Trust is a funny combination of belief, intuition, proof and alignment.
What makes a person trust is sometimes something as simple as a feeling within. The way a person feels, how a situation clicks or how something looks right.
For me it’s kind of like a song that’s in key – things are flowing and there is a sense of the direction.
When it’s out of sync it’s like there is a blip in the energy – like a skip on a cd.
Have you ever listened to someone say something and you knew they were lying or withholding some bit of information – because as they spoke it was off in a subtle way. I think that is what a lie detector picks up on, these subtle shifts in energy.
That feeling is something that is related to intuition or detailed, close observation. If you trust that, then you are developing a deeper, cleaner, hyper-awareness that can guide you efficiently in your decision-making.
And trust is a function of what happens when there isn’t a lot of blips in the energy between two people; it builds on itself so that when you have a long time of flow one can weather something being off.
Our senses are connected to our brains to offer a set of stimuli that help us judge which path is correct. This is true for both mundane and profound tasks. The more we allow the information from our senses into our decision-making, the more effective our decisions can be. So when something doesn’t feel right or when it does feel right we know in which direction we need to proceed.
Part of the trick here is to recognize when we are feeling a habit reaction pattern based on fear rather than true stimuli that can direct our way.
Meditation, prayer, and breath-work all allow quiet, breathing space and time to maintain a strong connection to self, and our center through our sense awareness. These tools are important to maintain clarity to tell the difference between fear stimuli that are the product of habit reaction patterns and true sense awareness stimuli that offer a direction in our decision-making.
Trust is both trusting oneself and trusting others in relationship. Trusting oneself is listening to the sense awareness information and taking action on it. Trusting others is a function of looking for congruency between words and actions.
A wonderful exercise to develop your connection to your sense awareness in real-time is to ask yourself what am I feeling right now. The best way to develop this is to have an attuned ear to when you are feeling this doesn’t feel right. This is a subtle feeling like the hair on the back of your neck standing up or an internal sense that something is off.
This is information that is not verbal but feeling in nature.
Our right brains take in information as wholes and within context, like image imprints, which is why we can feel something is off but to describe it verbally, analytically, takes longer processing time. That’s our left brain activity.
Trust is a right brain activity that is then translated into words and left brain concepts.
It’s our right brains that tell us something is in sync whether it be visual like a painting, musical like a symphony, olfactory like a lovely perfume, or tasty like our favorite recipes; what makes it work is how we take it in from our right brains. When something feels off, and we key in on it, then we engage our left brain analytical ability to evaluate what is, and why is, it off.
To increase our speed in interacting often we short-circuit this right brain activity that lets us know something is off, focusing more on the left brain activity of verbal and analytical analysis – until there is an actual break. We are not trusting what we know and often we pay a price for it. Then we often can say – oh I should have paid attention to that weird feeling I was having when that person said/did x,y or z.
The more we develop a space for meditation, prayer, breath-work and focus on our sense awareness – the less we short-circuit our connection to our right brain activity so that we can trust our actions and feelings in making-decisions.
Belief, intuition, proof, and alignment are the processes that develop, support and maintain trust. They create and support our actions and responses, our willingness to trust ourselves, others, or to take action to re-align with our inner self.
If you are faced with a difficult decision, using mindful meditation and direct observation skills will help you to make the best decision and trust that it will bring you forward on the best course of action.
See you tomorrow.