Raising awareness is absolutely one of the best aspects of social media, be it twitter, instagram, facebook, etal.
Having spent half my life helping people discover what interferes with their success, and then doing something about it, I can strongly say that insight and awareness simply aren’t sufficient for real change.
Awareness that there is a problem is a necessary butinsufficient quality for real change
Hyped up social media awareness can sometimes actually overshadow the opportunities for creating a real change.
How can this be? Well, mostly because there are people who will use the excitement and drama to misdirect and amplify the issue without bringing real healing tools to the gathering. The democrats will blame the republicans, the republicans will blame the feminists… the (fill in the blank group) will assert their superiority over the other (fill in the blank group)…
….and instead of a deep, powerful conversation happening about misogyny and how women are being sexually harassed and the extent of demeaning actions towards women …
….and the underlying forces that create this acceptable behavior by society (the reasons are not due to one simple fact or group) it becomes an opportunity for propaganda about how a specific group has it all right, while another has it all wrong.
An aha experience of insight or awareness can lead to a quantum shift in consciousness or a healing crisis. With either of these, real change can happen.
There is some simplicity.
Rape is an aggressive, violent action that uses sex as a weapon.
Women’s bodies do not call out to be raped.
Glorifying rape; talking about women as objects rather than human; Showing images of women being brutalized and objectified – all of these actions create women as second class non-humans that are then set up to be raped, harassed, demeaned and overpowered.
Society glorifying the music industry and movie industry for their part in this creates the space for all women to be brutalized, sexually harassed, overpowered, and dispossessed of their innate humanity.
This isn’t a puritanical religious issue, this isn’t a conservative/liberal issue, this is a power issue mostly brought about by the groups in power. The ones that keep telling you they are there to protect you, and they are on women’s sides…old and new.
Breasts are sexualized and objectified separately from their human function; used in naked-girl magazines, disney cartoons, and by feminists as much as the religious groups.
Until it is seen as a natural, normal thing to breastfeed children in public and not have it be gross (because it has been overshadowed by the sexual aspect of breasts), women’s breasts will be seen as tantalizing and power objects by men and women alike.
#yesallwomen is a great idea, raising the consciousness of what women have to endure as girls, and young women and old women.
But many of the groups who have joined in the cause to get a piece of the action are the perpetrators that keep that trauma going for women.
Power is the issue.
Until women have a handle on how to be powerful in ways that don’t include the preconceived notion of these groups that are simply using women and their issues for their own political and power gain, real change is not going to happen. (And just a hint, it isn’t the power to walk around naked…it’s the power to be seen as powerful in their innate femininity).
If you want to help all women, stop glorifying the sexualization of children, the brutalization of women, stop passively going along with the cool game of overpowering women in ALL ways..how?
Stop buying those songs, speak out against them. Stop watching those movies, stop feeding the industries that keep women down, including, when applicable, feminists that say they are out to help women while putting down their own gender to create their own power structure.
Mothers raise boys and girls. Mothers teach their girls to take care and be authentic, and yes to be careful to not get raped…mothers need to raise boys to care for girls in a way that doesn’t put the onus on the girl to maintain her goodness. Fathers raise boys and girls. Fathers need to deal with the importance of teaching masculinity, without teaching that rape is okay, or that it is the girl’s responsibility to not get raped.
I am asking you to think, to be mindful in your anger, attitude, and righteousness in how you join into this discussion. Because for those of us who have been one of the #yesallwomen who have had to deal with rape, sexual harassment, work related and personally, it’s a painful, shame-filled wound, so the discussion, the raising of awareness needs to be real, helpful, and not harmful.
Elevate the conversation. Go further, find a way to work with that group you despise, let your real, true love and desire for healing be your guide, because then you will be having the kind of conversation that will result in the elevation of consciousness…and in that shift all women will be enlightened. #yesallwomen, and yesallmen; yes to all humans working together in love and light, bg
There are a variety of ways in which energy can get blocked. It can be a blockage in cognition through rigid limiting belief systems, it can be a blockage within the body through muscle and breath holding over time, it can be a blockage in your chakras or energy field through a disconnection from spirit OR it can be a combination of all three.
In order to release the blockage humans require intention, insight, gratitude, and forgiveness.
It is an active process. It can be begun with voice and communication but breath and at least one other sense must be employed (sound, smell, color, healing touch/acupuncture, or taste (food, nutrition).
Over the next few blogs I will share with you steps to heal yourself and release your internal blockages. Additionally, I will offer ways to heal your relationships applying these specific techniques and the information available in the Me to WE book (see the link below for the book and other blogs on this site.)
To get a fuller picture of how sound heals you may want to review this blog, or get the iBOOK developed by me with several friends through the TALON CLAW HEALING CIRCLE…this is downloadable to iphone and ipod.
Remember, to release energy blockages, you need
intention, I want to heal or uplevel my consciousness.
insight, I am projecting from a habit reaction pattern of reacting.
gratitude, This conflict is a gift to assist me in righting an inner misbelief or loss of faith.
and forgiveness, I forgive myself for how I disowned my needs; I forgive you for the injury caused knowingly or unknowingly.
How these steps direct you is through the focused energy of your personal sensory guidance system and your heart led healing rather than psych (mind) or cognitive/behavioral led healing alone.
Spirit must be engaged and in the lead in order for a transcendence through thought-based, limiting beliefs.
This allows for real negotiation, movement into the WE style of partnering/ relating, (feb 2013 blog, i ching Tai (peace) guiding Me to WE) and the elevation of consciousness: transcending third dimensional interactions of right/wrong, good/bad, persecutor/victim, blame.
Your heart knowing is Always communicating to you about what you need and who you are through your personal sensory guidance system of senses. Listen to your sense reactions, your instincts, your intuition.
Learn to interpret your feelings so that you can see what is your projection and what is universal… focus on intention, insight, gratitude, and forgiveness as an integrated system, informed by your sensory system (which includes intuition) and you will live in a different world. This is a quantum shift in consciousness led by your heart spirit connection. In each interaction, perception, and action the world can be created anew. Find your way home. Namaste, in love and light, bg
You can find out more at http://www.bethgineris.com. The steps above are outlined in Beth’s upcoming book, 6 steps to transcending conflict and elevating consciousness, due out in 2014. You may participate in seminars to learn these techniques through her website. This book is the HOW TO companion book to Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness(2013).
Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can discover how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships. One being at a time, you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
The negative effects of the masculinization of femininity. Part 3 of 3.
Dependent, apathetic, disconnected children. Adolescents and young adults are delaying stepping into a fully independent role in society while enjoying many rights at even younger ages.
I perceive the reticence of the millennium generation to avoid entering into responsible roles in society, delaying entering into adulthood through various avenues of remaining dependent on parents and institutions for support, healthcare and living expenses, the malaise, apathy and lack of focus by an increasing many of the youngest generation– I see all of these serious issues as part of the side effects of the course that feminism has taken.
Feminism has created an environment where men aren’t needed in caring for children. The way in which the feminist movement has focused on elevating women has resulted in minimizing, even eradicating the role of men in caring for and raising children; even issues of providing financially for children has fallen to the state, leaving men to be outcast with respect to having responsible behavior toward their children and the mothers of their children. Men have in many cases been only the physical, genetic requirement.
This diminishment of the man’s role and importance in children’s lives has been a result of the style in which feminist policies have been inculcated and disseminated and it has had a devastating effect on children.
Focusing on the importance of being free sexually has unexpectedly resulted in an over sexualization of children – on one hand creating children as sexual beings far earlier than is healthy while keeping them as children with respect to when they need to be responsible. The Disney corporation, now a part of ABC, focuses on portraying young children as far superior in intelligence than their parents, while dramatizing even the animation characters as over-sexualized with large breasts barely fitting into the drawn-on dress that minimally covers the child’s hips. Additionally, presenting strength in these female characters as aggressive while diminishing any reference to femininity, interior strength required to withstand labor and required to be mindful and powerful creators. While on the one hand it is refreshing to see the removal of all the victim/rescuer stories of past days it is problematic that the message moves from victim awaiting rescue to sexualized aggressive (read masculinized) child.
To project women as strong beings at ease with their sensuality, recognizing the power in their fullness would be far more effective in strengthening women’s rights and opportunities. Women need to be able to embrace their sexuality and carry power over their bodies without having to choose to be either a shielded/covered up being or someone who is throwing sex into every equation… it is a matter of elevating the conversation, presenting power through an emancipated woman able to choose how she wants to be seen and represented in the world.
Women’s rights have actually been diminished in this new sexual age, due to the masculinization of femininity through this skewed feminism…see the youtube below for an example.
The culture has disconnected the rights, and responsibilities for/to those rights, so that the adolescence period has gone from five years (13-18) to 13 years (13-26). Rather than offering an opportunity to further develop skills by offering a longer adolescent period, this has resulted in a situation where they are ill-prepared to enter society as high functioning participants. They have become accustomed to having no responsibilities tied to their rights.
Adolescence is a social, cultural construct. It is not a biological stage. In human societies the adolescent remains with the family to learn social roles, expectations, and develop moral concepts, cognitive skills, impulse control, and develop skills/work training.
From a neurological perspective the brain continues to develop and is somewhat plastic through 26 (28). From a psychosocial perspective the development through the Erikson stages is fairly plastic through age 24. So with those two pieces of data – by not tying rights and responsibilities together before 26 – we are essentially sealing the cognitive beliefs and behaviors to have these unlinked from each other, thereby creating a distorted sense of dependence and independence.
The cost of feminism on this Course, delineated in Part 1, and Part 2, is to diminish the importance of teaching, modeling, caring for children and helping them become independent in the proper timeline. It has distorted the importance of gender roles within the context of a family and a social group. Thereby leaving both women and men unsure as to how to relate to one another. (See Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, Gineris, 2013).
The human species has one of the longest childrearing times. This is partially due to the fact that the human brain is underdeveloped at birth. The style in which humans learn about how to live, grow, partner, and socialize is through modeling from the significant caregivers. Without a representation of healthy interrelating, whole, balanced yin and yang aspects of each gender in the social structure, how can a little human learn to be a multi-dimensionally developed adult? I wonder to what degree this is the reason for such a high level of depression, bipolarity, ADHD, and suicidal thinking among our children — they aren’t given am opportunity to create a true connection to meaning, manage their internal needs with their social expectations, manage their will, understand and develop resilience and personal strength.
You don’t really see suicide in healthy animal populations, until and unless there is human contamination with that species – so it’s something to consider how society may be creating such problems through an imbalanced perspective of femininity.
With respect to humans, across societies women predominantly care for children; in some societies they do physical work as well as household work, depending on the need in that region and the level of financial need.
So, diminishing the importance of that feminine role, and handing it off to state agencies: day care, schools, and programs limits and truncates the positive aspects of a women’s skills in this regard.
Studies show that the brains of women actually are wired to tend and befriendin times of strife…yet feminists are trying to eradicate that aspect of a woman’s role –trying to create yang brains instead of yin ones…
(See figure to the left) Women experience tend and befriend response rather than Fight and flight, moderated through oxytocin and other hormones. Secreted at times of bonding, nurturing, breast-feeding and relationships. Taylor SE et al. Psych Review 2000;107(3):411-29
Those who want to control a society go to the child generation to actually program in what is seen as valuable, acceptable, and imprint the belief systems required for the society. This has to be enacted before the development of moral thinking which begins to solidify around 9 years old…although there is evidence that moral thinking begins earlier than that, and that concentrated, practiced mindful meditation can strongly influence the development of altruism and empathy.
Hatred of a specific group has to be taught to a child. Self-confidence, management of will and power, are all taught. Through efficient parenting children develop from dependent, to independent, to interdependent; without it a child or adolescent can become stuck in an earlier stage of development and simply not reach his or her full potential as an adult in interactive and cognitive skills.
Due to the plasticity of the brain through 24-26 (or 28) year old, enculturation is clarified in the young adult years, making schools, and learning institutions opportunities for mind expanding or mind-contracting growth. Depending on what is happening in those learning institutions. If feminists say that to be a healthy woman you must have specific political beliefs and specific roles than feminism is diminishing the rights and opportunities of women.
Here is an example of how the feminist movement has lost site of its vision.
I have been observing a sharp shift in focus in the universities’ presentation of fact versus beliefs in fields that are represented by women’s studies, philosophy, and sociology. What I am observing is that universities have increasingly become factories to promote propaganda of various ideologies by either stating things are truth, that are simply belief systems, or setting up ‘studies’ to promote these ‘truths’. Additionally the activities of critical thinking, and interactive investigation through dialogue are less supported and in fact discouraged.
There is a movie out called God’s not Dead (April 2014) which documents the inner attack of religion and the attack of specifically christian-faith groups on college and university campuses across America…resulting in over twenty legal civil rights court cases wherein the religious groups and students personal rights were harmed… this underscores my observation that specific prevailing beliefs are being offered as truth in the universities across america...resulting in the universities being propaganda promoters rather than communities of higher learning and free discourse. Although the movie is a dramatization of these events, the style in which those of faith are attacked in general under the guise of intellectuality is ubiquitous.
This course of feminism, the masculinization of femininity, has resulted in a breakdown in the importance of teaching children, and caring for them. This role has thus been taken away from the home and has begun to be placed in government agencies, day care systems, and schools. We don’t efficiently care for them as a society, we are expecting dependence, and we don’t provide the environment that allows for independence and the evolution of consciousness.
To create a new more comprehensive feminist movement yin aspects of femininity need to be honored.
All women’s choices for healthy roles in the society need to be valued.
Attack of women to reduce their power or control them needs to be disavowed.
Transcending the spaces where yin and yang interact to incorporate both in an equal way would result in setting right the current imbalance, offering a true path toward valuing the feminine.
This would result in an elevation of consciousness and the incorporation into leadership, and society, the qualities of compassion, collaboration and unity, all feminine, yin aspects of personality. Many of the answers to the current global dilemmas can be found through a rebalancing of these feminine, yin qualities into feminism. The power of the feminine is best when it is balanced yin and yang, and that which is at the core feminine in nature provides grace, strength, and power to the solutions therein.
Each reader can create change now, by simply resetting his or her internal balance of yin and yang. When you transcend the duality of aggression or victim, you elevate consciousness to include balanced yin and yang. Balanced interaction begets more balance, the shift up is natural and moves instantaneously, it is quantum in nature. Your energy can effect change . Be the change you wish to see in the world. Namaste, in love and light, bg
Discover where you are in the Temperament and the MAAPS section. You can see how you see the world, and whether you have an attachment that is creating problems in your relationships. MAAPS will help you to discern your insecurities and understand how and what underlies how you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure).
If you want to change your life, see how you can bring mindfulness to your parenting and relationships. One being at a time you can elevate the way in which you treat one another and elevate the consciousness on the planet so that equality, balance, and freedom BEcome the norm for all. in love and light, bg
The feminist movement in the millennium and the masculinization of femininity. This is Part 1 in a series of 3.
In my early education I was taught to question accepted belief systems, as a way of clarifying the underlying paradigms and developing mindfulness. As the years have passed since my your, our world has changed. I notice that there is still a lot of questioning of traditional beliefs but I have noticed that alternative beliefs or beliefs identified as progressive are not as questioned among my peers. Perhaps it’s because it feels like it’s proven to my peers; additionally, there is this energy that finally these non-traditional ideas are now taking hold, so there is no need to question them…but I think it’s a good thing to evaluate what you believe from the inside out, and see if what is being created is actually a better situation or needs more fine-tuning.
I often find I am standing in the center of a controversial subject, which is to say that I see points of view from both sides; I experience my conclusion to these controversies is not fully in alignment to either side…so I find myself alone, a lot, outside of either group….
Just because something is popular, doesn’t make it right…and sometimes the thing that is right: sound and just, isn’t popular.
Belief systems are set in the center of the social milieu…what sociologists call location in time. As an example, in the fifties in America drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes while pregnant was completely acceptable…today there are prohibitions not only legally and socially but also medically for doing such, because it has been determined that alcohol and cigarettes have deleterious effects on the developing baby in a woman’s womb.
So the idea of feminism has been applied to various social issues. My concept of feminism seems to be different from how the word is interpreted by various groups. From my perspective the idea of feminism is inclusive of elevating the opportunities and rights of women…not exchanging rights or limiting rights, or diminishing women who choose more traditional roles. Feminists should on the face of their actions support women, all women. They should actually stand up for each other and not create a divisive set of good women and bad women groups. Feminism should entail a broad set of beliefs that are inclusive of the roles women choose, should provide support to women figures that have attained a positive power role in society and should focus on increasing opportunity for women. At the least feminism should not be a way to deride women who are participating in traditional roles or who have chosen to be conservative versus liberal…this action alone is hypocritical and deflates the positive aspects of the feminist social movement.
These individuals have each overcome tremendous adversity and attained a position of influence and clarity in their specific fields. And yet, rather than being supported or defended by the feminist movement leaders, their treatment is either ignored or the feminist leaders are complicit in deriding the women. I understand this is sociological group behavior, ostracize behavior seen unacceptable by the ruling group leaders…and it is not popular today to be conservative, it is not popular today to go against the current progressive belief systems and it is not popular today to be in any way affiliated with the finance community…but the fact that the feminist movement is choosing which roles are acceptable and which roles are not is simply another way to control women and limit their choices which is the opposite of the goal of feminism. It is a real war on women, driven by women.
Feminism has unfortunately taken a bifurcated, and skewed course over its reign, since the late 1800s. I perceive that indeed some actions supported and advocated under feminist ideas are actually limiting women’s rights and opportunities, while others are increasing women’s freedom and equality in the American society.
By analyzing the course of feminism with a neutral perspective, unencumbered by the propaganda of the feminist movement, I have come to a few vastly different conclusions than the current progressive belief systems taught in university.
I perceive Feminism of the sixties as a paradigm of increasing the opportunities for women to participate in sexual relationships without the threat of having to deal with pregnancy or child-rearing. This is directly related to the development of the birth control pill. Women wanted the freedom they observed in their gender counterparts…This is one of the main driving forces behind feminism and ‘civil rights’ of women and is the issue that is behind women’s rights in areas where women’s sexuality are severely controlled by the society in which they live. This is a far more pressing issue in countries other than America… ie: where women are ritually circumcised to reduce the degree of sexual pleasure they experience in sex — this is to control women. This aspect of feminism is akin to women’s voting rights of the suffragist movement. Both of these aspects of feminism have greatly increased women’s rights as human being and their equality to their gender counterparts in society. I perceive to be of great importance.
Another important issue of feminism is to recognize the importance of equal pay for equal work, this was first in play in the forties and then returned in the eighties and nineties when women began to identify the glass ceiling in corporate America. It was at this time that the power suit came into play. It brought with it a shift away from creating more choice for women and extending opportunity to choosing which kind of behavior was favored by the feminist movement. This was the beginning of an accepted persecution of women whom they felt didn’t support this focus. This resulted in a fracturing of the feminist movement.
Pushing Yang (active, competitive, masculine energy) over Yin (feminine energy, inner creation, collaboration), the movement attacked women directly for their personal free choice of how to work, marry, and participate in society. Value was placed on ‘doing man’s work, in the corporate and political world. Working at home, caring for children, and traditional roles were devalued.
Women are in general paid less than men how much less depends a little of whether you are comparing apples to oranges. The amount less for similar work is now around 5% less – so an amazing good score for the efforts of feminists in this arena. But at what cost has this been achieved? The means of achieving it has created other unintended consequences (see more in part 2, and part 3 of this series).
Society and location in time have a lot to do with the original pay discrepancy and how things have changed today. A change started in the forties, the fifties created a lull in that change, but as part of the sixties movement this began to change. The nineties addressed this through a changing focus on gender roles. It has been shifting to a more equal compensation in the last ten years.
In the fifties, a man worked to support a family (children and a wife) and women worked to support one. This was partly due to the culture of the fifties that women worked in the home and men worked outside the home. So the employer tended to pay accordingly. As women became more highly educated and interested in working outside the home the shift in the marketplace represented that societal shift.
Several issues plagued the movement toward equal pay: specifically biological limits of childbearing (women are limited in the range for safely getting pregnant while men can conceive over twice the number of years), childrearing (although daycare and equality for men to stay at home and raise the children came into action in the nineties, for the most part this role fell to women).
So men stayed in the workforce and at that company while women left to have children, get married, and tended to leave to follow their partners. Additionally, from a sociological perspective men were mentored to move into the areas of business which were on the fast track to moving up the corporate ladder, marketing, sales while women were mentored into human service which dead ended at middle management or areas away from the ladder; this appears to have a connection to the issues of having the freedom to child bear and child rear and still be in the workplace.
Okay so fast forward to now: due to the no contest divorce effects, (IHM march 13, 2014 blog) and other factors, more women are having to support children without the help of men and so that fifties concept no longer applies.
Additionally, women no longer wait to have babies in a committed/married/partnered relationship. There a number of circumstances where women are not supported by the other parent indeed sometimes the other contributor is the federal or state government through Medicaid and other funding, including women who choose to parent via IVF as single parents.
So equal pay is a more appropriate response to the societal change and is a good place for feminism to focus on when supporting the rights of women.
When you do a statistical analysis that really takes into account these issues, time in the workforce, and job choice, the difference between genders is less than 5% for pay for similar jobs, according to new studies out this year.
In this arena feminism has done a great job to move forward the importance of equalizing the attitude toward women in the workforce and their value there.
But I propose the course of doing this by the feminist movement resulted in the masculinization of femininity which has had an unintended consequence of creating a harmful imbalance in society resulting in separating ‘good feminist women’ from ‘bad feminist women’ based on the roles they chose to play in society AND creating a serious breakdown of the psychosocial development of generations of children. To see how read part 2, and part 3 of this series. offered in love and light bg
Sound waves, ocean waves, and seismic waves are all called mechanical energy waves. These have the ability to move through matter. Vibration and sound have the power to heal.
Sound is a powerful healer.
Consider the effect certain songs have on you. The effect of a song is not only related to your psychological connection to it in the development of your life, but also to the tone and harmony of it, and how it relates to your internal energetic systems. Classical music and the Beatles have the ability to create a sense of balance, this is directly related to the healing power of sound.
All the senses have a healing effect. Sight, Taste, smells (scent), Touch and Sound are all powerful avenues to balance your physical body. Each of these senses offers an avenue to connect Spirit, Mind, and Body.
Taste: In Chinese and Ayurvedic medicine, specific flavors positively align your body based on which elements are out of balance. Bitter for Fire (Red): Heart/small Intestine channel (think discernment and a lack of joy or out of balance mania); Sweet for Earth (yellow-orange): Spleen/stomach channel disharmonies (think worry, pensiveness, depression); Pungent or Bland for Metal (white): Lung/large Intestine disharmonies ( think OCD, grief, lack of breath, difficulty with holding on or letting go; difficulty in choosing due to not knowing authentic self); Salty for Water (black): kidney/Bladder disharmonies ( think fear, phobias, stuck due to inability to choose best action due to fear, staying in harmful situation, deep insecurity due to life/death trauma); Sour for Wood (green): liver/gall bladder disharmonies (think anger, shame, rage, inability to forgive, hyper-vigilance). These tastes help to bring into balance the interactive five element systems. You can find more here: http://www.yogitimes.com/article/five-chinese-elements-cleanse-release-clarify/
Sight/Color: There are many ways you can use color to help in healing. You may use colors in reference to food, as above. There are specific mantras and chakra connections for specific colors. See more here: https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2013/06/22/life-lessons-in-relationships-energy-and-color/ . Additionally focus on positive images, make an effort to dismiss and release negative images. There are studies that show that humans (and other highly developed mammals, elephants, dogs, dolphins and whales, and chimpanzees, gorillas, and monkeys) have mirror neurons. These mirror neurons are in our brains and affect how we choose to be in the world; what we see affects our perceptions at an integral level. So the more you can see positive, interactive, high level consciousness behavior the more you will actualize this kind of civilization. More about this in future posts.
Smell/scent is a powerful healing tool as well. Consider that the most powerful sense is smell for memory and recognition. Partners often find the scent of their partner to be the most appealing aspect of their connection. Babies know their mother by her scent. The brain connection for your olfactory sense is directly connected to your limbic system which underscores the visceral aspect of this sense. I use Do-terra oils in my practice to cleanse and release unwanted or unneeded negative beliefs held in the auric field. Here are a few suggestions: https://instinctivehealthmedicine.com/2010/03/11/energy-breath-and-balance/ .
Touch/the feeling sensation has been studied for many years. Healing touch is one of the most powerful healing tools. This is related to both the psychological experience of not being alone and the desire for humans to feel connected, (one of the primary softwire drivers in the human brain system, as supported by the importance of mirror neurons and how they drive the development of empathy), and to the physical system of your muscles. Along your skin and within the muscle is a set of nerves they are constantly informing your brain about situations as safe or not and what is happening to the body, so that your brain can take an action. These systems fire when there is discomfort or an injury. They turn off or return to a lower setting when the area that is firing is touched…consider the immediate tendency to touch your finger (knee, hip. shoulder etc) when you bump or hit it. Or how this action calms a child when s/he is injured…indeed that is a perfect example of the healing power of touch. Resetting a system that has ben firing for years is the work involved in the treatment of myofacial trigger points, fibromyalgia and post traumatic stress disorder. Massage, acupuncture, and Reiki all utilize methods to reset the body through touch.
So let’s talk about sound. Sound is a powerful healing tool.
If sound waves are mechanical energy waves that can move through matter, then it clarifies how sound can clear out and heal blockages in your chakras, your physical body, and your emotional and auric fields.
Sound in conjunction with color, scents, and mindful meditation to clarify your thinking work together very efficiently. I have found that the longer a block has been manifesting in your body the more difficult it is to release it. Children respond very quickly to resetting through sound and smell. When you combine tools you have a more efficient and less drastic release, almost as if the negativity simply peels off and is transformed.
There are specific sounds for each chakra:
c,d,e,f,g,a,b are the notes for the seven chakras typically identified. The toning bowls that sound at each of these notes can assist in healing these specific chakras.
In addition, my Kototama teacher, dr. Jeffrey Meyer, taught me that chanting the vowels: eh, ee, ah, O, oo in a repeated fashion with one breath can align the various chakras through aligning the five elements in your visceral and etheric system.
You can listen to a small scale of this chanting here: Healing Sound.
When you are feeling out of balance you can use this technique to center yourself and align your physical and spiritual self. You may notice certain sounds are easier, stronger, or more difficult this gives you an idea of where you may be out of balance. As you develop an understanding of the connection between the sounds and the elements, you may utilize this connection and sound to heal yourself.
Even without this level of awareness you can feel yourself strengthening and balancing by repeating the sequence with your breath until you feel the shift and rebalancing. Listen again to the above link, you may notice the difference in strength and alignment from the first to the third toning in the above audio link.
There are crystal bowls for c#, d#, f#, g# and b#.
There is evidence that new energy centers are developing within our chakra system that correspond with these sharp notes. These can assist you in developing your capacity for breath, the diaphragm chakra (d#) or in opening the thymus or higher heart chakra (f#) which can assist with increased immunity, as well as the Zeal point or Mouth of God chakra at the base of the occiput,( g#), which assists with compassion and telepathy, a deeper connection with spirit and the universe. I have not investigated the evidence about the relationships between these centers and astrology, but this figure offers a sense of the new chakra configuration and sounds. I have been using the e, f#, and g# in my practice and find these sounds to be profoundly healing.
Here is a link to all the newly developing chakras and sounds, crystal singing bowls.
As you are developing your understanding of these bowls, chakras and sounds, you may also want to address blockages in your thinking or beliefs.
Work with the first set of chakras first, root, sacral, and solar plexus as these will help to keep you grounded as you move into higher energetic realms. You can use color to amplify the strength of these chakras. Meditation on the chakra will enhance your clarity about what you need and how well balanced you are.
You may want to work with these blockages by simply using cognitive inversions, reframing the difficulties into gifts and aligning with the power of gratitude, compassion, and forgiveness.
Acupuncture, energy work, therapy, journaling, yoga and breathwork are all helpful in realigning with your true power and integrated self.
Yoga is an excellent source of support, because it utilizes breath attention, and intention in an integrated way to align your spirit, mind and body. Through Yoga you are increasing the amount of light you are pulling into your energetic system. It helps to lengthen your spine so that you can actually hold more light.
Recognize that you have the power to heal within in you simply through accessing your internal sensory guidance system. You are a sensory, spirit being. Develop and exercise your muscle of attention and intention this will strengthen your intuition and you access to health immediately.
Breath, toning and sound, clarification of your intent, all, will create an opportunity for you to elevate your consciousness. Embrace the power to heal within yourself and clear the path to a new level of consciousness in thought and action. in love and light, bg
dr beth gineris, dr laura wolf, (of Wolf Acupuncture), and chris wolf will be together at Mama’s Minerals in Albuquerque, NM to demonstrate and offer Sound Healing in real time come out and join us for an amazing day of Healing, Saturday May 10, 2014, 10-3 Mama’s Minerals Alternative Fair Info. We have developed an ibook download that you can use at your convenience and we will be demonstrating its power there. Discover the amazing power you have within to heal yourself, in love and light, bg
The fastest way to align with the best parts of yourself and perceive the oneness of all humankind is through the ego.
The ego is the mindful aspect of your self. In fact, if you want to get to no-ego you want to fully embrace ego, and then you will observe no-ego within you as you elevate your consciousness to oneness with all. (Gineris, turning me to we:the art of partnering with mindfulness, 2013)
This is not unlike the very power of breath in yoga to dissolve the blocks of energy within your muscles. Embracing the blockage, and breathing with and through it transforms the energy.
The concept of ego in psychological theory is the role of mediator and rebalancer in the tripartite aspect of the human mind developed by Freud.
The ego’s job is to mediate between the primitive needs and wants, the id, of an individual and the introjected societal shoulds and should nots inculcated from your parents, the superego. (Freud, the ego and the id, 1923)
The ego has gotten a bad rap from alternative healers indicating that it is power and control based. I suspect this has to do with the Buddhist concept of living free of inner desires. There is no need for a mediating aspect of mind if you are not in such an inner battle between self and society.
Another confusing piece of the puzzle is the term egoistic or egotistic, it references an inflated picture of self and selfish behavior. The root of these words is ego and so there is a tendency to attach selfish, power-hungry meaning to the word ego.
But this is the same mistake as calling someone who is hypomanic depressed. it is understanding the meaning of the prefix hypo, less or under, without understanding the meaning of the word. When an individual is hypomanic she is agitated frustrated, aggressive, but not in a full-blown manic state… so just under (hypo) mania. She is still hyper-aware and hyper-agitated.
Your ego is not selfish but rather holistic, attempting to discern ways to guide your actions and thinking toward caring for individual needs while living under the expectations of society.
The problem with an interpretation of ego as power-hungry is that it pulls you away from the part within you that is actually guiding you toward spirit.
Ego is that aspect of yourself that invites compassion, neutrality, lovingkindness, and the concept that we are all one to come into your mind.
Shift your relationship to the word ego by clarifying the underlying meaning.
Avoid acting in a selfish manner.
Use mindfulness, compassion, and lovingkindness in your decision-making.
Breathe
Embrace the perfection of spirit already within you, guiding you toward the most holistic and loving action that allows for the oneness of the universe to be represented.
Ego/no-ego, rebalance your internal picture so that you can increase your empathy and connect to the spirit within you that is connected to all. Then your needs and society needs (or group, or couple needs) clarify, become aligned, and your actions are empathetic, bounded, and resonant from an inner security.in love and light, bg
dr beth gineris is an integrative medicine practitioner in albuquerque, new mexico. she offers compassionate, mindful guidance to online coaching clients and clinic patients daily using her medical intuitive, clinical counseling, energetic rebalancing, and oriental medicine skills. you can find her at http://www.bethgineris.com
Das, Lama Surya.Buddha Is as Buddha Does: The Ten Original Practices for Enlightened Living. HarperCollins, 2007. Freud, Sigmund.The Ego and The Id. w.w. Norton & co.,1923. Gineris, Beth. Turning Me to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness. Createspace, 2013, p186-190.
I came to the field of alternative medicine and healing through a long process of personal discovery and acceptance. Along the way I managed to accumulate a few graduate degrees and many certifications in various energetic medicine treatments. I started out with the desire to be an orthopedic surgeon. I became an energetic healer, integrative medicine practitioner, and a devourer of all kinds of philosophy and spiritual traditions.
My practice and understanding has evolved through a tripod of uncovering my self knowing (information that is true through my experience), education in other belief systems and knowings, and discerning mindfulness. As a result what I think and feel is trueor truth is based in the integration and transcendence of all three.
So when I make efforts to assist others in their thinking and to help them with healing, I come at this from a deeply humble place.
What I notice, however, is that many of my peers and a number of well placed individuals in the alternative world do not practice that humility. Indeed, I notice they display a surprising degree of arrogance and narcissism.
There is an overall intolerance, irritable impatience, and lack of empathetic compassion, in their rhetoric. Not only do they use the same demeaning, put down tactics that have been applied to them, toward those they identify as less evolved, in addition they have a palpable disdain for them.
This attitude is also applied to those whom they are trying to assist in their consciousness elevation.
Perhaps it comes from a deep inner knowing that they are right in their beliefs. But after my own experience with this sort of struggle and enlightenment path, through which I became more deeply aware that right/wrong destroys the chance for integrated knowing, it feels more like a power trip then a guide for consciousness evolution.
I see the narcissism and arrogance in negative comments about people in social media. The judgment of others and their beliefs. Recently, I read a blog from a well-known alternative medicine guide, who was using a dialogue with her equally talented friend to discuss the level of banality of those seeking help. Perhaps she was trying to lightly chide her queriers to look deeper, but her style of dialogue with her identified enlightened friend sounded more like two gals in a clique making fun of people. Her premise of clarifying the root of the problem was completely enlightening, but her style of interacting about the issue was distanced, un-empathic, and slightly arrogant. Perhaps what was off-putting was the two talking about people, joking, laughing, when describing the ways people get off course. In fairness, she may have thought her presentation was joining the ranks and laughing with the people, but it came across as laughing at them, with her underlying tone dismissive and superior.
I was stunned, as she had often been a being that I felt wrote of embracing healing and health with compassion and care. In consideration on her part, it may be that she was feeling frustrated about not being able to get people to understand the importance of her message and so was simply reacting.
I have a lot of training, a lot of education. I have been in the trenches of helping people change for over twenty years. At times I can really see through a lot of what people are doing when they ask for help…but I never think it is my place to think they are wrong…choices, habits, ways of being… these are deeply ingrained. They are developed over time to make sense of nonsensical worlds and experiences.
Healing through these takes deep love and compassion toward yourself and when you have a guide who is disrespectful or superior it actually causes you to hold tighter to those habits, because in a deep place within yourself you recognize the person isn’t safe.
Looking within, facing the choices you made to survive, unearthing the beliefs you swallowed whole from your cultural and family systems requires courage, compassion and trust. It takes time to see within yourself, to understand what it is that you are doing that hurts yourself and what it is that you would rather do for yourself. The fastest way to impede real healthy change is to make fun of someone’s inability to see what is necessary. Actually threatening or making fun of someone only makes that person feel worse, and so cling to the exact thing that they need to release.
My experience is that being a healer isn’t being the know it all, superior, king of the world…it’s much more like being a caring talk show hostess, gently encouraging your audience to look inside, gently release that which doesn’t serve, and encouraging love and acceptance, embracing your true self.
This role of healer/guide is difficult. It is mostly thankless. You are mostly invisible and unimportant in the process. The recognition of your care and skill comes often in retrospect or mostly once you are gone. So for individuals who want to be recognized for their power, intelligence, or sheer genius…those who want to be called healers… it is problematic.
I believe this is what drives the narcissism and arrogance in alternative healers. They are of two minds, unintegrated. On one hand they see the empowerment of being soulful, spirit-filled, but on the other hand they have not dealt with their inner needs for power or their reactive level of superiority. They come by it honestly. Constantly having to go against the grain of the society, to prove to a society that requires proof from a right/wrong perspective that living in the light, in spirit, is valuable sets up this inner split. So that on one hand a person is able to live in the light but on the other hand to express it pulls the person back into the shadow.
I understand this. Yet, it is something that I want to kindly address because it is harmful. It is harmful to the identified healer and those they are intending to help.
These individuals who are presenting themselves as more highly evolved are actually acting without mindfulness, without compassion, not from a no ego state of harmony, but rather from an egotistical state of superiority and arrogance, “I know better”.
This type of superiority and intolerance seems outside of the very thing they are teaching.
It can be human nature to defend against attack by treating another as you feel he has treated you. But it isn’t evolved spiritual consciousness.
The evolution of consciousness requires that the response of the evolved person be compassionate, show lovingkindness, treat the other AS she would like to be treated (not as she was treated in the shadow, unintegated degree of consciousness).
This is what the Buddha references about releasing ego – no ego. This is what is attributed to Christ to love, to see the beauty in another and forgive even when he or she harms you. This is what is part of the ten commandments and the golden or silver rule – to do unto others what you would have done unto you (or not do unto others what you would not have done unto you).
As you endeavor to heal yourself and evolve your consciousness, listen to the understory as well as the over story in the guidance you receive. Listen to yourself, too. Pay attention to your inner sensory guidance, the quiet inner voice that helps you to discern whether you are moving toward integration and wholeness.
You may disregard guidance that is coming from a sense of superiority or disrespect, or you may choose to listen to the kernel of the guidance and disregard the put down.
And if you are an alternative healer, listen to your own understory. Pay attention to that which drives your desire to help. Clarify your shadow and allow yourself to be fully integrated. The more neutral you feel, the more love you feel, the more you allow others to be in their own space free, the more likely you are integrating your shadow and your spirit.
Spiritual consciousness evolution happens through transcending and connecting to the place where spirit and human are best, not one better than the other.
The easiest way to find that is through meditation, breath, forgiveness, lovingkindness, mindfulness, and acceptance. in love and light, bg
I have been using crystal toning bowls in my practice recently, to shift negative energies out of the various chakras and to accelerate the opening of new chakra centers.
There are specific sounds for each chakra:
c,d,e,f,g,a,b are the notes for the seven chakras typically identified. The toning bowls that sound at each of these notes can assist in healing these specific chakras.
In addition, my teacher dr. Jeffrey Meyer taught me that chanting the vowels: eh, ee, ah, O, oo in a repeated fashion with one breath can align the various chakras through aligning the five elements in your visceral and etheric system.
The sound is like this:
When you are feeling out of balance you can use this technique to center yourself and align your physical and spiritual self. You may notice certain sounds are easier, stronger, or more difficult this gives you an idea of where you may be out of balance. As you develop an understanding of the connection between the sounds and the elements, you may utilize this connection and sound to heal yourself.
Even without this level of awareness you can feel yourself strengthening and balancing by repeating the sequence with your breath until you feel the shift and rebalancing. Listen again to the above link, you may notice the difference in strength and alignment from the first to the third toning in the above audio link.
There are crystal bowls for c#, d#, f#, g# and b#.
There is evidence that new energy centers are developing within our chakra system that correspond with these sharp notes. These can assist you in developing your capacity for breath, the diaphragm chakra (d#) or in opening the thymus or higher heart chakra (f#) which can assist with increased immunity, as well as the Zeal point or Mouth of God chakra at the base of the occiput,( g#), which assists with compassion and telepathy, a deeper connection with spirit and the universe. I have not investigated the evidence about the relationships between these centers and astrology, but this figure offers a sense of the new chakra configuration and sounds. I have been using the e, f#, and g# in my practice and find these sounds to be profoundly healing.
Here is a link to all the newly developing chakras and sounds, crystal singing bowls.
As you are developing your understanding of these bowls, chakras and sounds, you may also want to address blockages in your thinking or beliefs.
Work with the first set of chakras first, root, sacral, and solar plexus as these will help to keep you grounded as you move into higher energetic realms. You can use color to amplify the strength of these chakras. Meditation on the chakra will enhance your clarity about what you need and how well balanced you are.
You may want to work with these blockages by simply using cognitive inversions, reframing the difficulties into gifts and aligning with the power of gratitude, compassion, and forgiveness.
Acupuncture, energy work, therapy, journaling, and breathwork are all helpful in realigning with your true power and integrated self.
Yoga is an excellent source of support, to help you balance your integrated spirit, mind, body fields as you are increasing the amount of light you are pulling into your energetic system. It helps to lengthen your spine so that you can actually hold more light.
Sound is a powerful healer.
Consider the effect certain songs have on you. The effect of a song is not only related to your psychological connection to it in the development of your life, but also to the tone and harmony of it, and how it relates to your internal energetic systems. Classical music and the Beatles have the ability to create a sense of balance, this is directly related to the healing power of sound.
This is the meditative and balancing power of chanting and toning.
Have fun with this.
Discover what sounds are healing to you. These may change over time and as a result of various circumstances.
Recognize that you have the power to heal within in you simply through toning and sound. Embrace the power to heal within yourself and clear the path to a new level of consciousness in thought and action. in love and light, bg
My friend, Georgia, said to me recently, that I have an angel’s view from 30 thousand feet… I can see how others get in their own way, the blocks in their electromagnetic field, their conflicting, problematic, limiting attitudes & beliefs, AND how these are creating boulders in their path..
From her perspective I can see this and this can at times make others not like me
…others see this in you, they know that you can see.
This recognition by another, when she (or he) is not ready to commit results in a bifurcated response, on one hand she sees I can help and presents herself for a healing, like asking me questions about what she should do in her life about some thing, sometimes a person may actually show up in my office for a session….the bifurcation happens when the person wants release or a clearing passively. She wants me to do the work of healing her without any commitment to the healing personally.
In order to get the healing you have to actually choose and do the healing work… That is the catch, it isn’t passive on your part.
And so, when I don’t say what a person wants to hear, or when I focus on how (he or) she has power in a situation and what actions (he or) she must take in order to create the space for a healing, and the person just wants to be healed without any personal shift, this can result in negative energy toward me.
….Which is how our conversation started, I was lamenting about the process and how unpleasant it is for me.
…But it isn’t enough for them to present themselves to me for a healing… ‘just because you can see from an angel’s view doesn’t mean you can help like and angel’….
Crash!That brought me right down to earth.
Her point being that while I may feel compelled to help everyone who crosses my path and I am at the ready to create these miracles, I am still only allowed to wield that healing power when the other person is fully committed to the shift into her (his) new self.
….you have the skills and capacity to transform and clear other’s fields, but there has to be a conscious willingness,a direct agreement and intention from the spirit/human needing transformation for you to do it…
As much as I feel compelled to heal others because I can, doing so requires an integrated conscious agreement for healing and an active readiness that is transmitted through actions, statements, and higher level karmic release.
You have to step fully into your elevated self. Which means you have to integrate your consciousness and your commitment to healing.
Integrated conscious agreement, the action of not only saying I need help but also holding the intention and willingness to receive the shift and embrace the necessary release of unhealthy attitudes, actions, beliefs, and mis-knowings.
This is the release of the karmic emotional cords that are within your DNA.
I interpret this to be the way in which karmic cords may be in your DNA.
So that as you develop your chakra wheels and open to the development of higher level chakra spheres you open yourself to the knowledge of these karmic cords and open yourself to healing, releasing and clearing them.
This requires integrated spirit/matter (human) consciousness knowing and recognition.
You can choose to heal, clear your karmic cords and elevate your spiritual, emotional and physical being.
Until then I will continue to deflect the negativity as it flies by me, and I will hold the view from thirty thousand feet. I see you and I send you love and light, bg
A friend requested elucidation of how the Me-style works if you are the one who gives yourself away by not holding or setting boundaries, especially when you are in partnership with a person who tends toward narcissism.
The me style is the concept ‘two halves make a whole’ perspective. If in your situation you are the one who can’t say no, you have difficulty setting the boundary. If you are partnered with a narcissist, your partner has no capacity for empathy, no ability to actually see your point of view. In psychological terms a person who is narcissistic is not specifically selfish – you can be selfish and not be narcissistic. To be diagnosed as a narcissist you have to lack empathy. The other diagnosis that has no capacity for empathy is a sociopath. What the two have in common is this lack of empathy.
Typically people who are caught in relationships with either sociopaths or narcissists have poor boundaries and lack self esteem (undeveloped inner security) and so don’t say no. They lose their sense of me, giving it away to their partner in hopes to feel/be loved.
The question where is the me is an apt one. The set of parameters for the me-style is dependency, diffuse or no boundary, lacks empathy, inner insecurity. Remember it’s a style of partnering – so the driving focus is the driving me-need (for the giver away of self – the me-need that is driving is a need to be loved by an other – so although it looks like there is no me on her/his part, s/he is being driven by an insecurity me-need).
YOU can strengthen yourself by developing a healthy set of boundaries (defining and living through a set of boundaries of what is reasonable to give and take in relationship) and a healthy style of saying no ( identifying when you feel taken for granted by developing your awareness of your senses) as well as developing your inner security (discovering what you want and not accepting less than that- this includes recognizing your strengths and your limitations, and how these play into what you want in relationship).
Setting up these boundaries, increasing your sense of inner security, and developing compassion for yourself and your partner will get you ready for an independent, I-style relationship.
You may either grow together into a clearer more bounded relationship OR you may release each other to develop the next style of relating: Two circles 00 walking side-by-side independently with firm, clear boundaries. In this, the I-style, you may have to deal with stiffer boundaries as you develop your capacity to say no. You may even find you are less flexible because you are defining those lines that you do not want crossed.
Once you feel comfortable in that kind of relationship you can develop flexibility with your boundaries and your paradigm recognition, shifting, and integration…. Thus allowing you to easily Move Into interdependence, through focus on connection and collaboration where both parties matter and a we-style of relationship.
Development through the different styles is a process. Once you know where you are in the series of Me, dependent (co-dependent, driven by a set of inner insecurities), diffuse boundaries; I, independent (rigid boundaries, unable to say yes, due to a fear of losing self); We, interdependent, flexible boundaries focused on what you want rather than what you fear; then you can use that knowledge to develop qualities of empathy, boundaries, and inner security to get unstuck and achieve a more mutually satisfying relationship.
You can find out more in Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, (Gineris 2011); Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness, (Gineris 2013).
and discover where you are in the MAAPS section. This will help you to manage your insecurities and understand how and why you developed your insecurity driver (Money, Achievement, Attachment, Power, Structure). in love and light, bg
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