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The word Mantra refers to sacred words or syllables used repetitively in Vedic religious and ceremonial rituals.  Mantra is a religious or mystical syllable or phrase, typically from the Sanskrit language.

Historically, Mantras are used as spiritual conduits, words or vibrations that inculcate concentration in the devotee.  Mantras are also integrated in religious rituals to remove obstacles, avoid danger, or accumulate wealth.  Mantras got their origin from the Vedas of India.

The word Mantra is derived from Sanskrit:  Mantra contains two words – man which means to think (or mind) and tra which means tool, – instrument of thought.  I have also heard this interpreted as mind, and to deliver – to deliver the mind.

I think of it as a focusing tool that clears away obstacles and centers a person into their true (authentic) self.

The frequent repetition of a meaningful, spiritually coded word can serve as a stress management tool.  Studies have indicated that the use of mantras can induce relaxation.

The key is the meaningful, spiritually coding part.  In other words repetition of negative belief systems will increase stress related signs and symptoms, while repetition of positive phrases can decrease these signs and symptoms and create a space for the individual to focus their activity constructively.

Any prayer or phrase from a spiritual or religious text that has meaning for you can produce these results.

Mantras are energy-based sounds. The Indian metaphysical tradition explains that the body is composed of the combination of five elements and the first of them is sound.  I was trained in the use of sound from a Shinto (Japanese spirituality) perspective and have found that toning is one of the most effective and efficient methodologies in healing.

I am certain this is why singing and music can bring about a profound change in one’s attitude.

Studies in sound symbolism suggest that vocal sounds have meaning whether we are aware of it or not.

One’s subconscious mind can find its solution through meditation and recitation of mantras.  A mantra, when repeated constantly during meditation, first loudly and then through silent and mental chanting, changes one’s consciousness.

Other studies have shown that the use of a word or set of words can increase resilience and persistence in athletic endeavors.

This is also useful when dealing with challenging situations where you feel you have no power to change the situation at present but need to maintain a positive attitude.

And it can be utilized in academic endeavors as well to produce a refined focus and tenacity.

My first experience with this concept was de novo while practicing my ice skating jumps.  I naturally began to think a word to myself over and over to focus myself on an easy landing.  Release and smile.  I could see myself landing strong and then releasing my body into the famous arch and smile, arms gracefully yet firmly holding the pose before moving onto my next assignment in the routine.

While facing black diamond ski runs that made my heart race with fear I would repeat gravity is my friend, as I felt my body tuck into the familiar swish and turn racing down the bumps and trying to let go of my need to think about the turns rather allowing the mountain to move me effortlessly.

Pushing through my difficult breathing struggles while running I hear the words I breathe easily, and trust the process. Each gets me a little further before I feel my lungs shut down and I have to stop.

In the 80s and 90s people would refer to getting in the zone.

From my experience a mantra can get a person into a neutral place available for paradigm shifting.  It creates the opportunity for a mini-paradigm shift.

Rather than feeling the emotion or attitude that can block success or progress one has a clearing and a space to shift their thinking.  It creates internal space for thinking clearly and mindfully, to gather one’s forces toward an end rather than thinking habitually and reactively which will diffuse one’s strength and focus.

If you are faced with adversity that requires internal fortitude and strength use a mantra to help you get an attitude adjustment.

Some words that help:

Breathe. Believe. Love.

Some phrases that are useful:

Let go, trust the universe.

I can.

I am loved.

I am supported.

The attitude of gratitude.

If you have a scenario that seems to paralyze your actions, try these phrases:

You feel frustrated and overwhelmed:  everyone is doing the best they can.

If it’s about a project deadline:  I can do it – focus and breathe.

You feel insecure, unsure of your relationships:  I am lovable.

Beginning to feel a loss of control or loss of temper:  Breathe.  Love.  Allow others to be.  I don’t have to respond right now.

The trick to finding the right mantra is to find the word that produces relaxation and focus at the same time – the phrase that speaks to the unreasonable expectation or the fear and releases its hold on you.

As you focus on this you will find you get more efficient at choosing effective words and phrases.  It is actually quite fun.

I find this is a very effective tool for moving through difficult circumstances and quite manageable for children to develop an inner sense of peace and strength.

See you tomorrow.

Beth

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Meeting basic physical needs is paramount to a mindful attitude in life.  In my Book, 8 Habits to change your life, I write about creating habits that support health and well-being.  The basic requirements of food, water, exercise, breath, and sleep are predominant for wellness.  When an individual lives in a balanced way with respect to these requirements he or she has a great capacity to tolerate and defend against the negative effects of stress.

Often, sleep is the one aspect that seems to be discarded quickly without a thought to the negative effects of not maintaining good sleep habits.

Sleep is this great regenerative process built right into our genetic structure.

Sleep is helpful to spirit, mind, and body.  It transforms moody, difficult emotions into sweetness and stabilization.  It takes muddled thinking and creates clarity.  It takes tension and pain and creates smooth movement and pain reduction.  It works more efficiently than medication without side effect, yet it is the first thing that we discard when we are stressed physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

When we need it most we are most likely to deny ourselves sleep.

Often one does this due to really good reasons – but not if you understand the amazing, positive, healing, and maintenance aspects to sleep – then we would see we’re better off getting a bad grade or re-negotiating a deadline than missing out on sleep.

Sleep plays an important role in learning and memory consolidation.  In fact, sleep deprivation can result in memory loss and diminished fine motor and cognitive skills, impede response time in crisis situations and increase psycho-emotional problems.  Lack of sleep can actually create pain, and is a major contributor to pain syndromes such as chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia.

For children who are six years old and younger it is important to get about 10 – 12 hours of sleep, at least, more for babies and toddlers.  There is a direct correlation between lack of sleep and an increase in oppositional and aggressive behavior.  Children who have a long period of sleep deprivation also have more anxiety and depression complaints.   There seems to be a vicious cycle in sleep loss:  lack of sleep leads to anxiety and difficulty falling asleep which leads to less sleep.

A cue to the fact that your child is not getting enough sleep may be a lack of listening, spaciness, oppositionality, complaints about physical and emotional issues, and whining, especially if these are not typical behaviors for your child.

Children with sleep issues have difficulty with transitions and an increase in separation anxiety as well as difficulty creating an inner sense of structure.

Making sleep a cornerstone focus in your overall health plan is an important component for emotional and cognitive development, resilience, health, stress reduction, and success.

I think of it as making sleep your friend or creating space for sleep to happen on its own.

There are a number of things you can do to create useful and effective sleep habits.

First, make sure you try to go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day.  Turns out it’s not that great to short yourself sleep all week and then sleep in on the weekend.  We have something like a sleep bank so if you withdraw all week-long you will still owe even if you have a good long sleep one day on the weekend (or even both!).  An adult should get 7-9 hours of sleep a day; school age children about 9-10 hours, although some need twelve hours though elementary school.  Chinese Medical theory identifies an important cycle that suggests getting to sleep by 11 pm; this is also supported by evidence in Western Medical theory.

Next, drink several liters of water a day, that’s right about three liters.  Water is essential for cellular health – so being dehydrated causes headache, listlessness, dizziness, and believe it or not can affect your cognitive skills and cause pain and insomnia.

Next, breath.  Focus on meditation, yoga and exercise to keep your mind, muscles, and spirits integrated and working well.  Creating mini – meditation or breathing sessions into your day:  waiting on line at the supermarket, stuck at a traffic light or while waiting on the phone at work – all will help to keep you balanced and less tense.  Also essential for cellular and blood health.  Try to exercise at least 30 minutes a day or 5 – 6 hours a week.

Drink less alcohol and less caffeine (bummer I know).  Don’t smoke, anything.  And make sure you get enough protein from different sources, not just meat.

When you are dealing with a bout of insomnia try to stay calm.  Breathe.

Use the time to meditate, read, paint, knit, draw, or some other calming activity.  You may want to try yoga but avoid other types of exercise like push-ups or the treadmill.

Avoid TV and the computer just before bed (turn off at least 45 minutes before sleep). TV and the computer have lights that excite aspects of your brain so that it is harder to allow yourself to sleep.  And try to keep your bed solely for sleeping.  It keeps your mind on track that if you’re in bed it’s time to sleep.

If you have no allergic issues, the use of calming teas like licorice, chamomile, and lavender are great to bring down your heart-rate and get you in the mood for rest.  As are their counterparts in essential oils for smelling purposes. Eucalyptus and rosemary oils are useful if you are feeling the beginning of a cold, or some sort of illness.  Rose-geranium, clove, cypress, and tangerine oils are all helpful for over-thinking, fear, anger or obsessive thoughts that are keeping you awake.  Choose one to which you are attracted.  For children, lavender, chamomile and rose are soothing and bring a sense of comfort at bedtime.

Create a comfortable routine for sleep that includes a step-down in activity that begins one to two hours before sleep.  This is similar to what we do with our children and their bedtime routine.

Whatever you do, try to maintain a sense of structure without making it rigid because that increases anxiety and stress and detracts from the relaxing component.

Give yourself the benefit of sleep.  Rearrange your life so that sleep is higher on the to-do list.  You may find that making that change creates a ripple effect in altering your habits to increase your sense of balance in your life, and increases your success and effectiveness at home, work, and in your relationships.

Wishing you sweet dreams.

See you tomorrow.

Beth

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What would you do if you knew you would not fail?

I think this goes to the heart of what interferes with success.

There’s a lot of focus on doing what is expected, a tendency of avoiding being different or avoiding failure.  I think this limits a person.  It keeps them smaller than they really are.

A sociologist or anthropologist might say it’s part of the social mores to keep the group in-line.  This may be true; there needs to be some rule and order in social groups but as with many things too much can create a problem.  Maintaining a group sense is good to a point.  If we don’t make room for unique responses to problems then we don’t allow for creativity,  ingenuity, and invention.

Some of the best lessons and most rewarding gifts come from mistakes or failures.  I’m not advocating trying to fail but rather a view of seeing what the lesson of the failure is so that the next step will be a beautiful success.

Any successful businessperson will tell you they had some big failures before they hit it big,  It’s not just part of the mythology of success it’s a part of the way we develop.

I see this avoidance of vulnerability in relationship too.  It may be how the divorce rate could be interpreted.  A lack of honesty in relationship leads to being in a relationship that is unhappy and unfulfilling.

In my work with couples I encourage them  to make sure their real self is in the relationship.  Because then when they feel love they can feel it to their core.

It’s a calculated risk.

We want to be loved.  So we try to be what we think the other wants.  The problem with that strategy is that when we succeed in being loved it’s not us, it’s a less real us that is loved.

For some they can spend the rest of the relationship trying to get their full self into the relationship, renegotiating their agreements and their core ideals.  This can work when both parties are able to tolerate vulnerability.

The payoff is big if you risk vulnerability and win; but the cost can be dear if you lose.  When we express what we really want and it doesn’t occur it seems to hurt more than if we don’t actually try to create what we want.  In the latter case the loss is more the loss of a possibility.

Spending a lot of time and energy avoiding risky situations because we want a sure thing can be a smart strategy.  But it can backfire – forcing us into lives where we don’t have passion, or ambition, or feel alive.

I think it forces us to live a life that isn’t ours, not the one we were born to live.

And then there is the concept of risking vulnerability or being seen more on a spiritual level.  This is an aspect of being or doing that to which we are drawn but feel it isn’t smart, or responsible, or practical.  This is the area in which we have talent but it may pull on us spiritually in a way that connects directly to our core.

Think about how to bring in more of the aspect in which you feel most vulnerable but you feel you lack skills – it’s probably the area that will ultimately bring you the most joy or success because it’s probably the area you felt you needed to keep under wraps because it meant so much to you.

When I was 25 years old, I felt I had to make a choice between my artistic creations and my art/work of therapy.  The former felt a part of me, a deep aspect that defined me in an undeniable way.  The latter also felt connected to me but it had a more cognitive and external aspect that identified how well I could interact in the world.  The former I viewed as a talent the latter a skill – or rather a refined talent.

Although I had a great deal of my heart in my therapy, it was distanced from my central self – it was something I did – a doing; my artwork was all heart and directly connected to my core – it was more of a being – something I was.

At 25 years old, I chose to make my profession the therapy because of its distance from my heart and my sense of vulnerability there, but I wonder if I had chosen my art/writing if I would have found a deeper, more profound joy and satisfaction in my living.

My psychotherapy and integrative medicine practice has been that with which I negotiate the world.  The distance has allowed me to feel less vulnerable.  And I have found a modicum of success in that venture.

In this last year I have allowed my self to re-incorporate my artistic and writing adventures into the whole of who I am.  Risking vulnerability by writing.

In doing this I have felt an expansion in my personal being.  Incorporating both my therapeutic skills and my artistic talents to provide a wholistic approach to health and well-being that can positively affect a greater audience of people than those whom show up at my practice door.

May you find amazing ways to integrate that which you love and that in which you are skilled, and discover an expanded sense of self and purpose.

In order to do so think about the things that you are drawn to do but feel are impractical like being an artist rather than an engineer, and see if you can discover ways to incorporate that aspect of yourself into your work or way of being in the world.  You may find there is something just waiting for you to accomplish.

What would you do if you knew you would not fail?

See you tomorrow.

Beth

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I like to spend my stuck time in traffic in open-eyed meditation at the red-stop-light. This way I reduce my stress, time passes effortlessly, and I feel rejuvenated.  I notice this behavior seems to align me with the universe, and frequently as a result, I discover that something good comes out of it.

It’s all in going with the flow, rather than resisting it.

I have noticed that this is very effective with all types of obstacles.

Obstacles can be gifts if we can decode the lesson they are bringing to us.

This is tricky when the obstacle is standing in the way of something we Know we are supposed to create or something we really want.  It’s difficult to see them as gifts.  They look a lot like blockages from without.  And we want to respond to them in true five-year-old fashion:  stomping our foot and saying NO!

We can get confused by the blockage or obstacle. We get caught up in defining it; examining it; lamenting it; proving the obstruction.  This behavior keeps us stuck.  And it removes the necessary energy required to move through them.

If you take all that same intellectual energy to observe and identify the obstacle as a gift then you get the opportunity to move through it.  It opens us to the energy needed for its removal or transformation; to see the true nature of the problem.

When obstacles are observed and responded to as gifts they change form miraculously, it’s like magic.  Poof.

When I decided to begin writing it was in reaction to an obstacle.

I had written a beautiful description of a period of time that really changed my life, a Black Swan, a transformative event through which one must recover.  I had submitted it for publishing through a magazine contest.  I felt certain this was going to transport me into living the life of a writer, as I had hoped to create.

It was a powerful story and my writing was competent.  The day came when the winner was announced and it was not me.

I was devastated.  I felt the universe had let me down.  By not choosing me the magazine editors had put an obstacle onto my path.  I couldn’t become a writer if I wasn’t chosen.

Interesting perspective:  Not being chosen took away my chance at fulfilling my plan.

In reality the universe had given me an obstacle through which I needed to push to embrace my full self.  I had to choose to create my path.  It needed to come from within, not without.

In these kinds of circumstances, when we are faced with an obstacle, it is some aspect of ourselves that is being presented in some material form for us to resolve.

The question here isn’t who can you be, or who does the universe say you are but rather who are you and who do you want to be.

Obstacles, viewed as gifts, can present you with an internal dilemma that you may have hidden from yourself.  They may be external and material – but actually representative of a far greater, more intimate, spiritual issue which you need to resolve.

Right, bad traffic probably isn’t that kind of obstacle – but it is an opportunity to practice being in the flow with the universe so that when those other kinds of obstacles present themselves you can be practiced in the art of moving through them toward your true self.

This is one of the most powerful gifts we can teach our children. If they can perfect this behavior at a young age, of viewing an obstacle as a gift in some way, they can avoid all those negative social activities that interfere with their health and growth developmentally, intellectually, and spiritually.

Notice what gifts the obstacles in your life are bringing to you.  It may offer you opportunities to transform yourself into a better, more real you.

See you tomorrow.

Beth

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Creating space is an interesting process; it incorporates intention and action.

Space is physical; but it’s also energetic, psychological, and metaphoric in nature.

Clutter can be physical – like too much stuff making it difficult to move, mental – like old belief patterns that don’t serve you and make it difficult to think through things, and it can also be energetic – like agreements and time related commitments, that lock you into rote ways of being.

Needing a space to focus on meditation and be open for divine inspiration is part of creating space but needing the space to think is something more intangible.

When creating space you may find you get ready for change (intention) and then you have to get rid of the old wood (action) to make space for the divine to appear.  Or you are inspired to do something (intention) and then you create the space for it to happen (action).  This happens on the material/physical level as well as energetic and psychological levels.

We had this thick, overgrown, but very healthy juniper under our front window.   It didn’t require much attention and was green so it seemed to work in our yard.  But over the last few months I began to visualize that area as a place where I could create some space for us to be together and utilize our yard more efficiently.

Last year we had created a fantastic medicine wheel in our lawn, just in front of that juniper, with benches to allow for a meditative sitting environment.  It was an energizing change.  However, over time, the juniper felt too heavy in the space with the medicine wheel.  Outside the wheel it felt stunted.  The space allowed for focused, walking meditation in the wheel but there wasn’t space to have a meditative sitting experience or to utilize the area for other indwelling activities.

Even the living-room space inside the house, on the other side of the window, felt dense.  It felt as if there wasn’t any breathing room.

So we decided to Zen-i-fy the area; enlightening and thinning out the thickness of the bushes, allowing the light and air to move through the branches.

We cut out all the inner thicket of juniper so that you could see through the branches and only the tips were green.  It made the juniper have a buoyant and flexible quality rather than a stiff thickness.   And the entire area behind it became available for a tranquil and renewing meditation space.

The process was hard work yet we seemed to feel more rejuvenated as we progressed.  We felt en-lightened ourselves – all of us working earnestly on the project as a family.

I added small, secret places for my daughter to explore, wind chimes, and focal points for meditation and relaxation.  The result is a lovely, inviting, yet private space for us to dwell inward, individually and together.  Our dear neighbor has already come by and shared fairy tea with my daughter – quite healing.

Did this happen as a result of a yearning to create a space, an inspiration?  Or was it just an overgrown area that we just noticed because of the earlier changes?

The concept of creating space incorporates both a letting go and a focusing in, action and intention.

This space has been percolating in my mind’s eye for many months now.  And as a result little images of what could be, and how I want it to look and feel, keep popping out in front of me, sort of guiding me through the process.

My inspiration is a combination of a fantastic meditation garden in San Diego that I used to visit each year while visiting a dear friend, my neighbor’s amazing secret garden that she has continued to shape over the years, and a couple of superb, giant castle and royal statues made of framed stucco.

The San Diego meditation garden has an amazing spiritual and Zen feel to it with flowers and shaped bushes, ponds, and the smell, sound and view of the ocean for meditative focus.  My neighbor’s garden is like a hidden fantasy with live wild creatures and artistic creatures and plants of adobe climbing her walls.

My desire is to mix these various features and provide many spaces for meditative contemplation, discovery, and play.  Creating space without, to allow for space creation within.

Each change allows for the space to create anew my inner and outer environment.  I find myself releasing inner thought and habit patterns along with the release of the physical components.  The space for inward focus and transformation internally seems to be dancing along with the physical changes.  What a treat to watch it all unfold.

Clearing out the old wood aptly applies to the thinning and pruning of the juniper but it is also applicable to releasing thought patterns, belief systems, and habits that no longer serve one’s inner sense of self or divine purpose.

Space creation is required for any kind of transformation or re-formation, both from within and without.

Notice what thought or belief patterns that seem to be driving your unwanted habits.  See if you can dis-entangle the aspect of these that are basic to your values – that drive you forward toward your divine inspiration – and the parts that are dead wood that keep you stuck.

Then let go, set an intention, and create space to allow an inner transformation – you may find that you too require some physical de-cluttering as well to create space for your future self to be here now.  Or perhaps you need to only utilize the physical space that you already have in your environment to create a time-space to allow your inner transformation through meditation.

Creating space is a perspective issue.  It is en-lightening and rejuvenating.  It allows for your inner landscape as well as your outer landscape to change form in a dynamic way.

See you tomorrow.

Beth

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When I think of meditation I think of it as a form of connecting and listening to one’s inner being.  It allows for an inward focus.

Along with focused breathing and sitting meditation, there are various forms of meditation including repetitive physical activities, especially those that require focused or concentrated breathing, like yoga, hiking, walking, and running.

Whether sitting and meditating with focused breathing, or participating in physical activities, or doing household chores in a mindful way, the energy of breathing and focusing inward allows for the positive effects of meditation to occur.  These all feel similar to me, they each bring me inward while simultaneously connecting me to the whole of the universe.

They allow for mindfulness within my singular perspective as well as an inner clarity that we are all connected; it’s like a spiritual figure/ground experience.

Over the years I have discovered that inward focus is the most useful way to center and get a clear perspective on a situation.

It is healing; it is rejuvenating.

Meditation and yoga require focused breathwork.

Bringing the concept of focused breathwork to an activity can create a mindful, inward focused,  meditative form of activity.  For me many physical activities (hiking, gardening, painting, singing, running, fly fishing, ice skating) allow me to center, bring my attention within,  and focus my breath.

The act-ivity with mindfulness allows for me to breathe, center, connect, and let go simultaneously.  Being mindful activates the action, shifts the energy of it, so that it becomes a process whereby I can focus inward.

Breathing in and breathing out in a mindful way allows for a centering and connecting energy to focus one’s attention inward.  This in turn allows for our vision to change such that, what and how we see ourselves, or outside situations, has the opportunity to shift perspective and usually this shift is healing and rejuvenating.

Inward focus allows for the lens of our vision to change perspective.

This inward mindful focus allows for balance to infuse a situation.

I have used the activity of running as a meditative practice intermittently since my early twenties.  I prefer to run with my dog, and sometimes with music, to allow my unconscious to bubble up that which requires my attention.

The mindless repetitive action of moving through space at a comfortable breathing pace allows my mind to process whatever issue is bothering me, it allows a space for mindfulness. It makes the running the ground so that the issues that require my attention can move to the fore as the figure.  It allows for me to re-view situations, interactions, or problems that are unresolved.  Allowing for an inner space to see the issues from a new perspective.

I think it is the reason that I don’t run in races and have a bit of a recoiling response to the thought of doing so.

I have a very dear friend who is top of her game at every physical activity she undertakes.  She is awesome.  She began running recently and knowing that I run daily invited me to join her in training for a race.  I saw this as an opportunity to share in the running experience with a dear friend and so for a couple of weeks began to focus on training when I was running.  I found it to be de-stabilizing and frustrating – gone were my healing moments in my busy day where I felt connected to the universe – now there was speed work and pacing myself; rather than feeling calmer after my run, I felt a bit anxious and somewhat defeated.

I discovered that I run for meditation not for training.

My dear friend ran in her first race recently and took first place in her age group – it brought her a lot of satisfaction.  Me too for her.

My satisfaction for myself came outside the race, I had my daily meditative run and found my own inward focus to bring me the space to be at peace in my somewhat difficult world.

Knowing how to get to your center will help you to rejuvenate and deal effectively with stress.

And once you find those ways make sure you maintain your connection to them.  Finding space and creating space for inward focus and re-balancing goes far to diminish the negative effects of stress.

You may already have an activity that does this for you.  Something that you are drawn to do whenever you feel stressed.  Something that after you do you feel more balanced or rejuvenated.

It may be spiritual or physical in nature, it may involve a talent that you have but do not promote.  At any rate you will know it when you see/feel it.  Because it will have the tell-tale effects of lowering your blood pressure, bringing to you a sense of calmness and balance or simply result in you feeling a positive change in perspective on things following the activity.

Spend some time on inward focus and see if you can’t discover for yourself what meditative activities you already undertake and then build them in as part of your every day ritual.

It’s funny how the mundane is often a way into the divine.  Find your way in, and use it often.

See you tomorrow.

Beth

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Building memories is a beautiful way to build a structure of who you are and what matters to you.  What you choose to focus on to build the memory is often the defining element of how that structure will be experienced.

When you build your sense of self on the joyful experiences in your life then your foundation has its basis in joy.  If you build your sense of self on the trauma or things you have survived then your foundation will be on struggle.

This is not a Pollyanna perspective it is basic engineering.  The form takes the shape of the foundation.

To be successful and flexible it’s best to allow a balanced set of memories to be the foundation of your sense of self.  To allow the picture of how you survived and the whole-ness of the gift of the struggle to be incorporated with the joy and successes in your life.

I like to talk about setting into memory a picture of what it feels, looks, smells, and sounds like when everything is perfect, and in place, in your life.  Then you have a marker to go to, to remind you of the success you can create or experience.

This is like setting an imprint into your cerebral cortex so that you can re-create it in the future regardless of your situation – aligning what it feels like with what it looks like and the outcome so that you can access the feeling senses that go with success.

When I was a child, nine to fifteen years old, I was a competitive ice skater.  I awoke at 4:30 to go skating before school and then went directly to the rink after school to practice more before dinner.  I loved being on the ice.  It was the most liberating experience.  To this day, gliding across the ice brings me a sense of connection to the universe that I don’t feel anywhere else.

I had a wonderful coach who was kind and firm.  Each time I learned a new jump or move I seemed to naturally get it right, landing gracefully and effortlessly.  Then my ego and mind would get involved trying to repeat the event – what a tragedy.

It took me the longest time to learn that my being knew the way and I just had to get my head out of the way.  The memory of how it felt right in my being and body was my best way to perfect my skill.

Memories serve a purpose in several ways.

First, to help us keep connections from past to future.

Second, to mark success and mistakes to allow for learning and integration of experiences; to remind us that we have the capacity to create joy and survive trauma and loss.

Third, to create a structure of who we are in the world and a pathway to success.

The sweetness of a memory can shift our perspective, provide us with strength and purpose, and remind us of the whole of who we are.

Take the time to consciously set into memory your successes, your joyful experiences, your remembrances of sweet interactions, and your capacity to move through transitions with transformation and learning.  It will enrich your life and build a stable and flexible structure for your growth and well-being.

If it is difficult to keep these in your mind start out by writing them down in a special journal that you remove and peruse when you find your energy waning.

You will find that you are the best author of the beauty of your life if you give yourself a chance to write down these moments of perfection, these perfect moments of joy and experience.

They can be the best antidotes to anxiety and depression because they are perfectly aligned with your being, your needs and capacities,  as they come from within your being.

See you tomorrow.

Beth