The Path to Grace is a journey that cycles between these two steps.
These 4 simple phrases assist you in this recovery path, which I call the Path to Grace.
Stop, look, and listen. It is the perfect mantra to create the neutral, present moment, open-minded perspective required for moving through roadblocks. Stop the harmful behavior; look at your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and actions, to discern what may be underneath your resistance; listen to you heart, tone, whole language to comprehend an underlying covert message.
The attitude of gratitude. Identify the gifts of your history, your drama, and your shift into recovery. Reaffirm your choice for health. Focus on your strengths, reframe your limitations. The attitude of gratitude creates an inner structure of resilient positive self-esteem rooted in a solid foundation.
Focus on what you want rather than what you fear. This mindful mantra directs your attention to precisely where you have power. Things feared tend to be things unknown that are out of your control. An inner locus of control puts the resilience, power to create, and basic capacity to respond to whatever comes your way into your own hands, so that you believe, have faith and have evidence that you can create what you want.
Be the Change You Wish to See in the World. This is a phrase made famous by M. Gandhi. He was interested in major social change, but this phrase is just as useful in small social worlds. Act mindfully, show respect, be loving, and compassionate as a style of being in the world. Live your change in every cell of your being, allowing breath, faith, forgiveness, and lovingkindness direct your actions and personal relationships, beginning with your relationship with yourself. Covey called this change Have to Be, which is to say focus on being what you want to have (Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, 1989).
Keeping these simple mantras close to your heart and mind will increase your capacity for mindfulness. This will increase your experience of compassion, harmony, and balance in living, and keep you on the recovery Path to Grace. Namaste, in love and light, bg
For those of you who follow how the stars in the heavens affect your inner pulsations and energies, this is a difficult time with Uranus and Pluto in a direct square. Often this results in a flash of change through a flash of catastrophe or a flash of insight like an Aha experience. This is like the Tower card in the Tarot.
What is useful to remember is that following the Tower is the The star which is all about renewal.
First destruction or revolution and then rebuilding anew… stronger, better, with more clarity.
This process has been ongoing for a year now with two previous meetings of these planets coinciding with challenging events in our society and culture and there are four more to go over the next two years… this process is necessary; like forest fires bringing new growth and prosperity in nature, so can these traumatic and insightful shifts offer opportunities for growth and change to your societal and personal structures.
I have been in a process of deep renewal that has felt like living within the Tower card for the last two and a half months. It has been a powerful experience to see through the fear, difficulty, and challenges to identify the irrepressible seeds of new growth in my core self. This process has brought to me a revolution of my core being…. how I respond to the pressures of society, group expectations, my perceived internalized values, and my personal needs; how I view my place in the world; what I perceive to be my core strengths and my core limitations; and what is the focus of my life-soul-plan. For me, this has been a mixof painful release, letting go – like a weeding out of misbeliefs and mis-directed strategies and a healing attraction, health promoting, and strengthening of my true authentic self and inspiration. I have been living through the energies of a mix of the Tower and the Star – destruction and renewal.
If you have been experiencing this too, then you are aware that to move through this process with the least amount of pain and the highest degree of renewal: What matters is how you respond to the catastrophe or insight.
The process of meditation, and mindfulness can guide you. Accepting truth while simultaneously letting go of misbeliefs takes a willingness to focus your mindful attention and observation upon yourself.
That which causes you fear may be the key.
Make an effort to understand whether the fear is something dangerous that you must fight against or a sense of not knowing, a sense of something unfamiliar that may indeed portend a cleansing away of debris and inauthenticity and a deeper connection to your true self.
Be kind to yourself, kind and loving. Embrace the change, go with the flow, see the beauty and the gifts in the shifting internal landscape. This will offer you that sense of peace so that you can experience the power in the renewal and the beauty in your authentic self.
Connection to spirit is the most useful tool at this time. Spirit in any form that has valence and meaning to you.
The following phrases can be helpful. Jot these down to remind you of the positive power in your shifting environment. Tether yourself so that you can feel the strength of the tree, rooted, and the height of your spirit. Even if you are feeling pulled at your very roots like the image of the Tower know that Renewal follows and allows a rebuilding process that makes you truly stronger and more flexible.
May you live in interesting times (Robert Kennedy, 1966 originally attributed as a chinese curse but this is not corroborated in Chinese studies)
For those with much to offer, much is expected. (To those whom much is given, much is expected. John F. Kennedy)
Be Grateful for the problems you have, See what gifts are set inside of them. My own inspiration.
In the center of health is heal… pay attention to how you focus your energy.
The opposite of evil is live. Shifting your perspective helps, heals, and creates connection.
Fear and love cannot take up the same space, choose love, choose joy, release fear and insecurity –> this allows you to live free, to call the renewal to you. This moves you away from the pain of the destruction, the despair of destruction toward revolution and renewal. This is the pattern of scientific, social, and personal revolutions – paradigm shifting-that creates self, relationship, and society anew. Namaste. in love and light, bg
“Be like a tree” when under stress. Allow your roots to dig deeply into the earth and ground you. Allow your branches, and trunk to sway with the pressure of the wind. Know that your center is strong and holds you stable as you flexibly respond to the assault and pressure of the storm. In this way you will find peace and resilience, inner knowing, strength, security, and flexibility so that you are not torn asunder and bereft.
“Be like water ” when in danger or working with tender beings. Gently yet with perseverance flow, guide, assist, and lightly wash away that which does not serve yourself or others. In this way you will find peace and resilience, inner guidance, clarity, strength, security, flexibility, and truth so that propaganda and ill-will cannot affect you.
In all things patience, action, attitude and intention matter. Feel the joy in every moment and your heart will sing, Namaste, in love and light, bg
Being a spirit-human, challenges you in the realms of faith and fear. Fear is what drives your lower chakra survival mentality. Faith is what drives your upper chakra thriving spirit. This is Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid (1954, 1990) and the idea of moving from Me through I to We in how you perceive your power, relationships, and environment.
You see/experience what you believe, and you believe what you see/experience. Fair enough.
If you feel fear but desire to shift into faith you need to activate your upper chakras and balance your lower chakras. You can do this through intentional action. In order to shift your perception, you have to move out of fear-based, survivalistic, limited resources perspective into a joy-based, thriver, perspective of faith. Faith being the knowing that you will be what you desire if you do not get in your own way with fear.
Faith, love, joy expand your experience; these expand your access to creation in the positive, seeing collaborative solutions, and recognition of your full power.
Fear, hate, and despair limit your experience; these diminish your access to creation in the positive, cloud/impair your vision, and reduce your recognition of your power and solutions.
Try this simple exercise to feel the difference.
frown.
breathe shallowly
look for every possible negative attribute or impediment to your desire
read about the many tragedies and heartbreaks in making changes
greet others with a negative attitude certain that they will work against you; redirect yourself to the (-)
at the end of 24 hours of this set of actions, note how you feel – you will notice you feel constricted, fearful, small, discouraged, heavy, tired, fatigued, and isolated – you may want to eat sugar, drink alcohol, or pick a fight with our children or partner.
Now, try this simple exercise to feel the difference
smile.
breathe deeply
look for every possible positive action or path to your desire
read about the many joyful and heart-filled experiences in making changes
greet others with a positive attitude, certain that they will work to your advantage; redirect yourself to the (+)
at the end of 24 hours of this set of actions, note how you feel – you will notice an expansion, a sense of courage, feeling bigger, joyful, light, energized, and connected – you may want to eat fruits and vegetables, whole, healthy food, to juice, eat protein, and drink water; you will have more energy to understand our child’s or partner’s needs and feel they are present for you and you are more available to them.
Faith or Fear, the choice is yours.
The outcome is defined by which you choose – which outcome would you prefer to create? in love and light, bg
Maslow, A.H. Motivation and Personality. NewYork: Harper, 1954. Gineris, B. Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness. Charleston, SC: Createspace, 2013.
Relationship change and growth are adventures into your heart and soul.
Relationship styles follow a developmental process from Me-style through I-style to We-style. The Me-style of relating has diffuse and enmeshed boundaries. Which mean the boundaries between Me and You in relationship get blurred. The way in which a participant in a Me-style relationship makes decisions is through a need to agree with, or merge into the other to feel the connection. This is how the co-dependence begins. The individual in a Me-style of relating has difficulty saying No when asked to act or be in a way that is inauthentic, because the driving force is to connect at all costs including loss of self. The picture of this kind of relationship is two halves coming together to make a whole. So there is a lack of boundaries between the two participants. ( )
To move into an I-style of relationship requires closing off the boundaries around yourself. Developing a sense of yourself that is defined from within so that you can guide yourself toward your own goals. You need to develop ways to meet your own needs and to depend on yourself. This is both exhilarating and frightening. Once you do this you are freer to develop into a fuller picture of yourself. Rather than two halves making one whole you are developing a whole picture of yourself so that you can move into and I-style of relationship, two Is walking side-by-side without integration. Connection is through a tally sheet of exchanges. Here competition, defensiveness, and independence drive the relationship so that an individual in an I-style of relating has difficulty saying Yes when asked to create dependence or interdependence. The fear for an individual in an I-style of relating is to become engulfed into the other and lose himself. As with the Me-style of relationship this is a result of an insecure sense of self. Unlike the Me-style of relationship, where the drive to be connected causes enmeshed or a lack of boundaries, in the I-style of relating the fear of enmeshment results in overly rigid boundaries. The picture of this kind of relationship is two Is walking side-by-side, solitary selves walking next to each other without integration. 0 0
You have to develop a solid sense of yourself, deal with adversity against your picture of yourself , and create a personal relationship with yourself, to live in an I-style of relationship. After solidifying this experience and developing a sense of trust that you will not sell yourself out, you can begin to move into a We-style of relationship. An I-style of relationship is a stepping-stone to get to a We-style of relationship. This is because you have to develop boundaries first (I-style) before you can be flexible with your boundaries in a dynamic way (We-style).
The interdependence of a We-style of relationship allows for strength of self and connection to other, simultaneously. The We-style of relationship incorporates support of the individual and collective goals and needs with a dynamic, flux movement between the resources of the relationship toward whatever of these needs attention at any given time. This requires strong boundaries and flexibility in the interdependence of the two individuals and the third aspect, the relationship or partnership. So that rather than ½ + ½ = 1 (me-style) or 1,1 (I-style) you create a situation where 1+1 = 3, or more than the sum of its parts (we-style). The picture of the We-style of relationship includes two wholes and a third aspect, which is the area the two individuals overlap to create the relationship vortex, o()o (view this symbol as two circles overlapping each other to create an inner vortex).
Fear can really be a block to change, embracing the attitude of adventure can reframe your fear into excitement, offering an energy or anticipation to help you to flow with the change rather than block or freeze when faced with change.
This is how boundaries work. Boundaries create a definition. They clarify this is me, and this is you, through defining where you end and another begins. This clarification creates a deeper understanding of each individual and also how couples, partners or groups coexist and share goals. From the defined individual space, the boundary, you can create the space for a sense of oneness and togetherness.
Flowing through the process of change begins with gentleness. Boundaries assist in creating an internal container, so that you can move through a process of change more harmoniously. Creating boundaries comes out of self-love, and love toward your partner. The clearer you are about you and other the better you are about defining what you want and what you can give in relationship. Boundaries increase connection.
See if you can discover in a self-affirming, authentic way the edges of you and how you integrate with your partner this will give you space to discern an interdependency that support you both and your relationship. in love and light, beth
Peace comes from receptivity driving creativity – mind following heart:
11.T’ai. Peace, I Ching.
K’un(receptive) above, ch’ien creative) below
…Great approaches. Good fortune. Success.The image: Heaven and earth unite: the image of PEACE. Thus the ruler divides and completes the course of heaven and earth; he furthers and regulates the gifts of heaven and earth, and so aids the people. Wilhelm/Baynes, 3rd edition (1959, 1967, 1971)
The concept of heart guiding focus is a part of mindfulness, Taoism, Buddhism, and Christianity. The implication of the treatise to do the right thing as guided by god is a part of the Jewish, Islamic and Hindu traditions. The threads of rightness as proclaimed from the unification of earth and heaven, human and spirit, with the guidance of rightness from ones heart (spirit) rather than ones mind allows for ‘peace on earth as it is in heaven’.
Cues to the many threads of agreement are found throughout religious and spiritual texts if your willingness to look for agreement (collaboration and connection) overrides your desire to be right (competition and narcissism).
In order for Peace to be the defining force among humans, the consciousness of rightness must shift out of an adversarial Alpha-style of civilization to a Beta-style of collaboration. This is the effect of Turning Me (driven by competition and narcissism) to We (focused through collaboration and connection); rightness from a dualistic perspective, Kohlberg shifting to rightness from a holistic perspective of inclusion and care, Gilligan.
It is predicted throughout time by philosophers of various beliefs and in varied social-spiritual texts that to unite human and spirit, have the mind create what is known as truth in the heart. Mindful partnering is the way of upleveling consciousness and living in the light of universal spirit on the earth-plane so that all beings are upleveled together. The resultant style of interaction among spirit-humans is Peace.
This heart focused style of relating comes out of connecting and unifying rather than dissecting and dividing. The means of how you get to Peace matters; a means that follows mind without heart, leads to destruction rather than unification of heaven and earth, even if the intent of the actor is that of Peace. This mind separated from heart style is human thinking separated from spiritual truth. Non-violent actions and words lead to the opportunity to create unity, connection and put heart (spirit) in the driving seat. Violent words and actions, even toward an idealized goal or belief system, separate heart and mind and put mind in the driver’s seat.
The way to higher consciousness-living now, follows the I Ching hexagram 11. T’ai – Peace, receptive above and creative below. In every action let your heart lead; let your mind create what your heart (spirit) desires and knows as truth; see the other as yourself and your heart will be your guiding light in action. in love and light, beth
“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”
Lao Tzu
I have been working with the energy of time and dimension through my channeling processes and what I have discovered is that everything seen is created by the seer. This is an energetic concept not a concrete one. I see this as a way to assist you in the direction of how you want to be in the world.
Here is my example;
A woman goes into the store. While she is inside a second woman hits her car by accident, but she leaves the scene without leaving a note. A third woman observes the event and makes a decision to report the information to the owner of the car – the woman in the store. The woman exits from the store and finds the person parked behind her waiting.
The first woman goes to the driver and asks – may I help you are you okay? She is endeavoring to assist. The driver who had the information about the hit and run says “no I am here to help you – someone just hit your car and left the scene, I took down her license, make, and model of her car. Here is my information and I will be your witness – please go to the police and report it so that you don’t have to pay for something that is not your fault.” The third woman then leaves.
The owner of the car has a choice in response to her situation A: she can be angry and feel sorry for herself and wonder why is the world so against me, “why does this keep happening to me” in response to the car accident, which would deplete her energy and have it be vibrating at a very low frequency; or B: she can see the way in which she is protected and cared for through the experience of the help from the driver who observed and stopped to help her, “the universe is looking out for me”, which would raise her energy and uplevel it, moving it to be vibrating at a much higher frequency.
Which perception you choose, A or B in this above example, A: anger and negativity or B: gratefulness and positivity, defines for you the world in which you live.
The more you feel that the world is against you the more you feel negative, defeated, lonely, and lost; and the more you feel that light and goodness is all around you, the more you feel the gratefulness and the joy.
Seeing your life from a bird’s eye view is not just seeing the big picture and how things are related, it is also the idea of looking at it with the concept of positivity and spirit, wisdom and an integrated spirit-mind-body knowing.
Eagles and Hawks bring messages from spirit in the Native American traditions. Doves are a sign of Peace and are also considered to carry the presence of the Holy Spirit to a situation. Athena had an owl on her shoulder so that she could see what others were hiding which allowed her to see true wisdom, in the Greek and Roman (Diana) traditions. Birds are connected to spirit.
Seeing from a bird’s eye view offers you a broader and fuller perspective so that you can choose to see the gift being presented to you in your situation.
The world you live in is based in the how you perceive events. And you perceive events based on your paradigm.
Connect to and choose the paradigm that love, peace, joy, gratefulness, and compassion are everywhere and that you are intimately connected to the universe in a powerfully spiritual way. Do this and you will see and experience a real change and uplevel in consciousness everywhere you look. Just like when you learn a new word and all of a sudden you see and hear it being used everywhere.
Shift your perspective to a bird’s eye view and sees through spirit’s eyes. You, me, and the world are truly beautiful from that perspective. in love and light, beth
Hello, yesterday this blog hit the number, 19000 hits. I feel grateful to my friends and their friends who have come to check out what’s happening here. Thank you all, in love and light, bg
So today I want to share about two proverbs.
One is Taoist: Let Go or Be dragged.
It is the way. Life is dynamically changing. Sometimes the time comes to shift a situation. You see this often in relationship. The relationship has come to a place where a shift is required for it to continue in a healthy manner, but the individuals don’t want to let go of the habitual way they had interacted.
Releasing each other from the habitual or routinized interaction allows for the two individuals to float up and flow with the wave of change, perhaps coming back together in a better more healthful fashion; perhaps moving away from each other and into a healthier relationship with themselves, leaving space to create a new relationship.
Holding on can result in a spinning inward of negativity that ultimately drags down the energy of the relationship until it implodes. This is just one description of the proverb, but the idea is to go with the flow, allow the flow of the universe to guide you and to release yourself from holding on to something that does not serve you.
The other proverb is the donkey in the well fable.
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried and struggled to get out but the sides of the well were too deep and too smooth for the donkey to exit. For hours the farmer tried to figure out what to do. He could not figure out a way to help the donkey escape. Finally, thinking the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway. Rather than retrieve the donkey he decided to cover up the donkey and fill the well with dirt.
At first, when the donkey realized what was happening he cried horribly. Then, he quieted down and let out some happy brays. A few shovel loads later, the farmer looked down the well to see what was happening and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was shaking it off and taking a step up.
As the farmer continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, the donkey continued to shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off!
The moral to the fable is this: Life is going to shovel dirt on you. The trick to getting out of the hole you are in is to shake it off and take a step up. Every adversity can be turned into a stepping stone. The way to get out of the deepest well is by never giving up but by shaking yourself off, and taking a step up. To do this you need to change your inner perspective, your inner attitude, your interpretation of what is and what is not. This allows you to see your situation from a differently and allows you to find solutions and take actions that help yourself.
More than anything in life, what happens to you isn’t what matters,
What matters is how you choose to respond to what happens to you.
Your life is what you make it. Your paradigm defines what you see and what power you perceive you have, even what power you perceive others have over you. The donkey could have lived (and died) in the paradigm he began with in his journey into the well; but in the fable he used his observation skills and thinking to shift his perspective and paradigm to change his circumstances by using the tools given to him – the rising dirt.
Both of these parables can be interpreted in a physical way, but they are equally as applicable to psycho-emotional and spiritual circumstances that require a shift in perspective.
In the donkey circumstance the shift from victim to thriver, creating his own way to safety was a physical, psycho-emotional and spiritual shift. This is also true when faced with a circumstance where let go or be dragged applies.
Own your life.
Wake each day renewed in your belief in your self, belief in the world around you and in the people in your life that matter. In this way you can be centered in your attention your unexpected and habitual experiences that require a shift.
Recognize that letting go is sometimes the most loving thing you can do even if the other is unaware of the gift.
And hold true to your inner strength even when those you believe in have let you down.
Thrive.
Model thriving. Have your thriving rub off on those around you so that the world around you, and the people around you can all shift perspective in unison to walk out of the well they have fallen into.
I have been doing some research on Taoist principles for a new book and I have found some amazing, powerfully enlightening information.
Taoism perceives that the originators of civilization itself are people of higher knowledge attained through extradimensional awareness … all successful original cultures are initiated and guided by people in contact with the Tao or Universal law. Thomas Cleary
It is Cleary’s contention that from this Taoist vision, “Taoism is not, as usually thought, a product of Chinese civilization. Rather it is the other way about – Chinese civilization was originally the product of Taoism in the sense that like all successful original cultures it was initiated and guided by people in contact with the Tao or universal law.“(The Book of Balance and Harmony, Cleary, 1989) What a powerful concept and a perfect focus for renewal and transformation.
Thomas Cleary in his book of the translation of The Book of Balance and Harmony (1989) identifies that the Taoist movement called the Complete Reality movement was created to distinguish a practical understanding of Taoism as it had been lost over time. Cleary writes that ” ironically, one of the most comprehensive descriptions of Taoism … can be found in a Buddhist text, the Avatamsaka-sutra or Flower Ornament Scripture,” which he said is “held to contain the totality of all religion:”
The various methods and techniques of the enlightened adept to worldly conditions in order to liberate people. The enlightened provoke deep faith by being in the world yet unaffected by it, just as the lotus grows in water yet water does not adhere to the lotus.
With extraordinary thoughts and profound talent, as cultural leaders, like magicians the enlightened manifest all the various arts and crafts of the world, like song and dance, and conversation admired by the people.
Some become grandees, city elders; some become merchants, caravan leaders. Some become physicians and scientists, some become kings and officials….. All-sided goodness abides by reality, not in a country. Cleary, The Flower Ornament Scripture
What I love about this is how it gives a prescription for how to live in these times.
It is about how to trust your inner knowing, your internal guidance sensory system and connect to a higher wisdom and light so that you can identify and act from a universal law or truth rather than propaganda or third dimensional pulls toward power over others to feel successful.
The ebb and flow of nature and the return to balance is the way. Living in that way, guiding your actions to be in connection to that is the highest form of instinctive medicine, balance, and harmony.
Focus on what is and the light allows that to be what is produced or created, rather than a disconnection from self, an embracement of self in harmony.
One way to find your way back to balance is to pay attention to where you feel discomfort and that can give you a clue to where you are out of balance.
You may also feel, hear as another speaks or the world shifts to attend to a lack of congruence or harmony. This is the best way to avoid following propaganda rather than the truth.
Trusting yourself, your internal sensory guidance system includes intuition and connection to extradimensional experience through mediation, visualization, and dreamwork.
Let love and your heart center be your primary, strongest guide. Through this pathway you may find renewal and transformation in this new time of higher light and higher consciousness.in love and light bg
If you want to find the secrets of the universe think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration – Nikola Tesla
Hello friends
The miracle of healing is at your fingertips. It is simply a matter of seeing, listening and responding to your senses, energy, frequency and vibration.
I see immediate and complete transformation in my practice, relationships, and life every day!
The corresponding elements that allow for this are a matter of knowing, belief, and sight. It is through this knowing belief and seeing that the miracle presents itself. It is greater than a course in miracles. It is an instantaneous truth seen through your eyes when you are completely connected to your sensory guidance system and the healing knowledge of sight and action.
Your sight must be aligned with the frequency, energy, and vibration of health, light, and spiritual knowing. From this wavelength and universe all things are possible.
This allows for the immediate perception of a miracle.
Three steps will help you to see the miracle.
First, use your inner sightconnected to your inner knowing. So that you are open to how the fabric of your life can shift to create, offer the miracle – this results in seeing the miracle.
Second, accept that choice is the ultimate foundation for each soul on the planet. And you do not have the power to change another person’s choice for his or her life.
Third, see the miracle in each event…even when your first reaction is to say that no miracle exists. Pay attention to the energy of the event and within you the intensity of your reaction. Vibration and frequency are also useful in assisting you to discern the message therein… once you have aligned yourself with the miracle you can bring forth a healing either in spirit, cognition/thinking or the body/physically.
The universe is always offering a gift to move you toward your soul’s path.How – that is true is the tricky part. Seeing the miracle requires integrating spirit, mind, and body knowings as well as energy, frequency, and vibration. Use paradigm shifting through compassionate sight and inversions to see the balance in the universe. Use a long, broad view to understand what the universe is presenting as a miracle.
A fourth step helps to align with the miracle and integrate the lesson.
Embrace even those events that are painful and look for the healing lesson within – you will know when you have found that lesson when you find yourself, smiling, looking lovingly on another or a new perception of the event, and feeling a release of anger and fear.
Miracles are the norm in your life…. as you train your internal dialogue and sight to attend to your sensory guidance system you will experience them in every step of your life. The natural outcome to this state is love, peace, upleveling consciousness, collaboration, acceptance, and success in all of your endeavors.
This is a quantum shift in experience and knowing; a quantum shift in energy, frequency and vibration. Once you allow yourself to see differently you will act and be different, immediately, in a quantum and whole way. Paradigm recognition, shifting,integration and creation in the moment. in love and light, bg
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