you joy. This returns you to empowerment rather than a sense of smallness and disempowerment. It moves you out of reactivity and into proactivity.
Accept that your path to ‘greatness’ doesn’t follow the same path as others and embrace your friends’ successes with the sense that this increases your chance of greatness too (rather than experiencing the sense of competition or limited chances to greatness).
Focus love and compassion toward yourself and others.
Release the need to prove your point.
Be willing to adjust your position as you receive new information. Be free to grow, change, and uplevel your understanding and consciousness.
Receive criticism from others as if it is coming from someone who deeply and truly loves you, this shifts your receptiveness, because it disallows a sense of defensiveness – then you can ascertain if there is a grain of truth in it or of no value.
The idea of someone trying to overpower you is co-created. You and she co-create the drama. You can disarm the overpowering fear by following these steps. In most circumstances this will free you to create a different more equally empowering situation. If it doesn’t, if the other person really wants control, just remember you have free will in how you want to participate.
You cannot engage your free-will when you are in a reactive mode. Pay attention to what causes reactivity in you. Heal that and you can remove the target from your back for those who are consciously and unconsciously engaging in this fear promoting behavior.
This will free up a huge amount of energy for you to create precisely what your heart desires.
Make real efforts to not act as if you are somehow more evolved than another, that actually is a provocative/bullying tactic. in love and light, bg
Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.
Living in the Light is knowing that you are loved, knowing that you are protected, knowing that you are in sync with your higher self and higher power goals.
The power to change your world, and by transitive property the world around you, is in your mindset. Your perception of yourself at the center of your world. This is not a narcissistic centeredness, it is a grounded and upleveled understanding that what you experience as truth is what you see.
So if you experience as truth the world is against you and you are a victim, this will be what you identify in all your interactions and therefore, what you will reinforce as truth. You will enhance the energy of lack and being invisible or unappreciated.
However, if you stand in the center of your life, and expect good things to be your experience you will observe miracles all around you. This requires a willingness to eschew fear, ‘what if’, ‘if only’, and anxiety as your experience of the world. It requires an unbounded willingness to see how the world is working on your behalf and have faith in the spiritually upleveled aspects of the world around you. This requires compassion, lovingkindness, and a focus on connection rather than competition. So, when you hear hatefulness spewing from another rather than reacting in hatefulness, you send to that person love and compassion; you allow yourself to hear the pain, fear, or misunderstanding underneath that hate so that you can assist in his or her elevation by simply responding with love and compassion. Remember, a fight can only continue when you punch back. If you do not engage in the fight with reactive hatred or anger, you open the space for understanding, peace, forgiveness and light to enter.
In the animal world, the alpha male and alpha female exert power over the group through competition for limited resources. Often physical strength and creation of alignments push out others and create a space where the alpha exerts control. Today we simultaneously label this bullying and reinforce it with the according of power — this mixed message of it being labeled bad when a little boy or girl is mean but give power to the winner of a very negative political race — makes it so that the societal message is that playing dirty, winning at all costs and bullying is wholly and completely acceptable in fact honored, so that living in the light is actually going against the norm in this current alpha society.
Our political world has used this style of power to control how the population makes decisions about who is to be in power – using whether something is ‘cool’ as a standard of what to follow. The political world, the publicist, the hollywood environment, uses this to market the buying population and focuses on pre-teens, teenagers, young adults, and those who want to be perceived as hip like these youngsters to control power positions, and make money, even controlling the population to make decisions that are not in their individual best interests. Even the world of spirit, and spiritual health has been overrun with this idea of cool, propaganda for profit. Unfortunately this has made it so there are many groups that use this combination of alpha group power and spiritual upleveling in cohesion so that it is cool to be part of some religions but not others rather than encouraging an overall elevation of spiritual interaction and action on the planet. You can see this in how the political arena tries to scapegoat and denigrate certain people for their religious beliefs and uplevel others that will increase their level of cool.
Living in the light is applying a standard of true spirituality, sincere faithful attention with compassion and lovingkindness toward all beings, as each struggles to find his or her place in the world. So that an enlightened approach, to those who see the world differently from yourself, is to have a willingness to understand their paradigm and then look for ways that you and she agree, so that a true and real conversation can be had rather than a power struggle for power in the marketplace.
Love is the great balancer and neutralizer. Lovingkindness and compassion allow you to live in the light in your approach to all human beings, animals, and plants. It is through this method that the earth shall survive. It is though this method that balance can be reset in the natural earth, because it is the beta mentality that is what is needed for the global society and earth balance to happen. The Beta and the Omega look to balance the Alpha, but our political environment has gone too far with the alpha power structure. This hierarchical style cannot contain the global needs of the earth. The beta-mentality looks for connections, is inclusive and accepting. The omega-mentality is playful, diffuses negativity, and creates an environment for letting off steam without reprisal. The alpha-mentality is most useful in third-dimensional thinking of right/wrong, good/bad, and limited resources, when there is danger from without and there is a need for absolute power, however the dependence on this style of leading, solely, has allowed for oppression, divisiveness, out-grouping, and propaganda to the detriment of global societies. This is not to say that the way forward is through the social-democratic, progressive beliefs of socialism or an over-dependence on governments, Unfortunately these policies enhance the use of propaganda and alpha-style mentality; they create a different style of hierarchy, not centered in the light or spirit. Rather than increase the use of true cohesiveness, connectedness, and mindfulness they diminish even further the importance of elevating all and create a different societal structure that will ultimately create an even smaller degree of peace.
Much of my writing is about paradigm shifting and mindfulness as a way of dealing with not only individual, but also small group and large group interactions. These ideas are infused in many religions, many philosophies both east and west and many successful groups. Not one belief system holds the patent on the idea of mindfulness; it part of Taoist, Judeo-Christian, Hindu, Native American and many other religious and philosophical tenets.
To live in the light is to be continually bringing yourself back to neutral and to discover within yourself a positive bent in all that you do so that you are actually shining light onto others and yourself to bring in the beta-mentality of connection and uplevel capacity of the whole group.
Be a rebel. Make a decision today to lighten your perspective,
move into the light in all our perceptions
eschew competition, fear, limitations, and division,
look beneath the powerful emotional arguments of the propaganda and publicity around you, look at what is considered cool, and see if it fits with what actutally uplevels your world, and the society at large
look for, and allow yourself to see, the underlying goal, of the denigration of specific groups, to acqurie political power
use mindfulness, lovingkindness, compassion and the beta or omega mentality in all of your interactions
In this way you will create peace within yourself and experience connection and understanding in your world. Love is the answer. Love is the way.
in love and light, namaste, bg
Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.
This post offers excellent support to increase your healthy balanced living.
Li Ching-Yuen was purported to have lived 256 years in China dying in 1933. When asked the secret to his long life he related his knowledge for longevity in this simple sentence: “Retain a calm heart, sit like a turtle, walk like a pigeon, and sleep like a dog.”
…retain a calm heart may also be translated to maintain a tranquil mind… this is a direct reference to meditation. Over the years many studies have shown the deep and abiding benefits of meditation; showing that focused mindful meditation helps with maintaining healthy brain function and cardiovascular function. Meditation increases resilience to stress.
...sit like a turtle is a reference to stillness, being still, allowing stillness without distraction and without multitasking…this allows for the fullness of each experience and allows for rejuvenation…there is significant evidence that the amount of stimuli requiring attention or the amount of multitasking required by americans leads to stress and allostatic overload. Creating stillness increases space for rejuvenation and a return to balance.
…walk like a pigeon, also translated as walking quickly or sprightly, this referenced moving rhythmically and frequently. This seems to keep the body, heart and mind activated and attentive without a sense of hyperactivity. Activity with rest is the most balanced style of physical development and health.
…sleep like a dog…this is indeed my favorite as it references the importance of not holding onto anything that causes anxiety, releasing unforgiveness, allowing past to be past and being in the now…conserving energy and embracing the importance of deep and fulfilling sleep…healthy in-balanced dogs take frequent naps when there is a lull in activity and then awake refreshed ready to pounce on the day or evening.
When you focus on living in a healthful, balanced fashion you increase your lifespan and decrease the negative effects of aging. Living out of balance shortens your lifespan.
In a time when there is debate about health insurance and the issue of accessibility it is important to see through the propaganda to truth.Health insurance doesn’t precisely increase accessibility. Healthcare is not health insurance. In order to increase accessibility, many shifts are required.
You can sidestep this problem, if you are currently healthy or moderately out of balance, by increasing your balanced practice in living.
How are you increasing your risk for imbalance and need for health care? Ask yourself these questions.
Do you have difficulty sleeping? Do you awaken after a full nights sleep and feel unrested?
Do you feel sluggish? Do you have an ongoing sense of fatigue?
Do you have trouble exercising either due to a lack of energy or pain?
Do you have chronic pain?
Do you have a pervasive sense of uneasiness or anxiety?
Do you feel overwhelmed with your tasks and responsibilities?
Do you feel you overeat, or drink alcohol, or use drugs to deal with your stress level?
Do you feel isolated? Or do you feel too much responsibility for those for whom you care?
Do you eat food you know is not good for you because you are too busy to make good food? Or do you eat food that is not good for you because you have to eat quickly and on schedule?
Are you overweight and find you cannot seem to drop the weight even when you try?
Do you have unresolved anger or unforgiveness regarding earlier injuries, losses, or relationship issues?
Do you feel bereft spiritually?
Do you feel apathetic?
Do you feel angry, and short-tempered more than 30 % of your waking time?
If you get more than half answers in the positive, your life is out of balance. This kind of imbalance can lead to heart disease, increased bad cholesterol, increased levels of glucose, increased levels of cortisol, decreased energy, difficulties with sleep and the overall regenerative processes built into your integrated spirit, mind and body processes, and a more rapid aging process. To make the necessary shifts in your habits of living, begin with the above mantra. You can start today!
Up to now, the western medical program in the US has been to enable Americans to behave in an unbalanced way and then get treatment for their bad behavior, calling this health care treatment. Now that we are moving into a socialized medicine program, this will begin to diminish. less and less will unbalanced, unhealthy behavior be supported through medical treatment. This is because the cost to do so is very high.
As you look over the last 120 years there is an interesting observation of overindulgence, then abstinence with the pendulum swinging toward each end in succession. Letting go and partying then pulling in and recuperating. The ground for this warfare being your body. When lifespans were closer to fifty years rather than one hundred years, this overindulgence only shortened a person’s life slightly. Now, individuals who want to live longer will have to live healthier more balanced lifestyles to have their bodies be working efficiently at the end of their lives.
“Retain a calm heart, sit like a turtle, walk like a pigeon, and sleep like a dog.” OR
Change your attitude, Heal your spirit, Balance your life… if you want to find a deeper practice or just want support in finding your way to balance, you can contact me at my website for more intensive coaching or other great resource material, www.bethgineris.com…in love and light, bg
photo of two dogs sleeping: Lisa Aldon
Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013.
Here are three simple steps to create space for Joy to come into your energetic, personal field and Balance your Life.
One remove fight from your vocabulary.
Two focus on your strengths rather than your limitations.
Three Be Grateful…even when you are in dire circumstances.
Whether you experience Joy or not is completely up to you…
What happens to you is outside of your control HOW you respond to what happens to you is COMPLETELY within your control.
Joy is a matter of attention and intention.
Practice these three steps every day and you will create space for JOY.
Your environment may not change immediately but as you change…and because all of life is a system, once you change your joyous effect on your environment will positively affect everyone and everything within it.
This works in both directions, choosing joy creates more pleasing (and less negative experiences) and choosing negativity begets more negative experiences.
If you want to Change the world, or just change your world…BE the change…. change your perspective, change your language…be in your relationships what you want to experience in relationship.
Change how you see, look for connection, understanding, and moments of perfection. Have that attention and intention drive how you see and you will experience more space for Joy.
Three steps: remove fight from your vocabulary, focus on your strengths, and be grateful practiced daily create space for Joy.
I am deeply grateful for your continued interest and fantastic work on the planet. in love and light, bg
Hello and Welcome! This is third in a series of articles. III: Balance your Life, Nourish your Body and Connect to Community.
I: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your Soul, III: Balance your Life
III: Balance your Life, nourish your BODY through mindful habits: Eat, drink, sleep, exercise
Eat whole foods
grown or cared for in a humane loving way,
primarily prepared by you or someone you love,
and look like a rainbow to support your physical health.
To promote brain health and increase immunity as well as maintain a healthy memory eat nuts, legumes, and foods that ‘look like a brain”… pecans, walnuts, eggs, cauliflower, cacao, and coffee beans to name a few. check out this post in my other wordpress blog, IntegrativeMedicineStrategiesNow, Brain Food Really.
Drink 3 liters of water a day, more if you exercise or live in a dry climate.
Water, not tea, or coke, or coffee etc…H2O positively helps with your cellular health.
It positively affects your cognition, heart, electrical gastroenterological, kidney-urinary, and immune system – WOW, right?!
Your hydration needs are affected by your exercise habits, the altitude at which you live, whether you are menstruating, and your personal system imbalances ( ie: slow digestion, toxicity, meds etc).
Exercise 1 hour a day for maximum health
if you are not currently doing this, move up to it slowly to build your muscles and systems in a healthful way. Begin with 20 minutes every other day then move to 15 minutes daily, then 30 minutes every other day and them 20 minutes daily, until you make it to 60 minutes a day.
Choose an exercise regime that suits you, holds your interest, brings in fun.
Positive Benefits of Yoga -> reducing depressive symptoms, and inducing remission in mild to severe depression in depressive disorders – WOW! (Current Psychiatry Vol.8,No10,p39-47).
combats health conditions/diseases heart, cholesterol, breath capacity, strength, cognition,
improves mood,
boosts energy,
promotes sleep,
increases interest and capacity for sex,
fun –> creativity, healthy competition, focus, endurance, social, widens interest.
Sleep 6-8 hours a day. Sleep is the most powerful health promoter!
It balances your brain, blood, spirit, reduces pain and inflammation. Don’t ignore it!
Sleep is the great neutralizer and reformer.
Sleep plays an important role in learning and memory consolidation.
Sleep deprivation can result in memory loss and diminished fine motor and cognitive skills;
can impede response time in crisis situations and increase psycho-emotional problems.
Lack of sleep can increase pain experience.
Sleep 7-9 hours each night/get to sleep by 11pm. School-age children need 9-10, Babies/Toddlers require 12-14 hours of sleep; Teenagers need 8-10 hours of sleep. For kids sleep debt can lead to an increase of restlessness, attentional, oppositionality issues
Consider the power of community, rejuvenation, and networking
Connecting, collaborating, networking, and groups offer a special kind of balance.
Finding a space to belong, share struggles and get support increases your power in maintaining the balance in your life.
Studies show that women respond to stress with tend and befriend.
Connecting in ways that help with self growth and rejuvenation, work interests and social endeavors through focusing on learning or maintaining knowledge helps keep your mind healthy.
Focusing on groups that sustain your body like exercise groups or training or cooking and nutrition groups.
And connecting with spiritual outlets will keep you centered and grounded.
See how you can institute these shifts today, re-read all the articles to remain in balance. i: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your soul, III:Balance your life. Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it, Namaste., () in love and light, bg
Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013. www.bethgineris.com
This is second in a series of articles. II: Heal your Soul, Move Spirit from facilitator to Leader.
I. Change your Attitude, II: Heal your Soul, III: Balance your Life
II: Heal yout Soul, Move SPIRIT from facilitator to leader and your direct point of focus toward meditation, Breath, prayer, and a search for unity
Meditation, Prayer, Breath daily or twice daily to redirect and refocus your energy, attention, and intention.
Spirt focus, clarity, and connection as a primary focus connects spirit, mind, and body, so that you create what you desire rather than avoiding what you fear. It increases access to your balanced, core-self and increases your ability for critical thinking, flexibility, and quick responsiveness.
Belly breathing alone can reset your cells, mood, emotion, realign and center you.
Brain scans on long-term meditators show that regions associated with attention, self-awareness and sensory processing are thicker in meditators, and that this can offset age-related cortical thinning: this is strong “evidence for … cortical plasticity” (Lazar SW, Kerr CE, Wasserman RH, et al. Neuroreport. 2005;16(17):1893-1897).
Thinking about what happens with stress, meditation and breathwork diminishes and eradicates the negative effects of stress. When Mind is in control the power to reduce stress is limited; when your leader is Spirit the opportunity to engage in mindful meditation allows for powerful healing effects.
“The regular practice of meditation may have neuroprotective effects and reduce the cognitive decline associated with normal aging.” (Pagnoni G. Cekic M. Neurobiology of Aging. 2007;28(10):1623-7).
Evidence found as a result of mindful meditation:
–>>Increase in cortical thickness in areas assoc. w/ attention, interoception, & sensory processing such as prefrontal cortex and right anterior insula;
using this network to attune to internal senses via the social neural circuits involved in interpersonal attunement, including the middle prefrontal regions, insula, superior temporal complex, and the mirror neuron system->> all from mindful meditation practice.
AND, more positive Amygdala responses include: positive affect regulation by optimizing prefrontal cortex regulation of the amygdala including Left sided anterior activation,
this allows development of a tendency toward positive emotional responses & approach /reward oriented behavior,
(which aids in decreasing symptoms of depression and anxiety)(Applied Mindfulness Current Psychiatry Vol8.no12p40 2010).
Consider the power of the serenity prayer: release what you cannot control, shift what you can control, discern the difference.
Any of these 7 activities can increase your spiritual meditative connection:
Soothing/meditative music; singing
Meditative walking, running; hiking,
dancing; Tai Qi, Qi Gong
yoga practice;
Prayer; focused breathing, meditation
Gardening, meditative focus while performing repetitive motion chores,
Any activity that brings mind/thinking to neutral and offers a spiritual connection with whatever feels spiritual to you
Next read III: Balance your Life, Nourish your body and connect to your community.
See how you can institute these shifts today, and read the following article. i: Change your Attitude, II: Heal your soul, III:Balance your life. Enjoy, enlighten, and inspire your self, and your life in every aspect of it, Namaste., () in love and light, bg
Gineris, Beth. Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, 2011; Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, 2013. www.bethgineris.com
Hello and Welcome! This is a reblog of a September 30, 2013 post.
To have a powerful, positive, and mutually satisfying relationship you need to decipher the code to your map. Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (Gineris 2013)offers insight into how your create your inner map in relationship, what kind of relationship feels secure to you, and what drives that security.
Relationships are complex. We use a map to partner. This map is designed from these intersecting coordinates
Your temperament,
Your social group connections,
The prevailing Cultural beliefs of Your location in time,
And, your security drivers from your psychosocial childhood development: What I call MAAPS
The key to navigating relationship is to discover what drives YOU to partner, what a good partner LOOKS like to your heart, mind, and body blueprint. And when that picture has some skews in it – this book offers soul-utions for how to shift that center and boundaries of your inner map.
So what are the map-keys in relationship?
Your family structure, how you observed your family relate to each other & YOU
Your personal group ties, religion, ethnicity, part of USA or other country, and your socio-economic status: READ your BELIEF systems,
These feel instinctive but are learned.
It delineates HOW you develop in relationship. From a ME style through an I style to WE. This is from dependent through an independent to an interdependent style of interacting
To shift from ME or I into a WE-style of relationship requires moving your paradigm perspective from DUALITY to UNITY. Use the MAAPSsecurity driver system: Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power or Structure, to decipher the code of relationships by understanding your insecurity drivers. By reviewing the test you can discern which of the security drivers drives, how, with whom, and under what conditions you partner.
Once you understand your personal map you can use meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork exercises and techniques to shift perspective, from a Me or I into a WE-style of relationship. Using various exercises to Unlink survivor scenarios or Habitual Reaction Patterns in relationship you free yourself from the constraints of limiting beliefs, fears, and insecurities.
Additionally embracing your integrated spirit mind, and body connection opens the space for true Inner Guidance.
3 key components differentiate how you can relate: empathy, boundaries, and inner security.
Me-style, dependence, narcissism, incapacity of empathy, difficulty with boundaries, diffuse boundaries – can’t say NO, feels empty at core and needs completion.
I-style, independence, competition, chooses to not use empathy for fear of loss of self, difficulty with boundaries, rigid boundaries – can’t say YES, fears engulfment and needs distance, separation.
We-style, Interdependence, connection, and collaboration, openly empathic, flexible boundaries, feels solid, knows self so can say NO or YES as is appropriate for the relationship and situation. Interdependent, maintains sense of self while also intimately and connected, chooses to focus on Unity and collaboration with a continued self-connection simultaneously.
These relationship styles’ different Boundaries:
TWO halves ( )=1 co-dependence: ME
Me: ( ) difficulty saying No; two halves make a whole
Two independent circles no overlap,I, 00= 2
I: 00 difficulty w/ Yes; walking side by side without integration
Two overlapping circles 1+1=3:WE, easy flexible boundaries, interdependent.
WE: o0o 1+1=3 interdependent, mutual, flexible, collaborative can say Yes and No.
Duality to Unity: Toward a Union of WE
Shifting Your Consciousness, Away from Defensive, competitive, narcissistic , Away from Balance sheet/ exchange patterns —>> Toward Listening fully, clarifying and receiving before speaking (for some this is a cultural snare), Toward Seeking understanding Rather than picking points to argue. Toward connection rather than where you diverge, feel that first then balance divergence.
This groundbreaking book offers you insight, exercises, and reinforcing information so that you can incorporate into your style of relating the keys to a better, more fulfilled life through profoundly shifting how, with whom, and under what circumstances you partner.
You can find a deep sense of peace, joy, and strength through the understanding of what drives you and developing a centered, inner strength to shift your style of being in the world through neutralizing your insecurities and embracing your inner guidance.
dr beth gineris is the author of Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness (2011) and Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (2013). She endeavors to assist individuals in the process of upleveling their consciousness in everyday interactions to experience profound love, connection and care in their relationships and communities. You can find her books on amazon.com and through her website.
Each day I awaken grateful for each of you ….and my beautiful family, friends, colleagues, clients, and patients in my life.
There is so much beauty to access.
The idea is to find a way to remain in balance so that you can connect to it and be in harmony within and without. It requires releasing negative habit reaction patternings, feeling and finding forgiveness, and aligning with the perfection of the now.
This is a pithy article on how to connect through your sensory guidance system to the Taoist five elements and realign your being with the tapestry of life.
Your personal sensory guidancesystem is built within your automated central nervous system. It uses your five plus one senses: sight, smell hearing, taste and touch plus your integrated intuition.
You may think, “I don’t have a sensory guidance system” – “I feel like I am always directed down the same wrong path”...fair enough…here’s why, you may be caught in a feedback loop that just keeps replaying the same scene, with you taking the same action, over and over. This is usually a result of some trauma, loss, or injury.
Once you know that, you create your way out, your free will choice: you can shift out of that feedback loop by changing your perspective and healing your spirit.
A simple shift in focus, release of the weight of trauma or loss, and you can find your way home.
The first step to changing your life is to stop doing your habit.
From that centered space you can then make a choice to release… to let go of the habitual way of seeing and doing so that you can connect to your true inner source, your truth.
Once you have released, you can reset how and who you want to be in your balanced state.
Your way home is following a path to grace…Allowing your heart to lead, guided by your internal sensory guidance system.
From that interior space all of your movements will be holistically in your best interests and support you and your community shifting from Me to WE.
Change your attitude, Heal your Soul, Balance your Life
To find out more about how to Shift away from habits that harm Toward habits that heal you can look into Beth’s groundbreaking book on relationship styles and the insecurity drivers, MAAPS, at the foundation of ineffective, narcissistic relationships. Find out more about Beth at www.bethgineris.com You can purchase the Me to We book there at a 30%discount…see the buy beth’s books page. offered in love and light, bg
On April 5, 2014, I will be teaching a course on the use of mindfulness to treat anxiety for coaches, teachers and parents, at the Center for Instinctive Health Medicine…. Mindfulness techniques to reduce anxiety & stress, in children, excellent for counselor, caregivers, coaches, and teachers tuition $120, April 5, 2014, 9-3, 6 hours of ceu for counselor and therapists— includes applications for children and adolescents for parent/teacher training. [this class can be purchased for training in classroom or counselor site training – modified to fit your needs – contact dr. gineris by email]….. These techniques are great for counselors and I offer CEUs for nm licensed counselors, you can sign up through my website, www.bethgineris.com.
dr beth gineris is the author of Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness (2011) and Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (2013). She endeavors to assist individuals in the process of upleveling their consciousness in everyday interactions to experience profound love, connection and care in their relationships and communities. You can find her books on amazon.com and through her website.
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