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Listening is an active process. It is active in that it requires focused attention and neutral or accurate interpretation.
Hearing is a function of this process of focused, unattached listening. Meaning is the by-product – it is what you hear.
When you listen fresh, and without attachment, you free yourself to hear the meaning sent versus your internal negative dialogue or grandiose spin on either the speaker or your self perceptions.
What you hear reveals information about yourself when you hear through the filter of this inner dialogue.
In addition when information is heard through this inner dialogue filter, what another hears you say has more to do with him than with you.
There are levels of information sent in communication. This can be clarified and understood in context when your own filter is removed.
Knowledge is not an inaccurate filter. So that placing the message sent within the context of the sender allows you to accurately interpret the sender’s meaning.
The personal filter through which you hear can interfere with your capacity to do this, your capacity to be neutral.
Fears, misperceptions about yourself such as insecurities or historical relationship information that do not apply to the current relationship are all filters which will interfere with accurate hearing, and will result in inefficient meaning making.
Follow these steps to create clarity and move yourself into a neutral posture for active listening.
- Be open to clarity. Clarify what you heard – Repeat what you heard including the hidden message, and request if that was the message sent.
- Be neutral – face your inner fears, inner insecurities, and inner mis-perceived paradigms or pictures by questioning yourself about their veracity.
- Utilize an integrated listening and hearing system – integrated spirit, mind, and body. Do this by paying attention to what you feel, sense, and experience when listening to the message. Does the information feel right in your heart, does it cognitively go in straight, do you have a physical catch or block to the information?.
Your spirit, mind, and body sensory guidance system guides you to the truth – it cuts through the internal negative or grandiose dialogue and allows truth to be revealed instantly when you are willing to actively listen and remain mindful and present. This is a type of listening with your third or inner ear. It is a hearing, feeling, knowing experience. It is multidimensional in that you know it in your mindfulness or unattached cognitions (understanding), feel it in your body (a sense of flow and ease) and hear it in your heart (a sense of ringing true).
Being present, connecting to listening, and the information, in a present-moment way that incorporates what you know (but discards insecurities, historical patterning in your relationships, and what you fear) is listening without attachment.
This uplevels your consciousness, truth is revealed and you may take action from an enlightening and powerful place to create relationships and environments that are prosperous. in love and light, beth