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Thank you to the sweet and loyal followers to this blog! You are each a treasure in my life! It has been such a lovely collaboration, to write and create a space for support and learning regarding self-development, mindfulness, paradigm shifting, mindful parenting, and an evolution of consciousness.
A number of people have asked for a book on relationship/partnering that offers useful, insightful guidance. So it is almost here.
Here is a preview: Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness; Shifting competition and narcissism (ME) to collaboration and connection (WE). It delineates quick and easy tools for developing profoundly successful relationships in work, home, and love.
Intertwined within these strategies are ways of re-setting, re-focusing and re-aligning your internal compass to create a new space for collaboration and connection while allowing space for your personal self to grow along with your relationship/partnership. It focuses on an integrated spirit, mind, body approach dealing with communication, context, paradigmatic beliefs, and form. And, it offers ways to shift out of various forms of thinking/seeing/communicating and contexts that are unhelpful, do a disservice to you in relationship, or interfere with connecting and collaboration.
When you look at the letters M and W you can see that within their form you find a closing off (M) or an opening up, connecting quality. This is a synchronous image. The general characteristic feeling of the words ME and WE and the behaviors of dependence, independence and interdependence are represented in this synchronous view of the letters. This offers an imprint image to show you how to shift your perspective. Me is singular, self-oriented, and individualistic, even narcissistic or competitive (consider the statement standing on my own two feet); while, We is plural, inclusive of other’s needs, open to information, and collaborative (consider the statement We can get through this together, each pitching in).
ME is an important developmental station in development. It is a required station. You can’t get to WE without developing ME, first. In childhood, your first developmental relationship is Dependent in nature. Then in young adulthood you develop a sense of Independence. Partnering requires that you have developed a sense of Interdependence.
Unfortunately some people get stuck at ME unable to continue their development to incorporate a sense of WE, or interdependence. This requires a wholly formed sense of Me that is not rigid or intractable but rather is solid and firm with an openness and flexibility. Negotiation is a WE interaction. Compromise is a ME interaction. There are different forms of how WE can relate in groups and some of these do not fit outside of certain developmental stages or are related to habits that don’t serve you. Co-dependence is a skewed perspective of WE, it is not a true WE experience. This is a situation where the core ME has not efficiently developed – so it’s really two incomplete MEs with a tenuous thread between them.
Shifting ME to WE is a paradigm shift like an inversion in Yoga, a head stand that allows an evolution of consciousness development.
This book has a lot of innovative, new information not previously published. Although there are a few expansions on blogs previously seen on this site, the majority of the information is a new vision about relationship incorporating information on how we view and look at partnering in relation to security, belief systems, support, connection, exchange patterns, and paradigmatic belief structures (like romantic love).
It is a lovely companion to my first book, Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness. For those of you who have read that book, thank you for all of your supportive comments. A few of you have left comments on Amazon.com and Barnes & Noble.com about that book, thanks, these are great support for others to see the benefits of the book. Anyone who has read the book can leave a comment and the site appreciates them, as do I. Another way you can show support is to like my page for the book on Facebook.
So the arrival date for Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness is just around the corner. Thanks for your support and I hope this new book meets your needs and offers the information you desire – I think it will. in love and light, beth