Compassion is a powerful word. It is active. It is a way of being in the world.
It can bring others together to create peace. Peace in relationships. Peace in families, betweeen children and parents. Peace between countries. Peace in the world.
In order for compassion’s healing power to work those engaged in relationship and dialogue have to be in a mindful state.
A mindful state, not a righteous state. A mindful state is a listening state not a teaching state. It’s having your senses on receive and integrate, not send and conquer.
Compassion requires the ability to see figure and ground simultaneously and to shift paradigms with flexibility; it requires congruency between one’s words and one’s actions.
Peace isn’t going to present itself between parties that are each sending their righteous verbiage toward each other, or through proving your point.
Peace comes from fully understanding the other person’s point, and fully understanding your own, and then mindfully looking for connection points, where those two points connect.
It requires an earnest communcation, asking questions, delving further, all the while with a suspended sense of belief, and a focus on understanding.
To get to understanding one must make efforts to explain meaning and not assume that a word has the same meaning for both parties. Inflection, and non-verbal statements too, must be fully evaluated and understood.
It requires the listening and understanding part happen first, then the focus on connecting.
Denying the other person’s perspective and jumping to let’s just see where we agree is not peacemaking; it doesn’t result from understanding. It’s a false form of looking for agreement, and an actual form of ignoring another person’s position, concerns.
Compassion is a two-way street, it’s a way of being in the world – an attention that you put to every thing in your life – yourself, your child, your partner, your teacher, your guide, your leader – all need compassion.
Apply a compassionate attention to interactions and relationships and see if you have a clearer, fuller understanding of them and yourself.
It may allow for more of what you want to happen, not less. The energy of all working together, unified as one, is powerful.
Compassion, mindfulness, and seeking understanding increase connecting points so there can be unification, not as clones but as a transformed, thoughtful, mindful, response– able group.
See you tomorrow.