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En-joy now



Think of two defining moments in your life.

What is the basic emotion underlying each?

Things that stop us in our tracks and teach in this definitive way are either stern and painful or joyous.  Both are teachers but what they each teach shifts a person’s focus down different paths, one more limiting and one more expansive.

I encourage you to practice learning through joy.

When you feel joy your heart opens.  It is naturally expansive.  Joy unlocks your heart and guides you through your feelings to create more joy.

Singing can do this, especially if you are singing songs that bring you into a state of joy.  There is a softening, a slight sweetening of the experience.  It allows you to move into a neutral place or even to increase a fondness toward another or an event or a situation.

Mindful meditation has the same result.

Our emotions and senses are our guidance system.  They are navigators of our life experience.  We want to move away from negative feelings and move toward joyous ones.  This is an excellent guidance mechanism, however sometimes in youth or under defining circumstances this can result in a misinterpretation that creates a habit reaction pattern.

If you have a defining moment that sets into place a should or should not it creates a trigger that says if this, then that – so that a habit reaction is developed.  The habit reaction cannot be shifted without a re-set of the should or should not equation, if this, then that.

A trick to re-set it is to get into neutral or to get into joy. This is a trick because it is a way of getting under the habit reaction pattern to tip it on its head.

Think about driving your car.  You put it into Reverse to back up and into Drive to go forward.  In the middle is a gear called Neutral.  In neutral you cannot go forward or backward.  Getting into neutral allows for the space to decide which way you need/want to go.  It gives you space to evaluate the situation and then choose how to respond rather than just following the set pattern of one gear or another.

Mindfulness, just being with the situation, not allowing the should or should not equation to take hold, is very useful in releasing habit reaction patterns.  Mindfulness can allow for an acceptance and an observation of the situation and your emotions without a reaction to them – just taking note.  This allows for the space to decide, to allow, the next step to take place.

Mindfulness has a neutral intent to it, but it seems to open ones heart in a way that is similar to joy because it expands ones inner awareness and sense of connection.

Practicing mindful meditation increases your capacity for joy and shifts the energy of a situation as you practice paradigm shifting.  This disallows habit reaction pattern formation and dissolves habit reactions already in place.  It is a lovely practice to allow experiences to be joyous.

Learning through joy has this expansive quality such that growth is perceived as easy and enlightening.

This is most difficult to practice when the situation is loss, sadness, disappointing, fearful, or angry.  Practicing mindful meditation allows for space so that all aspects of the situation can be observed and evaluated and set in time in such a way that a positive joyous energy can be ascertained.  It incorporates a cycle of life and time that reinforces  a knowing that just as things desired are lost new opportunities are found.

This is acceptance of the way.  It centers you in your life.  Things past, the present, and things future.  As you move through your life each experience is centered in your life such that it is not an ending but in a cycle and continuing along a path.

Defining moments feel like endings, and may be completions but they are also beginnings into the next cycle, or centers of whole experiences.  When you choose to learn through mindful meditation and joy you can center yourself into the right perspective so that you can see the whole of the defining experience and its true place in your inner landscape.

Choosing to learn through joy allows for your heart to lead and guide you – not the heart meaning human love of another, but rather the compassionate, lovingkindness heart of your spirit.

Mindfulness meditation is a heart centered action.  It incorporates mind and spirit together.

Practice learning through joy.  Apply mindful meditation to your defining experiences.

En-joy now.

See you tomorrow.


Author: instinctivehealthparenting4u

Author, Integrative medicine practitioner, psychotherapist. Albuquerque, NM practice, focus on return to balance and the integration of spirit, mind, and body through meditation and mindfulness. Monthly trainings, & professional and personal development coaching. Find more on my website Read my books, Turning NO to ON: The Art of Parenting with Mindfulness, Turning ME to WE: The Art of Partnering with Mindfulness (, for increased internal wellness and alignment with your spiritual purpose, and to activate joyous love and light, bg

2 thoughts on “En-joy now

  1. This is much the way Nia dance is taught. You find pleasurable sensations in your body and let them lead you. If your body doesn’t feel good as you dance, something needs to be changed. This was a reaction to ’80s high-impact aerobics that blew out people’s joints and hurt them. It’s fairly unusual, even now, for people to think of deriving pleasure through exercise, let alone to allow pleasure to teach them.

  2. Pingback: How to develop a practice of internal spirit-self-communication « InstinctiveHealthParenting4u's Blog

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