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The gift of obstacles

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I like to spend my stuck time in traffic in open-eyed meditation at the red-stop-light. This way I reduce my stress, time passes effortlessly, and I feel rejuvenated.  I notice this behavior seems to align me with the universe, and frequently as a result, I discover that something good comes out of it.

It’s all in going with the flow, rather than resisting it.

I have noticed that this is very effective with all types of obstacles.

Obstacles can be gifts if we can decode the lesson they are bringing to us.

This is tricky when the obstacle is standing in the way of something we Know we are supposed to create or something we really want.  It’s difficult to see them as gifts.  They look a lot like blockages from without.  And we want to respond to them in true five-year-old fashion:  stomping our foot and saying NO!

We can get confused by the blockage or obstacle. We get caught up in defining it; examining it; lamenting it; proving the obstruction.  This behavior keeps us stuck.  And it removes the necessary energy required to move through them.

If you take all that same intellectual energy to observe and identify the obstacle as a gift then you get the opportunity to move through it.  It opens us to the energy needed for its removal or transformation; to see the true nature of the problem.

When obstacles are observed and responded to as gifts they change form miraculously, it’s like magic.  Poof.

When I decided to begin writing it was in reaction to an obstacle.

I had written a beautiful description of a period of time that really changed my life, a Black Swan, a transformative event through which one must recover.  I had submitted it for publishing through a magazine contest.  I felt certain this was going to transport me into living the life of a writer, as I had hoped to create.

It was a powerful story and my writing was competent.  The day came when the winner was announced and it was not me.

I was devastated.  I felt the universe had let me down.  By not choosing me the magazine editors had put an obstacle onto my path.  I couldn’t become a writer if I wasn’t chosen.

Interesting perspective:  Not being chosen took away my chance at fulfilling my plan.

In reality the universe had given me an obstacle through which I needed to push to embrace my full self.  I had to choose to create my path.  It needed to come from within, not without.

In these kinds of circumstances, when we are faced with an obstacle, it is some aspect of ourselves that is being presented in some material form for us to resolve.

The question here isn’t who can you be, or who does the universe say you are but rather who are you and who do you want to be.

Obstacles, viewed as gifts, can present you with an internal dilemma that you may have hidden from yourself.  They may be external and material – but actually representative of a far greater, more intimate, spiritual issue which you need to resolve.

Right, bad traffic probably isn’t that kind of obstacle – but it is an opportunity to practice being in the flow with the universe so that when those other kinds of obstacles present themselves you can be practiced in the art of moving through them toward your true self.

This is one of the most powerful gifts we can teach our children. If they can perfect this behavior at a young age, of viewing an obstacle as a gift in some way, they can avoid all those negative social activities that interfere with their health and growth developmentally, intellectually, and spiritually.

Notice what gifts the obstacles in your life are bringing to you.  It may offer you opportunities to transform yourself into a better, more real you.

See you tomorrow.


Author: instinctivehealthparenting4u

Author, Integrative medicine practitioner, psychotherapist. Albuquerque, NM practice, focus on return to balance and the integration of spirit, mind, and body through meditation and mindfulness. Monthly trainings, & professional and personal development coaching. Find more on my website Read my books, Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (, for increased internal wellness and alignment with your spiritual purpose, and to activate joyous love and light, bg

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