Using mindfulness in your interactions and decisions gives you a broader perspective.
It allows you to see the ramifications of your actions in a way that is akin to seeing into the future. Through this broader perspective you can see a long way into the outcome of actions today.
How does that happen?
It is a function of allowing your vision to become clearer about the way in which connections happen between phenomena. This can only happen from a neutral, observing, interested focus – the lack of push from ego ( I want or it is) allows you to be open to an underlying relationship or interaction or truth. Sounds kind of esoteric, I know but let’s examine how it may work.
Think about those pictures at the mall with all the different colored dots. When you first look at them they don’t seem to represent anything but if you stare at them in a relaxed way an image begins to appear. The seemingly unconnected dots begin to connect and a picture appears. If you try very hard to see the picture you see only a mass of different colored dots but if you relax and allow the connections to reveal themselves you see a ship or hippo or some other recognizable image. This is a type of mindfulness – it incorporates the action of allowing, observing with interest but not a preset notion of what is there.
Observing your own action and the actions of others in this relaxed, neutral, calm, interested – mindful – way allows you to perceive a recognizable pattern or outcome. If you are trying very hard to see something then nothing will present itself; but if you are open to an outcome and simply follow the thread then you will be able to identify several potential outcomes or one outcome.
Following a thread includes paying attention to word choice/meaning, energy, non-verbal cues, sound, and timing. It includes actions and speech that a person takes and uses directly with you as well as what you observe of that person with others. It includes how they present themselves verbally and non-verbally in various situations.
An example is to notice how an other is responding to your success. Is that person able to align with you or does he respond in a competitive way? Does he shift his energy as you get closer to a goal from being focused on your success to an energy of co-opting your actions to create success for himself. The former action is one that comes from a person who perceives himself as successful and whole; the latter action is a person who perceives himself as small and needing to fight to maintain an equal position with you.
Observing behavior in this way, and incorporating your observations into an internal mindful perception without judgment, allows you to have a view into the outcome. It increases your understanding of the unspoken aspects of relationships in general and the specific relationship being observed.
It provides an understanding of the parameters under which you can depend on that other person. This allows you to guide and direct your own actions accordingly and without malice, fear, or disappointment.
The concept of risk changes when you apply mindfulness to a situation or relationship. This is due to your increased capacity to analyze risk with respect to your actions, the actions of others and various situations.
With mindfulness you simply have access to more information and more layering of behavior and emotion. You feel more empowered, more free to create interdependency successfully and less reactive, dependent, or fearful.
This is the figure and ground concept from a layering and sociological perspective of history and biography that is present in all human communications and interactions.
Mindfulness allows you to center yourself, your experiences, and your actions, so that you may have a 360 degree view of the situation or circumstance. This increases your view into the outcome.
Be willing to observe, take in information, and respond from a neutral, interested, and peaceful perspective; this will increase your opportunity to have a view into the outcome and increase your ability to take an action that is consistent with your observations and your centered-self requirements.
See you tomorrow.