Hello and Welcome! There is a lot of reference of the negative of the “ego” among alternative healers and spiritual healers. These groups tend to perceive the ego as negative; this is a matter of not understanding the role of ego in self-development, and further of mis-connecting ego and narcissism.
The story of the ego to which I refer is its identification in the development of self, and each person’s interaction with self and other. The ego is that aspect of your personal self that can mediate between your personal wants disconnected from society and your belief systems swallowed whole from society. Ego basically is mediating between individual wants or needs and the needs or wants of the group. So from this perspective ego is a neutral more helpful aspect of your personality. It is the part of you that can be objective and see self and other on the same plane.
Narcissism is a more problematic aspect of personality. Narcissism is a skew in personality away from mindfulness and neutrality and objectivity. Narcissism is problematic in relationship as individuals who are narcissistic have little to no capacity for empathy.
Empathy is the shear act of paradigm shifting – putting yourself in another’s position and understanding that other’s perspective. Mindfulness, lovingkindness attitude and paradigm shifting require empathy. Lack of empathy disconnects you from society and others. Narcissism allows you to take actions without regard for how you may hurt another and focuses your actions on self alone without a connection to society as a whole.
Your cognitive mind has a way of tricking you. It is a thinking aspect – with cognitive firings and logic. It is that aspect that can get caught into a habit of relating, or be guided by indoctrination. You can think of mind as an aspect of the information available to you as part of your inner guidance but when it is disconnected from spirit it can skew perceptions and actions out of balance.
These groups that teach you their language and then have you act by that set of symbols and beliefs are having you work with your mind while simultaneously saying your ego (aka mind) is guiding you away from your true self – which from their specific perspectives is whatever they are teaching. Be aware. Allow yourself to trust yourself first.
Ego allows for the integration of mind and spirit as it allows for empathy and negotiated action that synthesizes individual and groups needs/wants.
The simple rule found in so many spiritual texts to not treat others as you would not desire to be treated incorporates ego, mind, spirit integrated and in balance – it requires empathic lovingkindness guide your action.
Guidance from without must be filtered through your inner guidance to experience its truth.
Truth is not an abstract concept to be discussed and proved through the cognitions of the mind in isolation, but rather it is something that is a trifold experience of knowing, feeling, and understanding.
You can feel when it is not truth. Something doesn’t ring true, look right, feel right. There is a catch in how the information goes on or a blip or bump – if you are paying attention you know it – you fully and completely know it.
The tricky part is the paying attention part.
If you are simply on automatic and going through life as a passive receiver then you may miss the information present in every interaction, in each dream, and story, and connection you make or have. This includes how you respond or react to the story of your politics, your family, your ethnic group, your partner, and your peers. The stereotypes you allow to guide you rather than the personal information you feel, hear, see, know from within.
Paying attention requires attentiveness, awareness, openness, and a willingness to follow the inner thread of inner guidance. To risk discovery of new information, change your opinions, and allow truth to be revealed.
Each person is unique when born. Each life has a unique path. Each being is special. Each of us is a child of source energy, of god or spirit. Each has access to source energy through the source guidance built into her cells, into her internal sensory system – her six senses.
These are always present within you and speaking to you all the time if you would just listen.
You actually are constantly being directed through your inner guidance through these messages; when you feel like something that someone says is off then that is a message from within. Paying attention to these messages through your intuition, your inner hearing, seeing, knowing, feeling. This is the fastest and most effective way to get onto your path and create your life fortune.
The truth will set you free and following your bliss will indeed bring you success.
So here’s an important message – if you are not doing what you want or living at your highest potential – go within reconnect through you internal guidance system with yourself. You can use prayer, meditation, Yoga, running, ice skating, walking, dancing, writing, journaling, dreaming, sound, toning, therapy, or anything that assists you in connecting with your inner truth – but the key is that whatever you use your guide is within, not without, and the answer is personal, empathic, and loving.
When you begin to listen, pay attention to the subtle, gentle messages in the background not the angry, emotional loud messages in the foreground.
Your personal inner guidance will generally not yell at you unless you are about to have a car accident. Otherwise it’s just a quiet, firm yet light message or vibration turn here, let go, trust, believe, and ooh that doesn’t feel, sound, look right.
And give your self/ego a break – your ego is trying to mediate all your inner wants and outer expectations – have a little empathy, love and kindness toward yourself while you begin to acquaint yourself with your inner guidance.
Thanks for your continued interest and support, please pass on this information as you are guided to do so – more joy for everyone, in love and light, Beth